Finally gave up on looking, then it happened

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    Mar 29, 2010 11:25 PM GMT
    About a year ago I ended a 11y relationship, I'm one of those guys who's never been single for more than 2 weeks prior to my breakup, 11y, 7y and 4years. I've been seriously looing for a guy to date and was finding nothing, about 2 weeks ago,something clickd in my head to just stop looking and enjoy being single, so I mentally gaveup on looking.

    Last week I met a guy who is so damn perfect, tall, shaved head, masc,in great shape, furry chest, loves to dance, hold hands, healthy livestyle, great voice, no hangups about sex, has been in a LTR relationship (thats an important one for me) We just clicked right off the bat, almost like a perfect fit, we talk and it just flows, same value system, looking for the same things in another man.

    We danced and chatted for several hours, he'd contacted me thru adam and we made plans to meet at the club, didn't know much about him as we only made casual plans to meet.

    We didn't fool around on the first date, which kinda turned into a major disaster, went to the club with my buddies and had a few too many, lost my buddies at the club (huge complex) my keys and phone were in my buddies car, so had to explain all this to him and so he gave me ride home and I didn't have my keys to get into house, roommate was dead asleep and he watched me banging on the door, The whole time I was thinking, I giveup, then meet Mr Right and now he's seeing all this drama....

    Next day I figured I'd just let it slide and not call, then he called me and told me I was so damn funny and he knew it wasn't normal for me to be in that type of situation and he wanted to see me on a normal date, now we talk twice a day and he's comming over for the weekend

    Guess when you seriously give up looking it reall does happen

  • NyRuinz

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    Mar 30, 2010 12:11 AM GMT
    Yeah agree, I say put all that energy in to yourself and you will attract the right guy in due time.
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    Mar 30, 2010 12:19 AM GMT
    Awww. I liked reading your story. Very nice hope things workout. icon_cool.gif
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    Mar 30, 2010 12:22 AM GMT
    Yay
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    Mar 30, 2010 12:29 AM GMT

    That was great shortmuscleguy, lol, thanks for sharing it! icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 30, 2010 12:35 AM GMT
    Awww crossing my fingers for the best for you icon_smile.gif
  • RSportsguy

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    Mar 30, 2010 12:46 AM GMT
    Wish you the best Shortmuscleguy!! icon_biggrin.gif
  • MuscleComeBac...

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    Mar 30, 2010 1:02 AM GMT
    Wow! I LOVE this story so far...please, please keep us posted. It's just ....wow. He's seen you at your worst, come into your life entirely unexpectedly and at a very vulnerable moment, and ...wow, just, wow.
    Keep the faith, SMG. And stock that fridge with water for the weekend.

    Oh, and IF you feel like adding something in the update about how he took you tango dancing (because two men, doing the tango-- and I mean DOING THE TANGO...hey, improbable, but really, if you can just lie to me and say you did, this will be THE best bromantic comedy I've gotten hooked on in a long, long time)

    Rooting for a great Act 2!
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    Mar 30, 2010 1:08 AM GMT
    Shortmuscle, your post put a big smile on my face! I can't wait to hear how this weekend works out. Keep us posted!
  • mrcpu1

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    Mar 30, 2010 1:28 AM GMT
    It is true - when you least expect it, it happens.

    When you try too hard, you end up with a broken heart.

    Let it happen, live life to the fullest and you too will meet that special someone unexpectedly.
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    Mar 30, 2010 1:29 AM GMT
    Congrats buddy. I guess in the end patience does pay off. Hope this one isn't like the last two crazies you had to deal with (I mean that in an endearing sarcastic complementary way so just laugh, ok).
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    Mar 30, 2010 2:30 AM GMT
    happy for you icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 30, 2010 2:47 AM GMT
    He lives hour and half away, we just spent two and half hours talking, we connect on so many levels, it's freakish, he loves short furry guys, I love tall furry guys, he's LTR looking, like to share from his heart and really opened up to me and for me, a guy whos intouch with his feelings and emotions and can express himself, thats more attractive than anything else....more about the simple things in life etc.....

    My friends are having an Easter Party, so I asked him to come as my date, he said he'd be honored, then I told him that the fun part of the party is that everyone makes these crazy easter bonnet hats to wear and that he would have to make one.........(I know it's not real butch, but funnier than hell) He asked me what some of the other people were making and told him one buddy was making a Leather S&M Easter Bunny Bonnet, another was a hat covered in just eggs.....

    Let me recap the events he said, you were buzzed, lost your keys, lost your phone, needed a ride home, locked out of your house and now your asking me on another date and you want me to make and wear an Easter Bonnet.......Then he started laughing and said he'd make one and wear it to the party.......
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    Mar 30, 2010 2:50 AM GMT
    Great story. Have fun on the weekend - and let's hope it's a quieter one with no mishaps. Progress reports for all of us?
  • kennyj08

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    Mar 30, 2010 2:51 AM GMT
    Match made in heaven?


    I HOPE THINGS GO WELL icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 30, 2010 2:54 AM GMT
    congrats, and from the way you describe him, I bet he is a keeper(& a stud )
  • silverfox

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    Mar 30, 2010 2:57 AM GMT
    shortmuscleguy said....... I'm one of those guys who's never been single for more than 2 weeks prior to my breakup, 11y, 7y and 4years.

    .........Guess when you seriously give up looking it really does happen



    Well there it is my man.
    You had a chance to stand on your own 2 feet. In the past, you went from relationship to relationship without having a chance to be........you.

    And then when you get comfortable enough and confident enough to say that you don't need anyone..it happens.

    Great story!
  • Celticmusl

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    Mar 30, 2010 3:03 AM GMT
    < Biting his tongue, but praying for the best.
  • ja89

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    Mar 30, 2010 3:04 AM GMT
    hmm funny as i was listening to this song, i saw this post. i think it might be fitting for this story. Its good to hear of others findings of love. Smiles and heart filled joy to you. Enjoy the music as well icon_smile.gif

  • masculumpedes

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    Mar 30, 2010 3:06 AM GMT
    I'm very happy for you my friend......best wishes to the both of you. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 30, 2010 3:13 AM GMT
    You guys are so damn thoughtful, thanks to each and everyone of you! Whats funny is we were both kinda stumbling around about saying it, but neither of us did, but for me it was love at first sight and he hinted around at the same....I'll post pics of the Easter Bonnet thingy....I know it sounds campy as hell, I'm seriously a naturally masc guy, ex military so this is so far out in left field for me, wait for the photos
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    Mar 30, 2010 3:17 AM GMT
    Congrats man! I have always said when you rush for things to happen you will get shit in return. Great things happen when you least expect it! Im hopeful my turn will come! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 30, 2010 3:23 AM GMT
    Hate to be the old bug-a-boo here, but .... ummmm....one date? ... icon_eek.gif
  • Celticmusl

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    Mar 30, 2010 3:59 AM GMT
    Caslon14000 saidHate to be the old bug-a-boo here, but .... ummmm....one date? ... icon_eek.gif




    That's how every great relationship starts I hear.

    Now I am sure the OP does not have my luck. My luck is usually I fall in love and then find out two weeks or two months later the guy is already in an LTR.
  • MuscleComeBac...

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    Mar 30, 2010 4:16 AM GMT
    My husband and I spoke twice, before we met. Seven hours on the phone the first night, six the next. We've been together for sixteen years, and we were in love before we laid eyes on each other. No joke. I was afraid to tell friends, because I was sure they'd have me committed to an asylum. We joke that we had a lesbian love affair - we moved in together inside of three weeks. It was, in a word, insane.
    The ensuing years have been, in the same word, insane, and I wouldn't trade a minute. I have regrets, he has regrets, but change anything ....no.
    Believe. First in yourself, then in the value of you, then in the impossible, and then in the man who makes you feel....well, insane!


    BTW, Easter Bonnets are very butch in certain circles, so don't let anybody fuck with your hat parade!