Study: One-third snoop on lovers' texts, e-mail

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    Apr 09, 2010 2:50 PM GMT
    Have YOU done this? Been done to you? What do you think about it? I purposely avoid looking at my partner's computer screen, I think he's entitled to his privacy. Yet he forwards me lots of his email (too much, in fact), and I show him my things, like this RJ site. I have never once gone into his file folders, except when he asks for help in locating a missing file.

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    Apr 09, 2010 3:40 PM GMT

    I don't bother look, because I can. Ditto for Bill. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug
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    Apr 09, 2010 3:50 PM GMT
    If someone is untrusting enough to snoop, they should just end the relationship right then because their jealousy is gonna drive their partner away soon, even if the partner hasn't cheated...yet.
  • tazzari

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    Apr 09, 2010 3:59 PM GMT
    I never did, and would think much, much less of myself if I had done so. It's not just what one owes to a partner - trust, respect - but also what you owe yourself. Spying should be beneath all of us, if we have any self respect.
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    Apr 09, 2010 4:02 PM GMT
    Love Poem, by Banksy

    Beyond watching eyes
    With sweet and tender kisses
    Our souls reached out to each other
    In breathless wonder.

    And when I awoke
    From a vast and smiling peace
    I found you bathed in morning light
    Quietly studying
    All the messages on my phone.
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    Apr 09, 2010 7:58 PM GMT
    Never have and never will. I would be go long before it comes to that.
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    Apr 09, 2010 9:33 PM GMT
    I gotta admit.. I'm guilty of sneaking a peak when the screen happens to be right in front of me (Like while cuddled up watching a movie, he may get a text message, and replies by sticking the phone right into my face icon_rolleyes.gif ). But I've never gone onto a computer, or into a phone without permission, just to snoop.

    Even somebody like me, who has a metric shit-ton of jealousy, and trust issues, understands it's not cool to go through somebodies crap.
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    Apr 09, 2010 10:01 PM GMT
    [quote]

    Even somebody like me, who has a metric shit-ton of jealousy, and trust issues, understands it's not cool to go through somebodies crap. [/quote]
    Man, this statement made me laigh.....love your honesty
  • Tiller66

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    Apr 09, 2010 10:03 PM GMT
    Myself once I commit fully to a realtionship I have nothing to hide and will only exsept the same in return
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    Apr 09, 2010 10:07 PM GMT
    My new guy knows about this site, sent him a link to my profile, knows about my a4a and MH accounts which I haven't logged onto them since we met and I've told him I'm active on RJ. I'm an open book and if he wants to know something, all he has to do is ask, nothing to hide and pretty damn proud of being that way.
  • owen19832006

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    Apr 09, 2010 10:09 PM GMT
    never done it, have to confess ive been very tempted to...but nope, i havent checked his phone, havent checked his accounts on different sites, i have put my trust in him, now the day he breaches that trust thats it gone, not coming back. thats why you should tell them i have put my trust in on you dont let me down. set the rules of the relationship early on, whether you are monogamous and totally exclusive or otherwise and things you will not accept under any circumstances.
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    Apr 09, 2010 10:13 PM GMT
    It's on thing to be curious when an unexpected situation occurs like saw someone leaves a door cracked as you walk past.

    It's another to intentionally go out of your to snoop on some. That is way beyond curiosity and I'd say it would be a trust issue. I openly admit I've been curious when things occur in front of me but never to the point where I feel I have to go out of my way to snoop. If I ever feel like I have to do that then I'll just come correct and ask directly. That's how a man does it. That's how a person with respect does it.