Complications in dating

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    Apr 08, 2010 1:01 PM GMT
    My Southern Values run deep and the fact that I can't keep my mouth shut and express how I feel and whats up with me have once again got me sticking my foot in my mouth,having to explain myself,, argh.... must keep mouth shut, but it's my nature,

    Having ended an 11y relationship, the way I communicated with my ex is so different with my new man, kinda like my ex knew what I was going to say and I didn't have to complete the conversation and my new guy is all confused when we talk so I stumble thru conversations, LTR breakups are a bitch when you meet a new man who your serious about.....
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    Apr 08, 2010 1:55 PM GMT
    You shouldn't have to censor yourself too much this early in a relationship. Your communication style is integral to who you are and the dynamic of your relationship. Be yourself and the guy will either adapt or not; and then you'll have your answer icon_smile.gif
  • masculumpedes

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    Apr 08, 2010 2:16 PM GMT
    Be considerate...but also be yourself...If you censor yourself this early, you will feel the need to do so from now on and that will lead to other problems as you go along. You will in effect be making the relationship "all about him"....instead of " all about the 2 of you " icon_neutral.gif
  • DanOmatic

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    Apr 08, 2010 2:57 PM GMT
    Breathe, relax, and be yourself. If it's meant to be, it will follow naturally without needing to force anything. It takes time for each person to understand the other's communication style. Remember that it probably took you and your ex a considerable amount of time to get to the point where you could finish each other's sentences.
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    Apr 08, 2010 4:48 PM GMT
    Yeah, like the other guys say - be yourself. You don't want to try to be someone you're not because eventually the mask will have to come off.
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    Apr 08, 2010 4:59 PM GMT
    What? ... He didn't learn everything about you on that first date??? ... icon_eek.gif