Inexperience with guys, a turn off?

  • hikerC

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    Mar 31, 2010 12:09 AM GMT
    Hey Guys, I have been reading the forums and I have really come to enjoy them, and appreciate the words of wisdom from all of you! I am new here, and already feel like I am among friends. I have no experience dating other guys, I am hoping all that will change sooner rather than later. Is my inexperience a turn off? Is that alot of pressure for a guy I am with? Or should I just forget it and act all confidant and hope for the best? Not sure how to present myself. Thanks for your advice!! icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 31, 2010 12:14 AM GMT
    oh just go for it. Enjoy every minute and go with the flow. :-)
  • IdkMyBffJill

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    Mar 31, 2010 12:19 AM GMT
    You will find a large number of guys are at least "concerned" about those who have minimal dating experience... but don't stress. It'll be fine.
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    Mar 31, 2010 12:20 AM GMT
    Not a problem. Be yourself.
  • DCEric

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    Mar 31, 2010 12:51 AM GMT
    Who cares? If it is a problem there is only one way to fix it.

    Nothing hurts more than doing nothing. Get out there.
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    Mar 31, 2010 12:59 AM GMT
    Welcome to RJ

    We all had to start somewhere.

    Best bet is to be honest up front; although, most will know you’re a newbe.
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    Mar 31, 2010 1:00 AM GMT
    DCEric saidWho cares? If it is a problem there is only one way to fix it.

    Nothing hurts more than doing nothing. Get out there.


    I agree.

    And my personal experience when I came out, was that some guys LIKED the fact that I was new to the whole guy on guy thing.
  • Import

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    Mar 31, 2010 1:02 AM GMT
    if anything I find "inexperience" a turn-on. . .
    I mean, I know inexperienced men prob don't have any STDs. They haven't been jaded by certain gay people. They're almost never bitter. Shit, I wish I could find me an inexperienced man.


    Its almost the same principle as how certain str8 guys want virgoins. . they want purity- people that haven't been tainted. icon_smile.gif

  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 31, 2010 1:10 AM GMT
    Inexperience can be attractive... what makes it all positive or negative would be their degree of confidence.

    When I first got involved with my bf.. I was absolutely inexperienced with men... I attacked him on the 2nd date.. of course I had to perfect the art, but
    I never lacked confidence. He thought I was a liar to begin with, but realized I had no prior experience. It was just "built up"... LOL
  • hikerC

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    Mar 31, 2010 1:14 AM GMT
    Thanks for your posts guys! I really appreciate your advice!
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    Mar 31, 2010 1:14 AM GMT
    dont worry . i have NO experience with guys. NADA
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    Mar 31, 2010 1:17 AM GMT
    Just remember - there is a first time for everything. I recommend getting out there and exploring but don't feel pressure to rush and do anything you don't feel ready to do.
  • hikerC

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    Mar 31, 2010 1:17 AM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidInexperience can be attractive... what makes it all positive or negative would be their degree of confidence.

    When I first got involved with my bf.. I was absolutely inexperienced with men... I attacked him on the 2nd date.. of course I had to perfect the art, but
    I never lacked confidence. He thought I was a liar to begin with, but realized I had no prior experience. It was just "built up"... LOL


    I can see something like that happening to the first guy I end up with! I've been waiting for this for a LONG time! icon_twisted.gif
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    Mar 31, 2010 1:27 AM GMT

    Everyone's gotta start somewhere. Be yourself and when the rt guy comes along it will make no difference. Welcome to RJ. Who knows the rt gy might be a click away..........

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    Mar 31, 2010 2:36 AM GMT
    More important than experience is chemistry to me.
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    Mar 31, 2010 2:38 AM GMT
    Please dont fall in love too quickly with the first guy you get with..
  • barriehomeboy

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    Mar 31, 2010 2:38 AM GMT
    Virgins are always more attractive than sluts. Stop posting this question, an go meet some actuall guys!
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    Mar 31, 2010 4:54 AM GMT
    I'm a virgin and I'm not losing it until I have met someone I'm 100 percent comfy to get naked with - and I love.
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    Mar 31, 2010 4:55 AM GMT
    I am new too and I haven't had a repeat customer yet, but that may be because the BFs would be upset.
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    Mar 31, 2010 4:57 AM GMT
    I don't mind acting as a teacher if they're hot?