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    Apr 03, 2010 8:10 PM GMT
    I've been seeing a guy and initially it was a bit touch and go (mainly him thinking I was going but I'm still here). So about 3 months in he gets retrenched (laid off) and off he goes to think things through in another province (state), now we haven't really been keeoing in touch much, from my side I don't want to s'mother' and i can appreciate he needs time but we haven't discussed the way forward either. The last time we spoke he 'mentioned' he may go off to another province to work, may come back, may........ I'm a little frustrated and want clarity, am I going to be an ass if I force the issue?
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    Apr 03, 2010 8:13 PM GMT
    He's not that into you, that is clear. Time to move on.
  • BlackBeltGuy

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    Apr 04, 2010 1:40 AM GMT
    stay strong and meet the right dude that will compliment you and want to be with you. i would let this one go, and long distance is hard
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    Apr 04, 2010 1:51 AM GMT
    After my last boyfriend I decided i had enough with the ones who can't make up their minds! if I were you I will move on and find someone who is closer and doesn't live you hanging all the time, that kind of relationship, if you want it call it that? is bound to eventually die out sooner then you think. So please give yourself a favor and strive to find stability in your love life!


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    Apr 04, 2010 2:06 AM GMT
    DexterN saidI've been seeing a guy and initially it was a bit touch and go (mainly him thinking I was going but I'm still here). So about 3 months in he gets retrenched (laid off) and off he goes to think things through in another province (state), now we haven't really been keeoing in touch much, from my side I don't want to s'mother' and i can appreciate he needs time but we haven't discussed the way forward either. The last time we spoke he 'mentioned' he may go off to another province to work, may come back, may........ I'm a little frustrated and want clarity, am I going to be an ass if I force the issue?


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    Apr 04, 2010 2:19 AM GMT
    I am confused. Does SA have provinces or states?
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    Apr 04, 2010 2:34 AM GMT
    DexterN said I'm a little frustrated and want clarity, am I going to be an ass if I force the issue?

    No, it's the only thing you can do at this point.
    Hookups are easy to find but real connections are much harder to make. When you think you have made a connection it's very hard to let go even when there are lots of reasons to think you should. In this case the OP has given little sign he values the relationship as much as you do. Forcing the issue is what you need to do to help understand what you need to do next.
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    Apr 04, 2010 7:48 AM GMT
    Thanks for all the constructive advice guys, I guess I was just confirming what I already know to be true. icon_sad.gif
    PS: South Africa has provinces.
  • Gonlrdy

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    Apr 04, 2010 10:04 AM GMT
    Being made unemployed is tough to handle, most men are defined by their jobs, so maybe he does need time to think.
    If you think you should make contact do. Tell him what you are hoping will happen between the two of you. Give him the information factually and see how he comes back. If you sit and think you already know the answer, but the truth is better than supposition and hypothesis.
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    Apr 04, 2010 10:18 AM GMT
    I have a friend who went through something similar. Right now I know he's finding it difficult, they were together a while, but the more I find out about their relationship the more I think he is better off without his ex.

    If this guy has headed off to another area of SA and not kept in contact with you then I say walk away from it. You gave him some time which was good but now it's his turn to give you reassurance or to just be honest with you.

    If you're looking for something real then I'll give you the same advice I gave my friend "Don't settle for someone who isn't willing to do for you what you're willing to do for them".
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    Apr 04, 2010 11:00 AM GMT
    "Don't settle for someone who isn't willing to do for you what you're willing to do for them".

    My partner and I were in different cities when we met through a personal ad. When I said to him I'd move to Dallas, he came to Florida the next day and never left. He said that anyone willing to move for him was worth it. Celebrating 8 years on Friday

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    Apr 04, 2010 3:12 PM GMT
    Woo hoo! to bigsmiles! Right. On.


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  • Celticmusl

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    Apr 04, 2010 3:21 PM GMT
    It's unfortunate that you will feel like an ass if you force the issue. But being in a similar situation I understand. Last time I had an "internet boyfriend" and wanted to get a few things straight after not addressing certain items for literally months, when I brought up the subject he began his return email: "I thought we already addressed this issue" like nothing ever changes and you can't talk about anything that has to do with how you feel about one another.......ugh.

    Move on, Can you possibly imagine being in an LTR with someone so afraid of his own emotions? He should have been able to express his point of view to you and his intentions long before now.
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    Apr 05, 2010 5:13 AM GMT
    _Brandon saidJust move on and find the man who really is right for you!
    Good luck!icon_wink.gif


    _Brandon said
    Hillie saidWow, What does that say about you? all the guys that took the time to read and support you only to find out it's copied and pasted frm another website.....SICK. and why do you end every sentence w/ lol? what are you 12yrs old? Not to mention you and your alter ego SONY are one and the same. lol


    All people???...don't make me laugh!!!icon_lol.gif...Are u really disappointed?...why?...because I'm happy and my topic is not real?
    Sorry about that!...I know how much u hate me and how u want see me dead!,but doesn't matter what u think about me!...about sony...he's not come back because of u...but I still chating with him sometimes, he's in other website...anyway...I don't need make new profiles to say what I want about someone direct in their faces.I'm not u!icon_cool.gifanyway... don't loose your hope maybe one day you're able to see me "Six Feet Under" don't loose your faith!icon_lol.gif

    Take care...my false friend.

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    Apr 05, 2010 5:14 AM GMT
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    May 02, 2010 12:16 AM GMT
    joshnyc saidaliensex12.jpg


    Wow!!!...you just can't stop to thinking of me!!!,lolicon_lol.gif...Are you still hinding your profile my dear???...u don't have balls to show your profile online??? "Are you afraid of getting banned???"...anyway...it's not me who removed your shit my dear!,


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    Apr 04, 2010 3:05 PM
    oh shitz....alienjizzdude got more than he could handle and he just done deleting and takin down his own thread....lolz
    and he done hiding his adult pic too...
    damn bitch....why u gotta take down the thread just cuz u look like a fool in it? ...lolz we wuz having fun a realjock match made in heaven : crazy bitchez volume

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    joshnyc
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    Apr 05, 2010 5:56 AM GMT
    crazy bitch just done taking down her other thread......for a second time...
    why u gotta take em down just cuz u look like a fool in em?....lolz

    and she hid all her pics too....no worriez....yo alien-jizzface is unforgettable

    joshnyc Posts: 1441
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    Apr 05, 2010 6:20 AM
    lolz....now u cant delete these threads

    joshnyc Posts: 2
    Apr 05, 2010 2:09 PM GMT
    hmm...long distance tends not to work imo.....there are some exceptions....but ceerruslay....who wants to be dating someone far away
    if i cant ravage the person i date.....ama look for a way out...more power to the ppl who make it work though.

    Just keep your empty/ insignificant thread for yourself!...cos I STILL HERE ANYWAY!,lol... sorry to say that! "cos I know that you really don't like to hear GOOD news about me!",lol...but... I'm feeling great!!!... better than ever!,lolicon_lol.gif

    Take care my false friend,please send my regards to your hypocrite buddies and don't forget to report me to all REAL JOCK Staff,Ok???...bye now!...time for me check others websites!icon_lol.gif

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  • mtneerman

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    May 02, 2010 12:48 AM GMT
    wow. Did I just make a wrong turn and end up in the 3rd grade?