"Meeting a Guy Over the Phone"

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    Apr 05, 2010 11:50 PM GMT
    A guy across the country saw my profile on a dating website and wants to start talking. I've seen his profile as well. I'm cautious because I can't see the purpose of spending a lot of time on the phone unless there is a good chance of meeting in person early on to see if there is any chemistry.

    Has anyone had any luck with this way of beginning a relationship? Thoughts? Advice?

    Steven
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    Apr 06, 2010 12:18 AM GMT
    Why not?

    You never know where it will lead. Just make sure you don't fall into the trap of falling in love with someone you haven't met. You're right, if you think it will lead somewhere you need to meet to see if there is chemistry. Otherwise why waste the time.

    That said, I made a good friend that way, and we still talk.
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    Apr 06, 2010 2:02 AM GMT
    I say go for it. You can learn a lot about your chemistry with someone over the phone and whether you want to meet him in person.
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    Apr 06, 2010 5:14 AM GMT
    Lol this immediately reminded me of Tales of the City...

    Clear across the country can be difficult but not impossible. I'm in a "long-distance relationship" but we're managing fine - You need to keep your options open, go for it!

    (You might wanna push him to try a webcam at some point before meeting maybe too?)
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    Apr 06, 2010 8:37 AM GMT
    eh.. this could go either way, i met my ex this way, fell in love before we even met, then we met, and fell deeper in love, however, theres the distance issue, our relationship fell apart because of it over time.
    If for some reason this leads somewhere, would you be willing to move for this guy? or at least compromise and travel to see each other?
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    Apr 06, 2010 12:51 PM GMT
    Im doing that right now. He is really cool and super fucking cute. For me the cost of going to meet and see him for the first time I feel are more than worth it. Lets all face it finding a guys that fit all or nearly all of the things that you want is at best along shot. In my mind it’s the whole no risk no win thing.
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    Apr 06, 2010 12:55 PM GMT
    I started talking to a guy on yahoo personals. I was pretty clueless about it all and just enjoyed chatting with him. We talked a bit on the phone.
    Since he lived 100 miles away and just had moved back to the state, I didn't think anything other than he seemed like an awesome guy.....

    That was over 11 years ago and he's a great partner.....
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    Apr 06, 2010 8:07 PM GMT
    wi11 saidIm doing that right now. He is really cool and super fucking cute. For me the cost of going to meet and see him for the first time I feel are more than worth it. Lets all face it finding a guys that fit all or nearly all of the things that you want is at best along shot. In my mind it’s the whole no risk no win thing.


    i wish all guys thought like you,
    lucky guy that has your attention icon_smile.gif