Crush on a straight guy...

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    Apr 04, 2010 12:37 AM GMT
    Though I've yet to see this posted, I'm sure it has been. I have a crush on a straight guy. Not just because he's nice, but because he's my ideal guy in every other way too. Smart, driven, kind, funny, and humble.

    Has this happened to anyone else? Has anyone acted on it? Was it good? Bad?

    I feel I'm just gonna have an unrequited crush. Ugh. Any suggestions on how to get over him?
  • rnch

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    Apr 04, 2010 12:40 AM GMT
    kencarson saidThough I've yet to see this posted, I'm sure it has been. I have a crush on a straight guy. Not just because he's nice, but because he's my ideal guy in every other way too. Smart, driven, kind, funny, and humble.

    Has this happened to anyone else? Has anyone acted on it? Was it good? Bad?

    I feel I'm just gonna have an unrequited crush. Ugh. Any suggestions on how to get over him?
    find yourself an eqully smart, kind, funny and humble gay guy.

    surely they abound in NYC!

    judging by your profile pics; attracting gay guys should be of NO problem for you!

    crushes on cute str8 guys are exasperating and futile. icon_cry.gif
  • Timbales

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    Apr 04, 2010 12:44 AM GMT
    It's been my experience that when I have a crush on someone, the more I get to know them the less intense my crush gets. If he's a straight guy, and your friend, you have a few options.

    You can be honest about your feelings and let him know you need a little space to get past it. The bonus of that is you may find him interested in exploring a relationship with you.

    Or, you could just try to get past it without telling him, however you need to do that. I wouldn't get into a relationship with someone else, though, if you can't be emotionally available to him.
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    Apr 04, 2010 12:46 AM GMT
    timberoo is right - the more you learn about a person the easier it is to get past whatever idealized image you've created in your mind. pay attention to EVERYTHING, and focus on the parts that would drive you crazy. if you see your friend as a person again, rather than an object/target/quarry, you'll get back to the friendship, and THAT will last longer than 9 out of 10 romantic/sexual relationships.
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    Apr 04, 2010 12:47 AM GMT
    Yeah, hard not to have crushes on them, they are everywhere.


    I think it is pay back for all the straight girls that have had a crush on me.
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    Apr 04, 2010 1:39 AM GMT
    dancerjack saidtimberoo is right - the more you learn about a person the easier it is to get past whatever idealized image you've created in your mind. pay attention to EVERYTHING, and focus on the parts that would drive you crazy. if you see your friend as a person again, rather than an object/target/quarry, you'll get back to the friendship, and THAT will last longer than 9 out of 10 romantic/sexual relationships.


    Oh man, I've had to use that technique so many times. Good advice.