Boyfriends ?

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    Apr 12, 2010 1:59 AM GMT
    Why is it so easy for some guys to find b/f's quickly one after another and other guys cant even get one ?
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    Apr 12, 2010 2:29 AM GMT
    I wish I could find boyfriends one after the other.
    That would be hot! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 12, 2010 3:20 AM GMT
    my best friend found his new love from adam4adam. I try the best to find one from the site to real world.
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    Apr 12, 2010 3:31 AM GMT

    Some guys set standards which equals quality and some are easy to bed!
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    Apr 12, 2010 3:39 AM GMT
    Hillie said
    Some guys set standards which equals quality and some are easy to bed!


    That is exactly what I was about to say! you beat me to it!!


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    Apr 12, 2010 3:47 AM GMT
    I've always wondered the same 'cause everyone around me seems to be in a relationship. I feel like I'd rather stay single if I didn't find anyone special for me though.
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    Apr 12, 2010 3:51 AM GMT
    I think that confidence has to factor in there somewhere....the more confidence you have the more initiative you are going to take to approach someone and ask them to be a boyfriend. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 12, 2010 3:52 AM GMT
    dsato17 saidI've always wondered the same 'cause everyone around me seems to be in a relationship. I feel like I'd rather stay single if I didn't find anyone special for me though.


    I feel the same way icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 12, 2010 3:58 AM GMT
    I have no clue how to answer the OP's question.
    I'm just working on improving myself and trusting that when the time is right, the right guy and I are gonna click.
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    Apr 12, 2010 5:05 AM GMT
    Agreed with this guy ^

    Take all the time you'd spend chasing guys and use it to focus on self improvement and they'l come to you.
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    Apr 12, 2010 5:20 AM GMT
    Justmi> Why is it so easy for some guys to find b/f's quickly one after another

    Are they really "boyfriends" or just "honeymoon relationships" that peter out after 2-3 weeks... and on to the next one?

    If that's not the type of relationship you want, then that answers your question.


    DrobUA> Take all the time you'd spend chasing guys and use it to focus on self improvement and they'l come to you.

    Very wise.

    I have several (single) friends who if they spent half as much time on the treadmill as they do chasing ghosts in chat-rooms....
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    Apr 12, 2010 5:53 AM GMT
    Define Boyfriend?

    If you mean these guys that go though guys like water and have a new one every other week then I'd say that's a grossly misuse of the word boyfriend. That would be a fling, a hookup, one-night stand, a basic fuck or "strange love".

    A boyfriend (in my opinion) is someone with whom you connect with and are in a serious relationship with. A better question would be to ask how many of the bf 's they've had were serious? Once asked I'm sure that greatly dwindles the number down.

    If it's easy and not worked for with no effort then I don't think it's a relationship. It's just casual sex. Nothing wrong with casual but it isn't a relationship at least not one deserving of the term boyfriend.
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    Apr 12, 2010 6:25 AM GMT
    RPMSoccer saidI have no clue how to answer the OP's question.
    I'm just working on improving myself and trusting that when the time is right, the right guy and I are gonna click.

    DrobUA saidAgreed with this guy ^

    Take all the time you'd spend chasing guys and use it to focus on self improvement and they'l come to you.

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    Apr 12, 2010 6:43 AM GMT
    boyfriends? who needs them?
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    Apr 12, 2010 8:37 AM GMT
    Magnetism?
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    Apr 12, 2010 8:45 AM GMT
    Justmi saidWhy is it so easy for some guys to find b/f's quickly one after another and other guys cant even get one ?


    From my experiences and other gay friends, the ones who can't get a b/f - usually are too picky about something or something, they want Mr. Perfect / trophy bf or something.

    Having a boyfriend takes a lot of work, and when you're in a relationship, you both have to work at it very hard to keep it alive! maybe most guys don't want to try or work at it, that is why most of them are Single? icon_eek.gif

    There are the kind of guys who go through bfs like changing their underpants - hm, they're kind of easy to bed - like someone said it earlier. Try to stay away from those!
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    Apr 12, 2010 10:16 AM GMT
    I agree with most of you. It is just I have been seeing so many guys posting there on a relationship on facebook and it gets me down a little. I am 30 and never had a b/f myself.
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    Apr 12, 2010 11:47 AM GMT
    I go for quality rather than quantity. All of my relationships have been 3+ yrs or longer. Granted, I've only had 2 BFs. The first one and I were engaged but he passed away. Otherwise we would still be together. We were together 7 years.
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    Apr 12, 2010 12:05 PM GMT
    Justmi saidI agree with most of you. It is just I have been seeing so many guys posting there on a relationship on facebook and it gets me down a little. I am 30 and never had a b/f myself.

    Sweetheart, look at your pics. You look like you are in an asylum for the terminally glum. Do you ever smile? ....altho you are cute as a button and I like your current main pic. Smile once in a while.

    I have gone thru horrible medically-induced depression and endured the emotional straight jacket of anti-depressants....you look like that. Lighten up. Brighten up.

    BTW, finding bfs quickly, one after another, doesnt sound like they're really bfs. I wouldnt want a revolving door for bfs. But I am extremely introverted and need a quiet, stable home to recover from social activites.
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    Apr 12, 2010 12:19 PM GMT
    I have to agree with Caslon icon_eek.gificon_lol.gif

    You need some variety in your photographs - not a bunch of self-shots.
    Things that say "Hey, I am fun to hang out with and get to know."

    Just my $.02

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    Apr 12, 2010 12:21 PM GMT
    Justmi saidWhy is it so easy for some guys to find b/f's quickly one after another and other guys cant even get one ?


    Some of us are single because we know what we want and are unwilling to settle for second-best. I have yet to reach the point where my only requirements are working organs and the pulse of life.
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    Apr 12, 2010 3:38 PM GMT
    One must have standards, but setting them at "perfect" in every category is a non-starter. How many good catches will be passed up while waiting for that knight in shining armor?

    This suggests a variant to the joke about the religious guy stuck on a roof during a flood. When people come by boat to rescue him, he refuses to move and says "God will take care of me". As the waters rise, he gives the same answer to a helicopter rescue. Shortly he drowns and goes to heaven, where he inquires why he was forsaken. God looks up and asks: "What? The boat and helicopter I sent didn't make it?!" So if you're waiting for [a] God himself to come down and rescue/date you....


    SexySwimmer> when you're in a relationship, you both have to work at it very hard to keep it alive! maybe most guys don't want to try or work at it, that is why most of them are Single?

    That, too, is a problem I seem to see here often. There are frequent topics posted about relationship issues. Granted some are bad situations that have already gone on too long, but 80% of the chorus, regardless of how small the problem, indeed almost without even reading the topic, have the same, pat, "kick him to the curb" answer.

  • Apr 12, 2010 3:54 PM GMT
    oh come on moises, have some faith. It's simply the area we live in, there isn't much of anything decent around us. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 12, 2010 4:09 PM GMT
    Some people don't really find boyfriends, but short term fuck buddies. They meet, they fall in love (which is really lust) and are broken up within a few weeks. Or they are insecure and need to be with someone to make them feel better about themselves which also don't seem to work out very often..i see these things with some of my friends.

    I happen to enjoy being single. I have a good time, without being promiscuous... and do things that make me happy (cooking, volleyball). If i find someone that can add to that ill consider changing my status from single to being with them. You have to be happy with yourself before you can make someone else happy with you, in my humble opinion. icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 12, 2010 4:17 PM GMT
    Caslon14000 saidSweetheart, look at your pics. You look like you are in an asylum for the terminally glum. Do you ever smile? ....altho you are cute as a button and I like your current main pic. Smile once in a while.

    You beat me to it. Yeah, same observation. If the OP looks as glum as his pics when he goes out, it's no wonder he's having trouble. Now maybe he does smile a lot in person, and is friendly & outgoing, traits that attract most other guys, but then why post pics here that show just the opposite?

    Perhaps time for a personality self-evaluation and remake? I agree with you, he's got the ingredients, so it might be the presentation that's lacking.