Long Distance Relationships

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    Apr 05, 2010 1:41 PM GMT
    I'd like to dedicate this to all the guys I see on here in long distance relationships. You are amazing people, and show that in this big old world, so much is possible.





    -Doug of meninlove
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    Apr 05, 2010 1:54 PM GMT
    is there a queue somewhere? i need to sign up, teehee icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 05, 2010 1:59 PM GMT
    blue_ahli saidis there a queue somewhere? i need to sign up, teehee icon_biggrin.gif



    lol, I think that by being a member on Realjock, you have already! icon_wink.gif

    -Doug
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    Apr 05, 2010 3:02 PM GMT
    joshnyc saidhmm...long distance tends not to work imo.....there are some exceptions....but ceerruslay....who wants to be dating someone far away

    if i cant ravage the person i date.....ama look for a way out.icon_twisted.gif

    more power to the ppl who make it work thoughicon_cool.gif


    ..well, aren't we all exceptions to one rule or another? icon_wink.gif

    -Doug
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    Apr 05, 2010 3:04 PM GMT

    AWWWW You guys are sooooo cute for young kids icon_eek.gif Still 25 icon_wink.gif

    As joshnyc would say "ceeruslay" Both distance and age are the least of my worries getting to know someone and being in a relationship with them. Of all the other issues this is the easiest to change.

    First LTR was long distance at first lasted 8.5 yr until he died

    Second LTR was same city lasted 12.5 yr until he went brain dead.......all right just kidding......Hmmmm no I am not!
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    Apr 05, 2010 3:07 PM GMT
    im in a long distance relationship...
    if you read my profile you'd be like: Awww or Ehwww.

    Hahahah
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    Apr 05, 2010 3:08 PM GMT
    Babe alert.

    Hey guys...Roccoe is handsome, kind, smart, and not afraid to take chances or of distances. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 05, 2010 3:10 PM GMT
    ItsJhonnyBam saidim in a long distance relationship...
    if you read my profile you'd be like: Awww or Ehwww.

    Hahahah
    Yep, but only because the a music interrupted my eurotrance beats I was listening to.
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    Apr 05, 2010 3:21 PM GMT
    Wuoooops.
    Lol
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    Apr 05, 2010 3:40 PM GMT
    meninlove saidBabe alert.

    Hey guys...Roccoe is handsome, kind, smart, and not afraid to take chances or of distances. icon_wink.gif



    icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif

    icon_eek.gif You guys are now pimping me out!

    OK OK OK what corner is mine icon_redface.gif

    Oh not by joshnyc I'll wear the kid out icon_wink.gif
  • masculumpedes

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    Apr 05, 2010 3:46 PM GMT
    Long Distance relationships can be wonderful...just like the guy I am dating...36.gif
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    Apr 05, 2010 4:25 PM GMT
    I am possibly/may have already/hopefully just began a long distance relationship. I hope more than anything that something great comes of it icon_smile.gif I feel this post was just was a sign that there might be a chance icon_biggrin.gif Thanks!

    For now I'm just going to feel things out and hope for the best icon_cool.gif
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    Apr 05, 2010 4:29 PM GMT
    Thanks Doug (of meninlove)

    Two things I can say on behalf of myself and my man are first, that it can work (and quite well) and secondly, it will only be long distance for another month or so.


    Woo hoo!

    On behalf of the successful long distance relationship, there's only one way for it to work. That is with the idea that, if the relationship is solid enough to be the primary (though not sole) focus in both parties lives, then a common mutual goal of compromise and adjustment will be far easier to deal with. Simply basing a relationship on the fact that the

    - sex is great, or

    - the idea that HE is going to be the one to make all the compromises, or

    - that the you've only spent a few occasional weekends together and there have been no challenges to help you see how you deal with crisis together,

    then it's based on the fantasy of what you want it to be rather than what it actually is.

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    Apr 05, 2010 4:43 PM GMT
    Right on ibelong2me! This topic is about all of you guys. You inspire!

    -Bill and Doug

    PS and congrats to bgcat57 and jockbod48 at last making the distance shrink!
  • jrs1

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    Apr 05, 2010 4:46 PM GMT
    My man and I are far too new to contribute too much upon the aspect of long-distance wisdom, but ... effective and regular communication are essential.

    like bg, the two of us will not be long distance for too much longer and we are constructively mapping out things together.

    I couldn't imagine my life without him.

    thanks, god-fathers!
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    Apr 05, 2010 4:48 PM GMT
    I'm now involved in a somewhat short distance LDR hour and half away, but we plan on visiting each other everyweekend, it all depends on your mindset and your skills with making a relationship work, if the connection and desire is there, you'll make it work and when you do get to spend time together, you really start to appreciate the other guy
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    Apr 05, 2010 4:51 PM GMT

    Hey God-son (lol I love that)! Just showing up on the topic like you have is showing others this is not so rare, and more than possible. icon_wink.gif

    Thanks!

    -Fairy God-father #1 (Bill is upstairs again making us coffee)
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    Apr 05, 2010 4:52 PM GMT
    Awwwww, it's so cool to hear that there are other guys in LDR besides us. Maybe they aren't international but not being able to be together everyday is tough no matter how far it is.

    The good thing about LDR's is it forces you to get to know each other really well. You can focus on something other than the physical attraction you have. I'm so grateful that I got to know my BB first before I met him. I knew I'd be attracted to him physically but after getting to know him for 8 months, when we met it was just.....BAM! (Heart flutters and angels play harps in the background....hehehe!)

    But seriously, sex is just a part of the relationship, an important part yes, but only a part. I think we as men tend to get wrapped up in the physical aspect and confuse sexual attraction with love. Then once things get tough and the mundane things of life set in (bills, family, mortgages, jobs losses, etc.) we bolt at the first sign of the "spark" diminishing.

    I don't know what the future holds for me and my baby but whatever it is, I'm looking forward to it!

    MWAH! I love you honey!



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    Apr 05, 2010 4:58 PM GMT
    Shortnsexystud saidAwwwww, it's so cool to hear that there are other guys in LDR besides us. Maybe they aren't international but not being able to be together everyday is tough no matter how far it is.

    I know how you feel. my guy lives in London, England & I live in Boston, MA.
    ... but



    when I least expected it I found you ...
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    Apr 05, 2010 11:38 PM GMT
    nysee_joshie said
    Roccoe said
    AWWWW You guys are sooooo cute for young kids icon_eek.gif Still 25 icon_wink.gif

    As joshnyc would say "ceeruslay" Both distance and age are the least of my worries getting to know someone and being in a relationship with them. Of all the other issues this is the easiest to change.

    First LTR was long distance at first lasted 8.5 yr until he died

    Second LTR was same city lasted 12.5 yr until he went brain dead.......all right just kidding......Hmmmm no I am not!



    icon_eek.gif ....lolz

    so dudes cant catch a break with chu....no matter if long distance or near.....tsk tsk icon_wink.gificon_razz.gif


    Dude I catch you your done " Being shipwrecked is a nice term" space and time holds no barriers for me. I will put a smile on your face no matter what icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 06, 2010 12:20 AM GMT
    I was in a long-distance relationship once. Then I moved to DC after school ended and we are together for real. Poor guy, he has to deal with mah crazy all the time now.

    I think the reason it worked long-term is because we both knew that soon I would be a lot closer.
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    Apr 06, 2010 12:25 AM GMT
    I agree that the great thing about LDRs is that you get to know the guy better (meaning its not soley physical attraction) but after a few months it's hard not being able to hold or kiss the guy you care about. Words can only go so far in showing someone you care... and it's easier to not take words seriously...

    Plus, it's also frustrating not being able to help your guy in any kind of way :

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    Apr 06, 2010 2:11 PM GMT
    semaj562 saidI agree that the great thing about LDRs is that you get to know the guy better (meaning its not soley physical attraction) but after a few months it's hard not being able to hold or kiss the guy you care about. Words can only go so far in showing someone you care... and it's easier to not take words seriously...

    Plus, it's also frustrating not being able to help your guy in any kind of way :



    True stuff! I think that this, though, " ..but after a few months it's hard not being able to hold or kiss the guy you care about. Words can only go so far in showing someone you care..."

    and this, "Plus, it's also frustrating not being able to help your guy in any kind of way"

    ...is part of the drive, the push to meet and make it happen and what makes Shakespear's words ring true:

    "O, stay and hear; your true love's coming,
    That can sing both high and low:
    Trip no further, pretty sweeting;
    Journeys end in lovers meeting,
    Every wise man's son doth know." icon_wink.gif


    -Doug

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    Apr 06, 2010 2:18 PM GMT
    I'm of the mindset that "Love is where you find it". If you happen to meet someone who lives in a city other than your own, and it clicks, you make it work if being together is worth the times you are apart. If the feelings are mutual, and both parties are willing and able to make compromises and work through the hurdles, it can be wonderful. No one said it is easy, but few relationships are.
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    Apr 07, 2010 3:05 PM GMT
    Been in a LDR now for about a year and a half. Wasn't something I ever saw myself doing or taking part in but when you meet the right person, that all goes out the window. Our situation is a little different then the norm since we both own our own company and have a huge amount of flexibility (more me then he). My new motto, and I should think of changing it now that we're over the year mark, "So Far So Good"!!! It's whatever you make of it!