Question about holding hands in public

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    Apr 06, 2010 12:46 AM GMT
    How many of you guys would hold hands with a man while walking down a heavily hetro public area?

    hint hint, Hey RJ owners, how about a Poll options for topics?
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    Apr 06, 2010 12:51 AM GMT
    I don't even like straights doing it. It always seemed kind of codependent to me, even a little pathetic. Also, if someone tries to hold my hand in public, I feel like they are trying to make me their property, and that makes me feel uncomfortable. It feels like an affront to my individualism. I can walk with you independently without getting lost, thank you very much.

    Making out, that's a different story. I'm all for it!
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    Apr 06, 2010 12:56 AM GMT
    My boyfriend and I do it in NYC, but not really when we visit his folks in Durham. Never really had any problems, but I think one has to be smart about where to do it. We live in a progressive area, so holding hands isn't a big deal, but there are certainly areas where we would not do it to avoid possible drama.
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    Apr 06, 2010 1:03 AM GMT
    You know the funny thing is...I think that if you are not that interested in the guy that much, then it would be super uncomfortable holding hands in public.

    However, if you are extremely into the guy, your mindset becomes so indulged in him that you don't even give a crap what anyone thinks or says...

    I get uncomfortable holding hands in public but recently while i was with a guy i am super super attracted to, i managed very well to hold hands while at Fuddruckers. It was the most amazing feeling as I didn't give a shit what anyone said or the face they put up. It made me want to hold his hand more..

    To retrospect, I am perfectly fine with it if I am super attracted to the guy..
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    Apr 06, 2010 2:03 AM GMT
    I'm so over being in the shadows, If I'm out with my BF who I have feelings for, I could care less what the gen pop has to say or express. I revel in the joy of being secure and content in holding a my guys hand and walking proud. Yeah it's a shock to some, and I could care less, it's not about them, it's about us walking around just like everyone else, when you walk with confidence you get respect
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    Apr 06, 2010 3:22 AM GMT
    Does sitting on a bench at the mall with his arm around my shoulders count?
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    Apr 06, 2010 3:43 AM GMT
    Yeah, that counts...
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    Apr 06, 2010 3:48 AM GMT

    What about going home on a bus from a night out at a club, fairly drunk and loudly telling each other how much they love each other and in what ways, does that count? icon_redface.gif

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    Apr 06, 2010 3:51 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    shortmuscleguy said But a Proud Man!*.

    I might not be the best looking face in the crowd, could care less, happy, content and secure, took me 45y to get to this point and finally feeling free to express myself with no regrets
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    Apr 06, 2010 3:53 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    What about going home on a bus from a night out at a club, fairly drunk and loudly telling each other how much they love each other and in what ways, does that count? icon_redface.gif

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    Apr 06, 2010 3:54 AM GMT
    Sure. I'm not PERSONALLY a fan of Public Displays of Affection, but if it floats your boat, GO FOR IT! It certainly shows a level of confidence in your relationship.
    Although there IS a fine line between PDA that is for your benefit and PDA that is for the benefit or SHOCK value of the general public. Know what I mean?
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    Apr 06, 2010 4:01 AM GMT
    Tonight I was standing on the outside balcony of the California Grill which overlooks the Magic Kingdom in Disney World where they had fireworks at 10pm and when they started to play "When You Wish Upon A Star" I put my arms around the guy I am dating and kissed him on the cheek in front of tons of breeders.

    Does that count?
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    Apr 06, 2010 4:02 AM GMT
    Yes, and the cowards who wouldn't can burn: Freedom is taken, not granted.
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    Apr 06, 2010 4:12 AM GMT
    Not looking for shock value or anything like that, I simply like to hold hands with a guy and be proud that i can do it in public and have no agenda, tenderness of affection and not being the least bit afraid to express my feelings. Whats odd is that most gays are lovers in private, yet closets in public, I've chosen to be open with my feelings for another man 24/7 in all areas of my life, I'm a lover and passionate guy, enough training and skills in martial arts to protect those around me,
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    Apr 06, 2010 4:14 AM GMT
    silverfox1 saidTonight I was standing on the outside balcony of the California Grill which overlooks the Magic Kingdom in Disney World where they had fireworks at 10pm and when they started to play "When You Wish Upon A Star" I put my arms around the guy I am dating and kissed him on the cheek in front of tons of breeders.

    Does that count?


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    Apr 06, 2010 4:35 AM GMT

    Absolutely. My bf and I are 100% entitled to the same allowance of PDA's as any straight couple. I'll be damned if I'm going to live in a state where I can marry my man, but not put an arm around him, hold his hand or give him a (G-rated) kiss or nuzzle in public.

    Do right and fear no man.
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    Apr 06, 2010 4:54 AM GMT
    flieslikeabeagle said
    Absolutely. My bf and I are 100% entitled to the same allowance of PDA's as any straight couple. I'll be damned if I'm going to live in a state where I can marry my man, but not put an arm around him, hold his hand or give him a (G-rated) kiss or nuzzle in public.

    Do right and fear no man.

    Right on!
  • Midas426

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    Apr 06, 2010 5:29 AM GMT
    shortmuscleguy saidNot looking for shock value or anything like that, I simply like to hold hands with a guy and be proud that i can do it in public and have no agenda, tenderness of affection and not being the least bit afraid to express my feelings. Whats odd is that most gays are lovers in private, yet closets in public, I've chosen to be open with my feelings for another man 24/7 in all areas of my life, I'm a lover and passionate guy, enough training and skills in martial arts to protect those around me,
    That's the kind of bf I need...someone skilled in the art of protection. icon_biggrin.gif

    Seriously I agree in principal with your points but currently am not at the stage of my life where I'm comfortable with hand holding. I'm hoping one day I won't give a damn.

    I can only think of one guy that I met in my life that I would possibly hold hands with. He himself is a bigger and taller guy (with natural muscle tone) and he always made me feel secure around him. We went out once and the hottest moment we had was him kissing me in front of his neighborhood. It was hot and scary at the same time hence the turn on. He's extremely secure in his sexuality and knows that nobody will mess with him. Maybe that's why I like bigger guys...*LOL*.
  • Delivis

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    Apr 06, 2010 5:36 AM GMT
    I'm all for it.
  • Puppy80

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    Apr 09, 2010 1:54 AM GMT
    shortmuscleguy said
    flieslikeabeagle said
    Absolutely. My bf and I are 100% entitled to the same allowance of PDA's as any straight couple. I'll be damned if I'm going to live in a state where I can marry my man, but not put an arm around him, hold his hand or give him a (G-rated) kiss or nuzzle in public.

    Do right and fear no man.

    Right on!


    I love his nuzzles. Gives me goosebumps! And I am not ashamed to hold his hand in public either, I kinda like the physical contact with him.
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    Apr 09, 2010 2:27 AM GMT

    The physical expression of love: holding hands etc, publicly or not (though publicly has it's own declarative potency) is so, so powerful...

    These guys explain it well.




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