their is this guy!!!!

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    Apr 12, 2010 3:28 PM GMT
    ok I have been talking to this guy for over two week. really nice, handsome and sweet. We have been sending each other email almost 4-5 a day. Me personally i want to get to know him for who he is right, just like a lot of people do. he told me that he loves me within the first 4 day of just meeting him, I don't know about you but i don't think it takes that short of time to fall in love right? We got in this big fight about were we stand. I said that i really like him and we can work it out and he said that it wont work. I called the whole thing off and a day later is telling me that if i loved him were he stand does not matter! I am so frustrated!!!!!!!!! icon_mad.gif should I chaise after him or not????
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    Apr 12, 2010 3:33 PM GMT
    If you're fighting over whether or not he could love you so quickly maybe he isn't the one for you. Fighting of any kind isn't a good omen so soon.

    That said,within moments of meeting my guy, we fell asleep cuddled in a hammock and were saying I love you the next day. We've been together years. Sometimes, and I think it's rare, things just click and you KNOW. There shouldn't be a timeline on loving someone but if you're fighting about whether it's possible..not good.
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    Apr 12, 2010 3:43 PM GMT
    I really like him, feel he is rushing me. I want to take it slow but it feel like he want me now! I wish that i could just talk to him face to face about this whole problem. Real people who like/love each other will get in fights it healthy and strengthen the bonds but its almost that he wants to go around the problem then talking about it.
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    Apr 12, 2010 3:48 PM GMT
    KDean861 saidIf you're fighting over whether or not he could love you so quickly maybe he isn't the one for you. Fighting of any kind isn't a good omen so soon...

    I agree. Though as an observation that occurs to me, don't Hollywood movies feature couples who meet fighting, only to eventually fall in love? True, these are straight relationships, but I've always contended that all men & women love in much the same ways, whether straight or gay. Either they both hate each other at first sight in the Hollywood model, or else usually the guy falls for her, but she hates him.

    So maybe those Doris Day - Rock Hudson movies were even more fantasy than their silly plot lines, and the first-hate-then-love formula still in use in movies today is untrue to life? I dunno... icon_question.gif
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    Apr 12, 2010 3:50 PM GMT
    joshypants saidok I have been talking to this guy for over two week.
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    We got in this big fight ...
    Already?
    Sounds like doom & gloom for the future.
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    Apr 12, 2010 3:54 PM GMT
    joshypants saidI really like him, feel he is rushing me. I want to take it slow but it feel like he want me now! I wish that i could just talk to him face to face about this whole problem.


    Have you met this guy in person, yet?
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    Apr 12, 2010 3:58 PM GMT
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    joshypants saidI really like him, feel he is rushing me. I want to take it slow but it feel like he want me now! I wish that i could just talk to him face to face about this whole problem.


    Have you met this guy in person, yet?


    -No.
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    Apr 12, 2010 4:28 PM GMT
    joshypants said
    unfounded7 saidHave you met this guy in person, yet?


    -No.


    I think you'd be wise not to take this situation too seriously until you meet him in person. At this point, it seems you should just be getting to know each other, not fighting about being in love with each other....not that there's anything wrong with that. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 12, 2010 5:18 PM GMT
    joshypants said
    unfounded7 said
    joshypants saidI really like him, feel he is rushing me. I want to take it slow but it feel like he want me now! I wish that i could just talk to him face to face about this whole problem.


    Have you met this guy in person, yet?


    -No.

    What?!!! ... icon_eek.gif

    Oh, you're 18. Nevermind. Your frontal cortex hasn't finished growing yet.
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    Apr 12, 2010 5:25 PM GMT
    Er.

    It's 'there' and not 'their'

    Is English your first language? Because if it is, then I suggest you stop worrying about guys and start doing some work on your grammar and spelling.

    If French is your first language though - I notice you come from Canada, then that's not so bad, though you do need to work on your English a bit more.

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    Apr 12, 2010 5:48 PM GMT
    Caslon14000 said
    joshypants said
    unfounded7 said
    joshypants saidI really like him, feel he is rushing me. I want to take it slow but it feel like he want me now! I wish that i could just talk to him face to face about this whole problem.


    Have you met this guy in person, yet?


    -No.

    What?!!! ... icon_eek.gif

    Oh, you're 18. Nevermind. Your frontal cortex hasn't finished growing yet.


    do you mean my frontal cortex as in my penis????
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    Apr 12, 2010 5:50 PM GMT
    Laurence saidEr.

    It's 'there' and not 'their'

    Is English your first language? Because if it is, then I suggest you stop worrying about guys and start doing some work on your grammar and spelling.

    If French is your first language though - I notice you come from Canada, then that's not so bad, though you do need to work on your English a bit more.

    Loz


    I know I have dyslexia thank you, its a problem i will always have sorry about!!!!!!!!! God made me this way icon_confused.gif
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    Apr 12, 2010 5:52 PM GMT
    From my experience, each person in a relationship arrives at certain realizations about the advancement of feelings at different times. And, if a person has arrived earlier than their partner, then if that person really loves the partner who "isn't there yet", the early arriver will wait patiently (for a while) to see if the other partner will "catch up".

    Relationships are built together. The key word being "together".

    I don't know the whole situation, but for me when people tell me they are in romantic love with me way too soon in the relationship, I question whether they are possibly codependent, a "relationship junkie", too emotionally immature, or manic.

    Talk it out. And if the outcome is not a calm, rational, sane, and loving conversation, I'd politely bring the discussion to a close, get up and run like hell for nearest exit. Click, dialtone, goodbye.

    Aloha and Be Well!

    Alan
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    Apr 12, 2010 5:56 PM GMT
    I wouldnt stress too much over this guy. Not sure how you two could be fighting already. The beginning part of a relationship is suppose to be the best. When are you two going to actually meet? Where is he from?
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    Apr 12, 2010 6:07 PM GMT
    gymguy1 saidI wouldnt stress too much over this guy. Not sure how you two could be fighting already. The beginning part of a relationship is suppose to be the best. When are you two going to actually meet? Where is he from?


    it was nice at first but then he got upset for no reason. Im from Ottawa and he's from Illinois Chicago. I'm 18 he's 24.
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    Apr 12, 2010 6:10 PM GMT
    joshypants said
    Caslon14000 saidWhat?!!! ... icon_eek.gif

    Oh, you're 18. Nevermind. Your frontal cortex hasn't finished growing yet.


    do you mean my frontal cortex as in my penis????


    He was unnessarily mentioning that the frontal lobe of the brain hasn't fully developed until you're in your early 20s. Nothing to worry about. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 12, 2010 6:15 PM GMT
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    joshypants said
    Caslon14000 saidWhat?!!! ... icon_eek.gif

    Oh, you're 18. Nevermind. Your frontal cortex hasn't finished growing yet.


    do you mean my frontal cortex as in my penis????


    He was unnessarily mentioning that the frontal lobe of the brain hasn't fully developed until you're in your early 20s. Nothing to worry about. icon_wink.gif



    OOOOhhh lol funny i'm sorry icon_redface.gif
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    Apr 12, 2010 6:19 PM GMT
    joshypants said
    Caslon14000 said
    joshypants said
    unfounded7 said
    joshypants saidI really like him, feel he is rushing me. I want to take it slow but it feel like he want me now! I wish that i could just talk to him face to face about this whole problem.


    Have you met this guy in person, yet?


    -No.

    What?!!! ... icon_eek.gif

    Oh, you're 18. Nevermind. Your frontal cortex hasn't finished growing yet.


    do you mean my frontal cortex as in my penis????



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    Apr 12, 2010 6:19 PM GMT
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    joshypants said
    Caslon14000 saidWhat?!!! ... icon_eek.gif

    Oh, you're 18. Nevermind. Your frontal cortex hasn't finished growing yet.


    do you mean my frontal cortex as in my penis????


    He was unnessarily mentioning that the frontal lobe of the brain hasn't fully developed until you're in your early 20s. Nothing to worry about. icon_wink.gif

    But not irrelevant. It is one reason younger people are unable to articulate and control their emotions. QED. ... icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 12, 2010 6:26 PM GMT
    you know what i think he is not the one is not worth it anyways!!!!!
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    Apr 12, 2010 6:27 PM GMT
    KDean861 saidThat said,within moments of meeting my guy, we fell asleep cuddled in a hammock and were saying I love you the next day. We've been together years.......


    You're 23! Just how many YEARS can you be together? Just asking icon_biggrin.gif

    Joshy is this the only issue you guys have? Does he creep you out? Are there any other things that you feel are red flags besides this rushing into love issue? If not, explore it a little more. My philosophy about love is, nothing ventured nothing gained and it's better to have loved and lost then not to have loved at all. Set up a meeting with him. Go to Chicago for a weekend or have him come to Ottawa, or meet in Toronto. Who knows!

    Take a chance but keep your eyes open.....I did with my Wulfie and here we are!!!!!!

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    Apr 12, 2010 6:35 PM GMT
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    KDean861 saidThat said,within moments of meeting my guy, we fell asleep cuddled in a hammock and were saying I love you the next day. We've been together years.......


    You're 23! Just how many YEARS can you be together? Just asking icon_biggrin.gif

    Joshy is this the only issue you guys have? Does he creep you out? Are there any other things that you feel are red flags besides this rushing into love issue? If not, explore it a little more. My philosophy about love is, nothing ventured nothing gained and it's better to have loved and lost then not to have loved at all. Set up a meeting with him. Go to Chicago for a weekend or have him come to Ottawa, or meet in Toronto. Who knows!

    Take a chance but keep your eyes open.....I did with my Wulfie and here we are!!!!!!

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    It will be 3.5 years in July. icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 12, 2010 6:41 PM GMT
    joshypants saidyou know what i think he is not the one is not worth it anyways!!!!!

    Now you tell us. ... icon_evil.gif ... d'oh! ... teenagers! ... icon_rolleyes.gif