sex with in law?

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    Apr 10, 2010 4:27 AM GMT
    If your supposedly straight brother in law told you he wanted to suck you off, would you tell your sister, who is madly in love with him btw. Great situation to be in! icon_sad.gif
  • Bunjamon

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    Apr 10, 2010 5:00 AM GMT
    Sounds like some family drama that you should stay out of. It'll turn into a battle of "he said, he said," and it may ruin your relationship with your sister. Pretend it never happened.
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    Apr 10, 2010 5:06 AM GMT
    thats what im thinkin also
  • Bunjamon

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    Apr 10, 2010 5:16 AM GMT
    Just email him a link to craigslist, instead. icon_wink.gif

    Kidding. I don't condone him cheating on your sister.
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    Apr 10, 2010 5:41 AM GMT
    Well that's a shocker. I would stay out of that. Lots of other guys to mess around with.
  • Space_Cowboy_...

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    Apr 10, 2010 5:50 AM GMT
    :O wow that's crazy!!! If it wasn't your sister I'd say go for it, but that would kill your sister! icon_sad.gif So tell him sorry that he's looking for that in the wrong place...... or you could record him asking for it and show your sister..... B/c WHY would you want her to get married to him if he's going to be sucking off other guys? and cheating on her? icon_neutral.gif
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    Apr 10, 2010 6:53 AM GMT
    the guy sounds like an idiot.... I would not want him as a brother in law.
  • GQjock

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    Apr 10, 2010 7:27 AM GMT
    The thing is ,,, if he propped you he's most likely whoreing around on the side
    Not a reflection on you
    just a fact on cheating husbands
    I'd pull hubby-in-law on the side and say
    Listen, I'm gonna pretend like this never happened but if I get wind that you're doing this with anybody else? I'll nail you to the wall
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    Apr 10, 2010 8:58 AM GMT
    wow, yeah you should probably tell your sis icon_eek.gif
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    Apr 10, 2010 10:43 AM GMT
    GQjock saidThe thing is ,,, if he propped you he's most likely whoreing around on the side
    Not a reflection on you
    just a fact on cheating husbands
    I'd pull hubby-in-law on the side and say
    Listen, I'm gonna pretend like this never happened but if I get wind that you're doing this with anybody else? I'll nail you to the wall


    I really like this approach, GQJock. At the same time admonishment for a reprehensible proposition is answered with a forceful rejection, a clear message of intolerance of anyfuture behavior hurtful to your sister has also been clearly stated.

    This kind of sick sabotage of family dynamics is what tears families of all kinds apart and should not be played with or tolerated.

    Aloha and Be Well!

    Alan
  • MikemikeMike

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    Apr 10, 2010 10:48 AM GMT
    naivenewbie saidIf your supposedly straight brother in law told you he wanted to suck you off, would you tell your sister, who is madly in love with him btw. Great situation to be in! icon_sad.gif


    You know your sister more than random people on here. Do what your heart and mind tells you to do.icon_idea.gif Now if it was me I would tell her, but I do not have a sister or a gay brother-in law.
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    Apr 10, 2010 1:33 PM GMT
    GQjock saidThe thing is ,,, if he propped you he's most likely whoreing around on the side
    Not a reflection on you
    just a fact on cheating husbands
    I'd pull hubby-in-law on the side and say
    Listen, I'm gonna pretend like this never happened but if I get wind that you're doing this with anybody else? I'll nail you to the wall

    ^
    this

    Flattery asideā€¦image; your sister a year from now telling you she has HIV.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Apr 10, 2010 1:45 PM GMT
    You might want to start keeping a diary...sounds like the makings of a potential movie of the week on the BRAVO network icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 10, 2010 1:50 PM GMT
    GQjock saidThe thing is ,,, if he propped you he's most likely whoreing around on the side
    Not a reflection on you
    just a fact on cheating husbands
    I'd pull hubby-in-law on the side and say
    Listen, I'm gonna pretend like this never happened but if I get wind that you're doing this with anybody else? I'll nail you to the wall


    I like this approach. But I'm not sure this is all that should be done. What about the sister, who this brother-in-law might repeatedly expose to STD's? A man who propositions his brother-in-law--of all people!--has NO moral scruples. Such conduct suggests an unreasonable degree of recklessness that might influence how he has sex with men.

    If I were the OP, there's no way I'd leave my sister in the dark. If my sister, who has three children to think about, had to choose between having a whore for a husband and avoiding STD's, I know she'd choose the latter. Even though losing her husband would hurt like hell.
  • Timbales

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    Apr 10, 2010 2:03 PM GMT
    GQjock saidThe thing is ,,, if he propped you he's most likely whoreing around on the side
    Not a reflection on you
    just a fact on cheating husbands
    I'd pull hubby-in-law on the side and say
    Listen, I'm gonna pretend like this never happened but if I get wind that you're doing this with anybody else? I'll nail you to the wall


    agreed

    though I would let my brother-in-law's brothers have a crack at it. icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 10, 2010 2:11 PM GMT
    I think I'd recommend that you invite your b/l out for a beer at a place where it's quiet and private and have a serious talk with him. Telling him no and don't do it again is not going to change him or stop him in the future, but providing him a support system might encourage him to accept who he is and start to open up and talk to your sister about it. Then they can workout the dynamics of their relationship and you've helped move that along.
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    Apr 10, 2010 2:12 PM GMT
    I've tried telling women in the past but it was never successful. I decided that if it ever happened again I would confront the man and tell him that either he tells his girlfriend/wife or I will. Be prepared for your sister to stop having a relationship with you and siding with her husband. However, you could arrange it so that you are there when he tells her so he can't lie and say you came onto him, or that it was a joke, or that you are completely making it up. Your sister deserves better. However, you never know...she might already know about it and they might have an open relationship. It's very tricky getting in the middle of these things.
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    Apr 10, 2010 2:15 PM GMT
    Yes, she should be told because if she finds out later that you didn't say anything, it will really ruin your relationship with your sister.
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    Apr 10, 2010 2:18 PM GMT
    Staying out is the best solution for you, but not probably for your sister. For she might never know if or when he might or is cheating on her. Also if he is curious enough to risk approaching you, he might as well approach someone on craiglist and he might or might not perform proper safe norms. Your sister will have to suffer either now or later on, because he is not going to change and if he does, still they won't be too happy with each other. If you are close to your brother-in-law and know what kind of person he is, then talk with him. Talk with someone who you completely trust in your family and seek out the best solution. No one here knows your family and advice given will be very generic. Its true that meddling will bring an unnecessary burden on you, but are you willing to take it for your sister's sake is completely your choice.
  • jlly_rnchr

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    Apr 10, 2010 2:21 PM GMT
    I'd stay in China and completely ignore the situation.
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    Apr 10, 2010 2:26 PM GMT
    Whether she is my sister or just a friend wouldn't make any difference to me. I'd still have to say something to her because even if she was just a friend, I wouldn't be a very good friend, if I didn't say anything to her about it. If she doesn't believe I'm telling the truth, then that's up to her, but at least I know I told her the truth, even if the truth hurts.
  • sportsjockla

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    Apr 10, 2010 2:27 PM GMT
    I wouldn't want my brother-in-law asking me that. My sister has bad taste in men. ( I don't) :-)

    I would let my sister know. Take a pic of him going down on you...
  • rnch

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    Apr 10, 2010 4:20 PM GMT
    after viewing your pics here; i can understand why the bro-in-law wants to go down on you! icon_twisted.gificon_wink.gif
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    Apr 10, 2010 4:24 PM GMT
    For the rest of your interactions, have a small audio tape device, and record him propositioning you the next time, so that when you approach your sister, you've got proof, instead of the old he-said, she-said routine.

    If my siblings knew my bf was cheating on me, I'd be pissed if they didn't tell me.
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    Apr 10, 2010 4:25 PM GMT
    If you play with fire, you're going to get burned. Too much at stake. Let it go unless he brings it up again. Then tell sis that this happened twice. The ball will be in her court then.