If you weren't related to your brothers or sisters, do you think you would become friends with them or not give them a second thought if you met them?

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    Mar 30, 2010 11:05 AM GMT
    I don't think I would be. We are too different from each other. We would travel in very different social circles. I love them all but I don't think we would be friends if we weren't born into the one family.
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    Mar 30, 2010 1:41 PM GMT
    My half sister and I are completely antithetical to one another. She is a loud extrovert and I am a quiet introspective person. Because of our differences in life outlook and the fact that she is eleven years my senior, I have serious doubts about a friendship if we were not related.
  • Timbales

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    Mar 30, 2010 1:43 PM GMT
    My sister's husband is very close to his brothers. Recently, they all traveled together for a wedding - my sister, her husband, his two brothers and their mom. When they got back, we were talking and I said I could handle a vacation with my sister, but not my older brother and sister. That would be a nightmare.

    As we are getting older, I just find we have less and less in common to talk about.
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    Mar 30, 2010 1:53 PM GMT
    My two sisters and brother don't have anything in common with each other besides our sick sense of humor (thanks dad) so I guess not.

    My younger brother gets in trouble with cops quite a bit, my youngest sister is a corporate career type, my other sister is settling down and I'm the artsy-bohemian type. I have friends in all social circles but I don't see myself being friends with my siblings if we weren't related, we don't talk that much as it is. But on a different note, I always thought if I was born a girl, I'd look exactly like my sister lol.

    Interesting topic though.
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    Mar 30, 2010 1:57 PM GMT
    I would only be close and friends with my middle sister whom I talk to every week. The other three we would not be friends at all heck we are not even friends now we're family. The only reason why I tolorate them is because we are family.
  • rnch

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    Mar 30, 2010 1:59 PM GMT
    my next to brother and sister, yes.

    my youngest brother....i'd drop his name and number in the nearest trash can as soon as he was out of eyesight.
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    Mar 30, 2010 2:01 PM GMT
    prob wouldnt give him a second thought because he is a hippie with long hair and a frat guy and i tend to not hang around with that crowed.
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    Mar 30, 2010 2:42 PM GMT
    I barely talk to my siblings as it is.. if we weren't related, we definitely wouldn't care to know each other. It kinda sucks
  • Celticmusl

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    Mar 30, 2010 2:46 PM GMT
    I'm just glad they are my siblings and have them in my life. If they were complete strangers and not related to me, I'm not sure if I would have too much opportunity to know them since they are much older than me.

    My oldest sister is a school teacher so I think I could say with all honesty that I would love to have her as a teacher back in gradeschool.
  • iHavok

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    Mar 30, 2010 2:51 PM GMT
    I actually think if we hadn't grown up together, there's a good chance we'd be closer than we are now.

    Odd.
  • calibro

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    Mar 30, 2010 2:52 PM GMT
    hmm,.. my brother, no... but he's the attractive one in the family so i might think him hot if he weren't my brother... my sister i would get along with
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    Mar 30, 2010 2:57 PM GMT
    My sister's in an abusive relationship, which is terrible. She takes it out on her son, which is worse. I can't deal with her issues of denial. I haven't seen her son in close to 10 years, partly b/c she doesn't want her son to be around a "fag," which is funny considering she's a dyke and her abusive partner is another woman.

    My brother's a drug addict who lost everything, including his three boys and wife, a high six-figure salary, a beautiful home ... his entire life has been destroyed thanks to opiates. His life makes the television show, Intervention, look like Sesame Street.

    To answer your question, no. I don't speak with my siblings at all. I certainly wouldn't choose to have them as friends. I moved to NYC to get away from people like that.
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    Mar 30, 2010 2:59 PM GMT
    I have a great sister and we have always gotten along very well. I'd be her friend even if we weren't related.

    I also have two brothers. Each of them has gone to dope. Each of them has stolen from me. Each of them to this day sponges off our parents. Neither of them has finished school (too smart!) or had a decent career. Neither of them has had a home of their own or a car or furniture our parents didn't buy for them. Neither of them was asked to mow a lawn or make a bed - or any other chore growing up. I've tried to be a good brother to them both - even up to very recently, but have gotten nothing but bad treatment. I guess I should just give up and forget it. After our parents are gone, I don't plan on speaking to either of these guys ever again.

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    Mar 30, 2010 3:04 PM GMT
    I would probably never speak to my middle sister if I wasn't related to her, and my oldest sister I refuse to speak to regardless.

    My oldest sister (when we were still on speaking terms) chastised me for working towards my CPT certification and said I was wasting money on a gym when she saves by doing P90X (along with some other unwarranted nasty things). Yeah... and guess who I saw last week at MY gym waiting for a personal trainer to design her a routine.
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    Mar 30, 2010 6:00 PM GMT
    Probably not. And now I has a sad
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    Apr 08, 2010 3:31 AM GMT
    I have one older sister and she's awesome. Yep, we would hang out for sure!
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    Apr 08, 2010 3:36 AM GMT
    Don't like em' now wouldn't like em' if they were strangers.
  • Sparkycat

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    Apr 08, 2010 4:02 AM GMT
    This is a great question. No, I have nothing in common with my younger brother and older sister. It's challenging to have a conversation with them.
    why then do we try so hard to hang onto family members we don't like or connect with?
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    Apr 08, 2010 4:08 AM GMT
    Totally agree that this is a great question. My brother and I are very different people in our approaches to and goals in life; but, personality-wise, we're very similar. I'm fairly sure that's a huge tribute to our upbringing, but I'd imagine if we crossed paths, we'd probably hang out, get beers, and shoot the ish together.