Could you fall for someone.....who has nothing?

  • masculumpedes

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    Apr 11, 2010 8:22 PM GMT
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    A friend of mine recently told me that he could love me even if I were "dirt-poor". Do you believe that you could have a relationship with someone who has nothing at all? For me, I don't care what material things another person has, it's all about sharing what I have and what we can build together.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 11, 2010 8:24 PM GMT
    interesting question, i think that its likely you could, but how much of a future could that relationship have? on the long run will the person who is dirt-poor be willing to gear up and better himself?
    love can only conquer so much in my opinion..
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    Apr 11, 2010 8:25 PM GMT
    What is the reason behind this person not having anything?
  • masculumpedes

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    Apr 11, 2010 8:28 PM GMT
    Aggieboy saidWhat is the reason behind this person not having anything?


    Well, it could be as simple as not having parents who could afford to pay for his college education, therefore he never got to attend. He always had a moderate paying job or was one of the "working-poor". I am sure there are many reasons.....icon_idea.gif
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    Apr 11, 2010 8:32 PM GMT
    sublstyley saidinteresting question, i think that its likely you could, but how much of a future could that relationship have? on the long run will the person who is dirt-poor be willing to gear up and better himself?
    love can only conquer so much in my opinion..


    Interesting response.....I have met guys before who were content with their lifestyle and saw no need to ever better themselves.....but again, betterment of oneself does not always mean accumulation of material objects...it could mean becoming a better person morally and ethically and of goodness of heart. icon_neutral.gif
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    Apr 11, 2010 8:48 PM GMT
    You can have all the material possessions you ever thought you wanted and still feel you have nothing...

    You're right, Will...it's all about sharing... and that's all real love is.


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    Apr 11, 2010 8:57 PM GMT
    I have, but I won't do it again. It almost cost me my entire career.

    To clarify: Nothing = no job nor desire to get one.
  • masculumpedes

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    Apr 11, 2010 8:58 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidI have, but I won't do it again. It almost cost me my entire career.

    To clarify: Nothing = no job nor desire to get one.


    This is totally understandable my friend.....I have been there myself. icon_neutral.gif
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    Apr 11, 2010 9:20 PM GMT
    Yes.
  • masculumpedes

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    Apr 11, 2010 9:22 PM GMT
    meninlove said Yes.


    You are such a romantic......It's guys like you two that always remind me that romance is still alive and well....icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 11, 2010 9:26 PM GMT
    Heheh, you didn't say, "Could you fall for someone who will never amount to anything?"

    Having once been poor (I was a telephone operator fer Pete's sake, when Bill met me) I'm glad he chose me...Bill's love and support inspired me to climb the corporate ladder to nearly 60K a year.

    Had the roles been reversed I wouldn't have hesitated for a second.

    -Doug
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    Apr 11, 2010 11:32 PM GMT
    If they are lazy, jobless, have no reason they cannot work, and have no intentions of getting a job, nope. If they are simply "poor", I would not hesitate for a second. We could all (well, most of us) be there very quickly if circumstances were right.
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    Apr 11, 2010 11:43 PM GMT
    I would say in fantasy YES but in the real wrd I need someone who is driven to succeed. I wrk way to hard to just fork over my earnings to some leech who has no motivation.
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    Apr 12, 2010 2:08 AM GMT
    I find ambitious corporate climber types a huge turnoff. People who chase money or possessions, or who talk about money or property or houses are absolutely repulsive to me.

    These people are everywhere, and they are a pox on the community.

    I much prefer someone who is poor, as long as he can support himself, and who is intelligent and educated and understands what the important things in life are. Someone who maybe works less but reads more.
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    Apr 12, 2010 2:11 AM GMT
    It depends why they are dirt poor. If it's because they lack motivation, are stupid, crazy, or have no skills in anything, then no I would not fall for them because they are not my type. However, if they have a good head on their shoulders, they're a great person, and they simply have a job that doesn't pay well - then of course I could fall for them... especially if they chose a lower paying job because it was something they were passionate about. Money isn't everything, but it's always nice to have.
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    Apr 12, 2010 2:12 AM GMT
    Aggieboy saidWhat is the reason behind this person not having anything?


    This is where I was going when I saw the topic. I have nothing because I'm a Visual Artist by profession, and my career's objective is the philosophical betterment of humanity via art. Also it's never been a problem for the men who've dated me, so I've never had any qualms about it ;)
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    Apr 12, 2010 2:15 AM GMT
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    This is where I was going when I saw the topic. I have nothing because I'm a Visual Artist by profession, and my career's objective is the philosophical betterment of humanity via art.


    If you are doing your passion, no matter what material possessions you may have, you are much richer in what really matters than the wealthiest corporate clone.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Apr 12, 2010 2:17 AM GMT
    All you hot guys who have nothing, get in touch. I'd rather have one of you that 100 hot guys who think they're something because they drive a BMW. I'd rather sleep in a ditch with an honest boy than sleep with a bitter millionaire in a paris hotel. OK that last one I'm negotiable.
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    Apr 12, 2010 2:18 AM GMT
    Alright, in defense of the ambitious, I agree that it's tacky and unbecoming to be driven by material possessions. I'm not fond of it, and I've had the misfortune to date people who obviously plotted lives of leisure for themselves on my dime. That *is* repulsive.

    However, I do have a drive to succeed, and understand the importance of pursuing work you find meaningful. I would hope that the person I date has a professional passion, because without understanding that motivation, I doubt that person could ever really fully understand me.

    I also have to say on the subject of material wealth that I subscribe to a certain "Poor Richard's Almanac"/Warren Buffet/Henry Ford-esque industrialist ideal. I have a powerful motivation to see finance impose reason and efficiency on industry, for the purpose of betterment of society, and the ability to reinvest those funds into further development. Ideologically it is the foundation of progress to me, and so you can't always neatly seperate wealth accumulation and noble intent.

    viveutvivas saidI find ambitious corporate climber types a huge turnoff. People who chase money or possessions, or who talk about money or property or houses are absolutely repulsive to me.

    I much prefer someone who is poor, as long as he can support himself, and who is intelligent and educated and understands what the important things in life are. Someone who maybe works less but reads more.
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    Apr 12, 2010 2:20 AM GMT
    Yes you can. I have seen so many 18-24 boys in Jacksonville that has nothing, no job, no car, and no properties, but yet they can afford to buy high end clothing due to their old and not attractive sugar daddy...

    I know a young guy that has a old sugar daddy (renting a 4 million $ home) and got him to sign a contract saying if they ever break up he would take 50% of his assist.
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    Apr 12, 2010 2:21 AM GMT
    On this we're agreed - I would much prefer have someone who is kind and good, and help him to achieve the ends for which he has a drive. So long as he has something he wakes up in the morning for, we're golden.

    barriehomeboy saidAll you hot guys who have nothing, get in touch. I'd rather have one of you that 100 hot guys who think they're something because they drive a BMW. I'd rather sleep in a ditch with an honest boy than sleep with a bitter millionaire in a paris hotel. OK that last one I'm negotiable.
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    Apr 12, 2010 2:23 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy said I'd rather sleep in a ditch with an honest boy than sleep with a bitter millionaire in a paris hotel. OK that last one I'm negotiable.


    My happiest times were getting drunk off the cheapest of wines on a dirty concrete studio floor with my friends. The absolute paramount of felicity. Ditto on snagging that billionaire icon_cool.gif
  • DarkSensation

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    Apr 12, 2010 2:30 AM GMT
    Yes,...If i had Money like Wealthy, I would not mind being with someone who had nothing whether his Lazy or not...as long He got a Hot Body with a Great Dick and a Sex Drive of a Race Car Engine icon_lol.gif ......I would take care you Baby, yes I would icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 12, 2010 2:32 AM GMT
    I was with you until you said "cheapest of wines".

    Ciarsolo said
    barriehomeboy said I'd rather sleep in a ditch with an honest boy than sleep with a bitter millionaire in a paris hotel. OK that last one I'm negotiable.


    My happiest times were getting drunk off the cheapest of wines on a dirty concrete studio floor with my friends. The absolute paramount of felicity. Ditto on snagging that billionaire icon_cool.gif
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    Apr 12, 2010 2:34 AM GMT
    abelian0 saidI was with you until you said "cheapest of wines".

    Ciarsolo said
    barriehomeboy said I'd rather sleep in a ditch with an honest boy than sleep with a bitter millionaire in a paris hotel. OK that last one I'm negotiable.


    My happiest times were getting drunk off the cheapest of wines on a dirty concrete studio floor with my friends. The absolute paramount of felicity. Ditto on snagging that billionaire icon_cool.gif


    So you basically followed along through "My happiest times were getting drunk". Deep!