First real date after a year.....

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    Apr 06, 2010 3:02 AM GMT
    ok ..ive been single for a while...and its partly due to school and work as im selfish with those time and when i do have free time i rather spend it in the gym or at home sleeping. Anyways..my friends were like...you have got to stop this and they have arranged a Blind Date...well its not really a Blind date as ive known the gent for a long time now..Anyways i am going to have dinner tom...after work....and im kinda nervous as ive been out of the whole dating game for a while and im kinda a nerd so i dont wana say the wrong things..and freak him out...so what are some topics i should stay clear of? i know i wont talk about politics, religion or sex....
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    Apr 06, 2010 3:05 AM GMT
    Just be yourself!
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    Apr 06, 2010 3:09 AM GMT
    tereseus1 saidok ..ive been single for a while...and its partly due to school and work as im selfish with those time and when i do have free time i rather spend it in the gym or at home sleeping. Anyways..my friends were like...you have got to stop this and they have arranged a Blind Date...well its not really a Blind date as ive known the gent for a long time now..Anyways i am going to have dinner tom...after work....and im kinda nervous as ive been out of the whole dating game for a while and im kinda a nerd so i dont wana say the wrong things..and freak him out...so what are some topics i should stay clear of? i know i wont talk about politics, religion or sex....



    Whatever you do, just make sure you have a couple of drinks just enough to get you tipsy (not drunk though). You'll be 10 times funnier and set a good impression.
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    Apr 06, 2010 3:11 AM GMT
    Aggieboy said
    tereseus1 saidok ..ive been single for a while...and its partly due to school and work as im selfish with those time and when i do have free time i rather spend it in the gym or at home sleeping. Anyways..my friends were like...you have got to stop this and they have arranged a Blind Date...well its not really a Blind date as ive known the gent for a long time now..Anyways i am going to have dinner tom...after work....and im kinda nervous as ive been out of the whole dating game for a while and im kinda a nerd so i dont wana say the wrong things..and freak him out...so what are some topics i should stay clear of? i know i wont talk about politics, religion or sex....



    Whatever you do, just make sure you have a couple of drinks just enough to get you tipsy (not drunk though). You'll be 10 times funnier and set a good impression.


    hmm i cant handle alcohol..i get drunk very easily..so i dont drink. icon_sad.gif
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    Apr 06, 2010 4:38 AM GMT
    tereseus1 saidpolitics, religion or sex....


    man, the weather is the most boring topic in the world, after that you can always move on to talking about plants, the weather, how bad the traffic is, the weather, the latest movie you saw, the weather ...

    politics, religion and sex - nothing like stimulating hot button topics to sort out where guys stand, one only has to check out numerous threads on here - so talk about them.

    and as others have said - be yourself, if there is chemistry the conversation will flow, there is nothing more deadly than a contrived forced conversation.

    have fun icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 06, 2010 4:50 AM GMT
    stud, after your reply to one of my previous topics, kinda shocked that your going out on a date, did your friends approve of his photo prior to you accepting?
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    Apr 06, 2010 1:12 PM GMT
    I think being nervous about a date is so cute.
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    Apr 06, 2010 1:15 PM GMT
    good for you. GO FOR IT>
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    Apr 06, 2010 1:46 PM GMT
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    tereseus1 saidpolitics, religion or sex....


    man, the weather is the most boring topic in the world, after that you can always move on to talking about plants, the weather, how bad the traffic is, the weather, the latest movie you saw, the weather ...

    politics, religion and sex - nothing like stimulating hot button topics to sort out where guys stand, one only has to check out numerous threads on here - so talk about them.

    and as others have said - be yourself, if there is chemistry the conversation will flow, there is nothing more deadly than a contrived forced conversation.

    have fun icon_biggrin.gif


    Fully agree. These topics I tend to hit by the second date. Conservatives tend to piss me off, and depending on your outlook of religion (no, I will not start attending church for you... ever...), we might not mesh either. Good idea to find out about possible road bumps before you run your tire into them ;)
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    Apr 06, 2010 1:53 PM GMT
    Being nervous is kinda cute, just don't let it get the best of you.

    And as for what to talk about, just be YOU! That's why he asked you out, because there's something about you that intrigued him and he wants to know a bit more about you.

    And MOST importantly, have FUN!
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    Apr 06, 2010 1:55 PM GMT
    GwgTrunks said

    Fully agree. These topics I tend to hit by the second date. Good idea to find out about possible road bumps before you run your tire into them ;)


    agreed. if you are passionate about hot issues, then you would be less than honest by not talking about them with someone you are starting a friendship/relationship with. might as well get it out in the open right now.

    OTOH, if you are neutral on hot issues, then it's no big deal to avoid them. you probably don't talk about them anyway.

    in conversation, if i don't get on my soap box about various artistic issues and gay rights, i find it is infinitely more interesting to find out stuff about the other person...like a treasure hunt. find out what they like, what they're passionate about, etc., and you'll uncover whether they like talking about politics and religion without having to pull out your list of bullet points to cover.

    let it flow, and make it about them.
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    Apr 06, 2010 1:59 PM GMT
    Well tereseus1, if you've known the gent for a long time (saw that in your OP), hopefully you've had conversations and/or shared social occasions before, so this should be easier than someone you've never met. He probably has interests you know about and he probably knows of some of yours, so just go with the flow as though this is one of those times you usually see each other. Easy does it!

    -Doug