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  • bsings

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    Apr 01, 2010 6:00 PM GMT
    How big a deal is the age difference? What do people think is acceptable. I've always been against age differences. But, I'm 21, and there is this 17 year old i've been talking to. I realize i'd have to wait till he's legal before anything physical happens. As a 21 year old, is four years too much?
  • Daniepwils

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    Apr 01, 2010 6:12 PM GMT
    Age is all relative. My last two boyfriends have been in their 40's (they looked ten years younger though), at the time I was 24, now 30.
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    Apr 01, 2010 8:03 PM GMT
    meh, most likely that guy is old enough to make his own decision(wow one year)...just dont take advantage of his naivety.
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    Apr 01, 2010 8:22 PM GMT
    ah, that's a weird age transition : 17 and 21
    so maybe you'll find there's a huge gap in attitude, even experience.
    as between let's say 21 and 25 , it's not even a concern.

    mind you, for me now 17 is a bit of an abstract concept.
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    Apr 01, 2010 8:37 PM GMT
    I think its Cool . My Boyfriend is 15 years younger . Just be honest and communicative .
  • chris_dallas

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    Apr 01, 2010 8:41 PM GMT
    4 years is no big deal and depending where u live it mite b legal like in md it is legal
    wen i was a little younger i dated a 27 year old...bad idea becasue he ended up being a lune and was a pathological liar and just an awful person but i didnt see past his fake persona till i was already hurt...but i moved on and its all good nowicon_smile.gif
  • calibro

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    Apr 01, 2010 11:23 PM GMT
    my first boyfriend was 32 when i was 19, and it was a great relationship. jail-bait is another story though... plus it can be hard when you want to go out and it's only 21 and up
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    Apr 01, 2010 11:43 PM GMT
    Age matters less than personality, maturity level, and other more important factors. Probably my ideal match will be within 10 yrs on either side of my age, but I'm open to other possibilities.

    My only concern about dating someone older, is that I am young for my age (not immature) and like to do things like ride roller coasters and be silly. Will someone age 59 still be into stuff like that? If you're out there let me know, LOL.

    I'm more interested in who you are, not your age, body, or penis size.
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    Apr 02, 2010 12:05 AM GMT
    It really depends on the individual in question. For me I'd like to stay within my age range because it's familiar and comfortable to me. I'm not staying I wouldn't date someone who is 10 years then me especially if the connection and chemistry was great but it's not something I'm gonna force upon myself to experience.

    For you being 21 and your potential mate being 17 isn't that big of a deal age wise. It just limits you if you have plans of wanting to go to places where age restrictions are present.
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    Apr 02, 2010 12:25 AM GMT
    bsings saidHow big a deal is the age difference? What do people think is acceptable. I've always been against age differences. But, I'm 21, and there is this 17 year old i've been talking to. I realize i'd have to wait till he's legal before anything physical happens. As a 21 year old, is four years too much?


    Age discrepancies follow a logarithmic scale. The younger you are, the narrower the discrepancy should be.

    At your age, 4 years older than you is OK, but 4 years less is not.

    At my age, dating a 137-year-old is actually within my net.
  • BlackBeltGuy

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    Apr 02, 2010 12:26 AM GMT
    my first and I had a 17 year age difference. i was 19 and he was 36. worked for 5 years but cheating didn't fit into my mix so it was a toss out. Everyone thinks it was a "daddy" thing and it wasn't at all. he was hot, fuckable.. plain and simple
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    Apr 02, 2010 12:43 AM GMT
    bsings saidHow big a deal is the age difference? What do people think is acceptable. I've always been against age differences. But, I'm 21, and there is this 17 year old i've been talking to. I realize i'd have to wait till he's legal before anything physical happens. As a 21 year old, is four years too much?


    4-years is definitely not to much however as you rightful recognize 17 is way to young. Here's a formula to consider....

    The difference between the younger and older one must be at least that number of years above the age of 18. Using your situation for example the ideal match would be the younger at 22 and you at 25. Beyond 30 I think it becomes less important (hopefully at that point you would be looking for 18yo's) icon_wink.gif

    Bottom line I don't think age difference makes a difference when combined with common since.
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    Apr 02, 2010 2:19 PM GMT
    What do you think? Do you see yourself pursuing a relationship with him regardless of your age difference?
    I don't think it's a big deal though there might be different objections from people and differences in regards to a generation gap but with a 4 yr gap I doubt that you wouldn't be so dissimilar to each other.

    I've seem inclined to go for an older guy but the one thing that really annoys me about some of them is that they mention that they're old enough to be my dad. I don't know if it's about flattering themselves, some kink they have or stating the obvious icon_mad.gif lol
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    Apr 02, 2010 2:47 PM GMT
    I remember being obsessed about this sort of thing when I was in my 20s. In truth, I don't think it makes a damn bit of difference however I have found that those closest to my age are the easiest to communicate with because it just seems as though with similar life experience comes similar goals, understanding of each other's situation etc. Don't sweat the number if you have a unique understanding of this person that seems to fit.
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    Apr 02, 2010 3:02 PM GMT
    AncolJ94 saidIm 16... What do u think?icon_eek.gif

    I think you're lying or you are asking for trouble. You shouldn't be here, little boy.

    As for me, I see no major problem with an age gap. While 17 is young, he's at least old enough as far as the law is concerned (in this state that is) and he's not that much younger than you are. As long as you both treat each other with respect, I think it's okay.
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    Apr 02, 2010 3:10 PM GMT
    This forum is so helping me. right now. I am talking to a guy who is 19 and I am 29 so thats not really bad and for some reason you guys have given good pointers there. He is really a great guy and we mesh well. Wish me luck!
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    Apr 02, 2010 3:38 PM GMT
    I wanna date someone like 15 years older than me. That would be interesting. lol
  • rnch

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    Apr 02, 2010 5:06 PM GMT
    my last longer term bf was 6 years older than me.

    my current long term bf is 9 years younger than me.

    age is just a number on the driver's license...it's what's inside the man that is important; not some number/ icon_cool.gif
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    Apr 02, 2010 5:18 PM GMT
    I was 18 when I dated a 44 year old. No biggie.
  • PRDGUY

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    Apr 02, 2010 9:12 PM GMT
    AGE......



    It just doesn't matter!! There is a 9 yr difference [he's younger] w/my suk bud. And have a 19 yr old stalking me as he loves to suck cock and he's way in the closet.