I WANT YOU .....

  • masculumpedes

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    Mar 31, 2010 4:24 PM GMT
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    "I want you."

    A phrase heard all too often in the context of sexual desire. Flattering, somewhat, but in a way, not. When a man tells me this, it flashes through my head, "Sure, he wants me now... but will he want me when we've had an argument?"
    Someone's desire to be with you sexually is an ego-boost; that's a given. I want people to be attracted to me, yes... but it's not ultimately what I want.

    I'd much rather hear a man say "I want you" in the context that he wants to be with me, talk with me, spend time with me, cheer me up when I'm down, have me there to lift sorrow and stress off his shoulders when he needs it... I want to hear "I want you" as in "I want you to share your life with me, and I want to share mine with you, no matter what happens."
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    Mar 31, 2010 4:28 PM GMT
    I'd much rather hear a man say "I want you" in the context that he wants to be with me, talk with me, spend time with me, cheer me up when I'm down, have me there to lift sorrow and stress off his shoulders when he needs it... I want to hear "I want you" as in "I want you to share your life with me, and I want to share mine with you, no matter what happens."


    That's what I've always thought it was used as. Then again, actually using my head to think about it, I could see it the other way.

    I actually remember having a 2 hour conversation about just this, too. These topics your making hit home with me for some reason. I need to get OUT. icon_lol.gif
  • masculumpedes

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    Mar 31, 2010 4:30 PM GMT
    Thanks for the reply and the affirmation....I'm certainly glad I can identify with someone on here icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 31, 2010 5:02 PM GMT
    I do not throw out the phrase "I want you" haphazardly since it holds strong meaning that should never be diluted. When I use the phrase, I use it in the sense that I want to spend my life with that person - through the good times AND the bad because I love him so much. I want to be there to prop him up when he needs it just as I hope he's there for me when I need it.....because we are partners, and I would do anything to help him. I do not use the word in a sexual context.
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    Mar 31, 2010 5:08 PM GMT
    I agree - - - it is great hearing a guy panting in the throes of passion as he's going for the buttons on your jeans........in a hoarse voice saying, "I want you."

    It is far better though, I agree, to have someone hot who "wants you" for life!

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    Mar 31, 2010 5:18 PM GMT



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    Mar 31, 2010 5:19 PM GMT
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    Mar 31, 2010 5:27 PM GMT
    Unless it's from someone who has seen me at my best, my worst and all the in-betweens, those words (as well as "I love you") scare the shit out of me.

    I always think, "Want/Love me? You don't even *know* me."

    Words to my heart, "I want to know you"... regardless of where we end up.


  • irishkcguy

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    Mar 31, 2010 5:30 PM GMT
    Soulasphyx saidI'd much rather hear a man say "I want you" in the context that he wants to be with me, talk with me, spend time with me, cheer me up when I'm down, have me there to lift sorrow and stress off his shoulders when he needs it... I want to hear "I want you" as in "I want you to share your life with me, and I want to share mine with you, no matter what happens."


    That's what I've always thought it was used as. Then again, actually using my head to think about it, I could see it the other way.

    I actually remember having a 2 hour conversation about just this, too. These topics your making hit home with me for some reason. I need to get OUT. icon_lol.gif


    I totally agree, I've always found the phrase "I want you" to imply more than just sexual desire. To me it implies wanting all of somebody and not just the sex parts.
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    Mar 31, 2010 5:37 PM GMT







    I WANT YOU

    I wonder how you're feeling
    There's ringing in my ears
    And no one to relate to 'cept the sea
    Who can I believe in
    I'm kneeling on the floor
    There has to be a force who do I phone
    The stars are out and shining, but all I really want to know...
    Oh won't you show me the way
    I want you ...show me the way
    Well, I can see no reason
    You living on your nerves
    When someone drops a cup and I submerge
    I'm swimming in a circle
    I feel I'm going down
    There has to be a fool to play my part
    Well someone thought of healing, but all I really want to know...
    Oh won't you show me the way (everyday)
    I want you ...show me the way
    I want you day after day
    I wonder if I'm dreaming
    I feel so unashamed
    I can't believe this is happening to me
    I watch you when you're sleeping, and then I want to take your love
    Oh won't you show me the way (everyday)
    I want you ...show me the way
    I want you day after day
    Oh won't you show me the way (everyday)
    I want you ...show me the way
    I want you day after day
  • jrs1

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    Mar 31, 2010 5:42 PM GMT
    there are different personal values for people raised in different venues ... but what remains clear is intent. when someone says the words " I want you " it could mean as much as him saying " you're a good sh_t. " some phrases I don't understand as compliments ... but all that means is that there is more to learn.

    I've noticed an increasing use of the words " I want you " to signify ' I want to have sex with you right now (i.e., I want your body at this moment for my own) ' ... it can be nice to be physically objectified every once and again ... but I try to not to gain personal substance from the views of others. I need to do that for myself. I am in agreement with the previous posters.

    nice thread.
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    Mar 31, 2010 5:44 PM GMT
    The only time I've heard those words in my direction only has to do with the fact that they want my body, usually just for the night. It's not a bad thing though...
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    Mar 31, 2010 5:46 PM GMT
    I have no problem using "I want you" in a strictly sexual sense but I am not often moved to that state of deep, deep abandon.
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    Mar 31, 2010 6:01 PM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidI have felt it ...
    I have said it ...

    I have meant it ...


    ...me too... about a cheeseburger. icon_eek.gif
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    Mar 31, 2010 8:29 PM GMT
    Celine Dion anyone? (classic mushy song but nonetheless, a classic)

  • masculumpedes

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    Apr 02, 2010 8:04 PM GMT
    Pianist saidI do not throw out the phrase "I want you" haphazardly since it holds strong meaning that should never be diluted. When I use the phrase, I use it in the sense that I want to spend my life with that person - through the good times AND the bad because I love him so much. I want to be there to prop him up when he needs it just as I hope he's there for me when I need it.....because we are partners, and I would do anything to help him. I do not use the word in a sexual context.


    A very interesting reply Mr. Pianist......I believe I would like to discuss this with you over a double espresso icon_wink.gif
  • gumbosolo

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    Apr 02, 2010 8:15 PM GMT
    Heh, it's odd but I can sincerely say that I've never said that for the sole reason that it is too strongly tied to song lyrics in my head to have anything to do with daily life.
  • masculumpedes

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    Apr 02, 2010 8:17 PM GMT
    gumbosolo saidHeh, it's odd but I can sincerely say that I've never said that for the sole reason that it is too strongly tied to song lyrics in my head to have anything to do with daily life.


    Aw come on dude....and HEY! Thanks for the comment and stop being a stranger handsome guy! icon_wink.gif

    (Remember, you're one of the very first guys I met when I first started on this site......hee, hee....)
  • gumbosolo

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    Apr 02, 2010 8:22 PM GMT
    Don't you worry, Mr. prehensile pianist. I'm not around a lot lately-- March was a lot of bad luck and injuries and commitments-- but things are looking up and I'm never far off.
  • gumbosolo

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    Apr 02, 2010 8:23 PM GMT
    And you can attn: your comeondudes to Elvis Costello and Third Eye Blind primarily.
  • masculumpedes

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    Apr 02, 2010 8:26 PM GMT
    gumbosolo saidDon't you worry, Mr. prehensile pianist. I'm not around a lot lately-- March was a lot of bad luck and injuries and commitments-- but things are looking up and I'm never far off.


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    Apr 02, 2010 8:30 PM GMT
    "I want you"...so much more trustworthy than "I love you" (yeah, right) or "I need you" (too needy)...besides, words just get in the way, sometimes... icon_wink.gif

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    Apr 02, 2010 8:31 PM GMT
    I want to be wanted and I want someone purely for my own selfish reasons.
  • masculumpedes

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    Apr 02, 2010 8:32 PM GMT
    turbobilly said"I want you"...so much more trustworthy than "I love you" (yeah, right) or "I need you" (too needy)...besides, words just get in the way, sometimes... icon_wink.gif


    Wow....Are you really from Pennsylvania?....You sound like such a southern gentleman....icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 02, 2010 8:39 PM GMT
    From Ft. Lee, Va...icon_exclaim.gif