Butt Plugs for Beginners, training kits, lube etc.

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    Apr 05, 2010 5:16 PM GMT
    I would love to someday to be able to have anal sex, and I feel before allowing any man to stick it in, I should learn how to relax the anus muscles and allow foreign objects in. I have a tight ass hole and I frankly I don't want to get hurt.

    So, I am wondering if anyone knows any good training kits and starter butt plugs that I can use to get started. I have done some searching around the net, and have found some, but the reviews are not what I want, some of them have sharp tips which is a no no.

    Also which lube to use with the toys? and which lube to use in real life anal sex?

    Hope to get some advice. Thanks in advance.
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    Apr 05, 2010 5:57 PM GMT
    You can purchase a anal training kit that will take you from a size small to a good sized butt plug in several increments. If you want good lube, I think BoyButter is best for toys.

    But, it is mostly a matter of nerves. Most cocks aren't so large as to cause pain. It is the nervousness the bottom has that keeps him from loosening up. You already have the ability to sit on a cock and have fun without pain. Playing with butt plugs can help give you the confidence to relax. Finding a top who will take you nice and slow and really work to loosen you up will also be a big (hot) help.
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    Apr 06, 2010 12:24 AM GMT
    I usually tell my customers to use their fingers first. Insert one finger and when you feel comfortable, try another and when three feels fine then you are dilated enough to fit anything the girth of a cock comfortably. There are lots of anal kits that have toys the size of your fingers as well and if they look too small for you, I recommend something in the shape and texture of a dick. Get an enema kit too. The length of a cock/toy takes time to adjust to, so pause once in a while and then insert a bit more, withdraw and insert again.
    The anus has two passages and the most resistant is the first one so massage your hole, tap it lightly and use water based lube or a cream lube (water-silicone mix). There are lubes and creams with added muscle relaxants (Innuendo, relax anal spray by titan).

    And mimic sex positions that you'll use can help so try inserting things on your back with legs up / spread wide, squatting down, on all fours etc...
    And insert objects when you exhale out, it really makes a difference.
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    Apr 06, 2010 2:56 AM GMT
    Hi guys,

    Thanks for your replies. I kind of want to keep my fingers out of there. I had tried before while masturbating, it is difficult. I would rather use a toy of some kind.

    Why would I need an enema kit? To clear out any blockages to allow for insertion?

    I have seen boybutter before and was curious to give it a try.
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    Apr 06, 2010 3:07 AM GMT
    FWIW some silicone toys say not to use silicone lube with them. Boy Butter has a water-based formula which is also awesome.
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    Apr 06, 2010 4:08 AM GMT
    From my experience, different lubes will give you different sensations. The water based lubes tend to allow more "speed" of motion, but can get "squeeky". The oily types tend to be smoother and literally warmer, but the motion tends pull on the innards a bit more.

    There are so many different kinds of toys and lubes on the market. Just "jump in the pool" and buy a few inexpensive kinds and you'll soon know which ones you like best.
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    Apr 06, 2010 2:16 PM GMT
    Yeah, an enema is good to clean out your passage because it can be a turn off when you pull a toy out and it's got shit on it. Otherwise just go to the toilet beforehand and wash your arse.

    And have fun with it. It may be frustrating that nothing will go in but it takes patience and understanding how your body reacts, maybe watch porn as you do it. You can even try different things you have at home, but put a condom on it. For example, vegetables, markers, slim deodorant can or even a handle of a garden tool.
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    Apr 06, 2010 5:40 PM GMT
    Thanks again guys. I once had a small silver vibrator back in college, I was able to get it in a little ways, but that was many years ago and since then I know I have gotten tighter. Any ideas where I can get a slim vibe? I don't mean like pinky slim, but something maybe two fingers?
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    Apr 06, 2010 8:22 PM GMT
    bicwg saidThanks again guys. I once had a small silver vibrator back in college, I was able to get it in a little ways, but that was many years ago and since then I know I have gotten tighter. Any ideas where I can get a slim vibe? I don't mean like pinky slim, but something maybe two fingers?


    No vibe ideas, sorry (don't use them) but as far as insertion goes, try different positions. I found it easiest when I first started if I was on my side, relax, and use slow gentle pressure. It shouldn't be painful. Take your time. And Enjoy!!!
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    Apr 07, 2010 12:25 AM GMT
    jim_e saidYeah, an enema is good to clean out your passage because it can be a turn off when you pull a toy out and it's got shit on it. ...

    ... but put a condom on it. ...


    I've found that putting a condom on toys also helps with clean up of the toy after play is done. This is especially true with silicone lube.

    When I use silicone lube, I will use some kind of shampoo or other soap WITHOUT WATER FIRST to emulsify the oil and lift it off the surface of the toy or my skin. THEN, I use warm water to wash off the soap/oil.
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    Apr 07, 2010 2:15 AM GMT
    If the ickyness of having your fingers up there was an issue, get some latex gloves. It is like $3 for a box of a 100. That is a lot of ass play.

    Adam & Eve is a great online sex toy store. Browse their male toy section. There should be plenty there for you. If you want a small vibrator, they have eggs like everyone else.
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    Apr 07, 2010 1:59 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie said That is a lot of ass play.


    I think I will slip that into a conversation this week. icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 10, 2010 4:09 PM GMT
    Thanks guys. I would rather use a vibe or toy of some kind if I can.

    I am also looking for something that squirts, doubt I will ever experience it in real life as I am too worried about diseases, so... It would be fun to play with something that squirts. I have seem them before, but seems only one company makes it, and people complain it is too sharp. so....

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