He didn't mind when I complemented his physique in the gym,

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    Apr 05, 2010 2:01 PM GMT
    so I asked him to take his shirt off in the lockerroom. He said no and walked out.

    Ever get a vibe from a straight guy and just go with it, only to find out you were waaay off?
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    Apr 05, 2010 2:25 PM GMT
    seems to be a common personality trait of many weight lifters..they spend a lot of time weight lifting, watchin their diet, then get all bashfull and embarrassed if someone comments on the results of their hard work...icon_confused.gif
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    Apr 05, 2010 3:19 PM GMT
    rnch saidseems to be a common personality trait of many weight lifters..they spend a lot of time weight lifting, watchin their diet, then get all bashfull and embarrassed if someone comments on the results of their hard work...icon_confused.gif


    What about my original question. Ever had this happen?
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    Apr 05, 2010 4:46 PM GMT
    Are you sure he was straight?

    Just because you get turned down does not mean the person is straight. He could be openly gay, but not interested.
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    Apr 05, 2010 5:48 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidAre you sure he was straight?

    Just because you get turned down does not mean the person is straight. He could be openly gay, but not interested.


    Then why wouldn't he say so?
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    Apr 05, 2010 6:00 PM GMT
    Onthewaytome said
    paulflexes saidAre you sure he was straight?

    Just because you get turned down does not mean the person is straight. He could be openly gay, but not interested.


    Then why wouldn't he say so?
    It's less offensive to stay silent.
    No one likes to be turned down.
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    Apr 06, 2010 2:16 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    Onthewaytome said
    paulflexes saidAre you sure he was straight?

    Just because you get turned down does not mean the person is straight. He could be openly gay, but not interested.


    Then why wouldn't he say so?
    It's less offensive to stay silent.
    No one likes to be turned down.


    Should I apologize next time I see him?
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    Apr 06, 2010 2:23 PM GMT

    If you think you might like the guy as a friend, then sure! You could say something like,
    "Hey apologies for being so forward the other day." and give a brief salute and a grin and walk away. That's leaving the ball in his court and a sense of satisfaction that you made peace in yours.

    -Doug
    PS if he gets curious, you could always tell him that his physique is one you aspire to. (Nice double entendre in those words, lol!)
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    Onthewaytome saidso I asked him to take his shirt off in the lockerroom. He said no and walked out.

    Ever get a vibe from a straight guy and just go with it, only to find out you were waaay off?


    Gay or straight, that description kinda comes off a little creepy.
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    Apr 06, 2010 2:28 PM GMT
    hes just not that into you
  • iHavok

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    Apr 06, 2010 2:30 PM GMT
    I can see it now, Deliverance...the remake!

    "You got a purty mouth boy...can I see your teeth? Who's your dentist? Are those veneers?"


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    Apr 06, 2010 2:32 PM GMT
    I would've done the same thing. Why the hell would you request that a guy you weren't even formally introduced to take off his shirt? o.O
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    Apr 06, 2010 2:33 PM GMT
    Onthewaytome said
    paulflexes saidAre you sure he was straight?

    Just because you get turned down does not mean the person is straight. He could be openly gay, but not interested.


    Then why wouldn't he say so?


    He did, pretty clearly... icon_sad.gif
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    Apr 06, 2010 2:34 PM GMT
    To compliment some one is one thing, to ask them to take their clothes off (shirt or otherwise) is entirely another...

    I think most guys would say no.
    Unless they were in the gym to be ogled or looking to get laid.
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    Apr 06, 2010 2:35 PM GMT
    bryanc_74 said
    Onthewaytome saidso I asked him to take his shirt off in the lockerroom. He said no and walked out.

    Ever get a vibe from a straight guy and just go with it, only to find out you were waaay off?


    Gay or straight, that description kinda comes off a little creepy.


    Bingo.

    Would you walk up to a random person on the street and ask them to take their shirt off? If not then it's pry not kosher to do so in a locker room, regardless of how many compliments you paid him in the weight room.

    If you really need to see guys without shirts hit up Google.
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    Apr 06, 2010 2:36 PM GMT
    LOL I've been way off on occasion, but asking guys to take their shirt off for me was never my opening line icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 06, 2010 2:38 PM GMT
    Lol, the OP made a faux pas, and is here asking about it. Can't we judge less and help more?

    Just sayin'..... icon_wink.gif

    -Doug

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    Apr 06, 2010 2:40 PM GMT
    Be warned: There is an instigator in this thread.
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    Apr 06, 2010 2:44 PM GMT
    rnch saidseems to be a common personality trait of many weight lifters..they spend a lot of time weight lifting, watchin their diet, then get all bashfull and embarrassed if someone comments on the results of their hard work...icon_confused.gif


    personally I hate receiving comments on my physical appearance, it bothers me (I take care of me for me so I can feel good about myself).

    As for the OP's situation, guys who go to the gym and take it seriously don't view their lockerroom as a porn set. Don't treat it as one.
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    Apr 06, 2010 2:47 PM GMT
    bryanc_74 said
    Onthewaytome saidso I asked him to take his shirt off in the lockerroom. He said no and walked out.

    Ever get a vibe from a straight guy and just go with it, only to find out you were waaay off?


    Gay or straight, that description kinda comes off a little creepy.


    yup! amen to that!!
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    Apr 06, 2010 3:00 PM GMT
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    bryanc_74 said
    Onthewaytome saidso I asked him to take his shirt off in the lockerroom. He said no and walked out.

    Ever get a vibe from a straight guy and just go with it, only to find out you were waaay off?


    Gay or straight, that description kinda comes off a little creepy.


    yup! amen to that!!



    Yup. Completely inappropriate in most settings.

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    Apr 06, 2010 3:02 PM GMT
    I would have walked out too... if you wanted to go with it, take the mature road-- introduce yourself, say hi, shake his hand. No one wants a violation of their personal space, epically in the locker room (gay or not). And what if he had taken his shirt off, what next? Its not a porn shoot its a gym lockerroom that other people use.

    If you don't know what to do, use bathroom rules: you look ahead and at no one elses' junk but your own. You do what you need to do and get out.

    thats it. all done. thread finished. Seacrest out
  • rnch

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    Apr 06, 2010 3:02 PM GMT
    judoguy saidLOL I've been way off on occasion, but asking guys to take their shirt off for me was never my opening line icon_lol.gif
    same here...unless he and I were alone in his or my bedroom. icon_wink.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 06, 2010 3:04 PM GMT
    I follow a certain decorum at the gym. Complimenting someone about their progress is helpful. I usually don't make some remark about how "great" they look, but rather comment on "the efforts that are paying off" or "you're reaching your goals" or just give the thumbs up sign and say "coming right along"... and while I might notice if the guy was changing his shirt in the locker room, I sure as hell wouldn't ask him to do it.
  • iHavok

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    Apr 06, 2010 3:26 PM GMT
    Were you touching yourself when you asked?
    Cuz that's also a no-no.

    As a rule of thumb, avoid touching anywhere your bathing suit covers when in a public place.