djl85 saidA little over a year ago one of my friends/roommates found out that I was gay when he found something on my computer. I feel like the incident made me take a hard look at myself and realize that hiding really isn't the answer. However, I have yet to tell anyone else, mainly because of fear how they will take it, but also because I haven't fully accepted myself. How long did it take you to accept and embrace who you really are?
The fear is in your mind's eye. In this country, you're not going to have too much trouble. Most folks don't need to know your sexual preference. It's honestly not a big deal, but, if you want to tell someone, tell them as if you consider it's normal (and, it is)....yeah, man, I prefer guys, and on to the next item. Quit worrying. If "they" take it the wrong way, you need new friends.
Go spend some time on a ranch or farm. Watch animal behavior. Study up on Kinsey. You're not abnormal; quit thinking you are.
Folks tell me..."Chuck, you're the coolest gay guy I know!" Well, thanks, folks. To me, and to my roomie, flex89, it's a non-issue. It's all about how you perceive, and present yourself. If you're guilted by false beliefs that there's something wrong with you, then, it'll show, but, if you come to like and ACCEPT yourself, others will follow. It's the way of things.
For those of us who've never lived in the closet, it's hard to imagine carrying around all that BAGGAGE. To us, it seems quite silly, and, when you think about it with some common sense, you, too, will realize that it is.
Understand, though, your sexuality doesn't need to be on your sleeve. Unless you're fucking your parents, they really don't need to know. Chances are they know, anyway. The only person that needs to know is the person you're getting it on with, and, in that situation, it's apparent.
We tell folks, though, in an effort to tear down stereotypes. Not all queers are weird. Some of us are pretty darn "normal."http://www.kinseyinstitute.org/publications/