Being something your not

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    Apr 12, 2010 8:05 PM GMT
    I am not naturally an "outdoorsie" person. I would be very content to stay at home, watch tv, movies, and play video games. But I have been really trying to get outside and be active.

    My one love is volleyball which I play weekly, and now that the weather is nice I have been rollerblading every chance I get.

    What I am trying to get at is from being on RJ for a while and reading posts and profiles it seems like many of y'all are very active but is there anyone else similar to me who have to "force" themselves to be more active? and if you are, what do you do to keep motivated?
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    Apr 12, 2010 10:04 PM GMT
    I'm naturally lazy. It's a wonder I've ever accomplished anything, really.

    But one thing I find works for me, is choosing who you hang out with. Make an effort to hang with active people, and if you're worth the trouble, they'll include you.

    Hang with other couch potatoes, and well... you know the drill icon_smile.gif

    I've biked, rowed, bowled, hiked, played tennis, golfed and been on softball and volleyball teams, etc. only because my friends got me into it. Bless their active little hearts.

    Whew. I need a nap now. This post made me tired.

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    Apr 12, 2010 10:07 PM GMT
    Gaymedes saidwhat do you do to keep motivated?
    I look in the mirror and step on the scale.
    When I see numbers going up, I get concerned. When I see the mirror getting narrower, I get motivated.
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    Apr 12, 2010 10:14 PM GMT
    Just find something you are passionate about. If volleyball does it for you - good! We all have to take good care of ourselves. We get one body. Treat it well!
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    Apr 12, 2010 10:15 PM GMT
    CAJock753 saidJust find something you are passionate about. If volleyball does it for you - good! We all have to take good care of ourselves. We get one body. Treat it well!


    As my grandfather used to say, "If I had known I would live this long, I would have taken better care of myself!"
  • hdurdinr

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    Apr 12, 2010 10:47 PM GMT
    I have to force myself to go to the gym 60 - 70 percent of the time, well maybe not that much but I'd much rather take a nap a lot of the time! One thing is to get plenty of sleep if you can. I'm a night owl but I'm making an effort to go to bed earlier. Also many people may say this is bullshit but I noticed since I started eating mostly organic foods I had a bit more energy - also cutting out almost all simple sugar. to get motivated to exercise listen to your favorite upbeat music, and find more new active music regularly. Sometimes I'll find a really cool song and wait to listen to it for when I go for a run - that way I look forward to going running. Also, if you exercise consistently for around 6 months it will become a habit and it becomes part of your routine. Look a physiques that inspire you, or ones that you could reasonably attain - looking at perfect physiques can sometimes have the opposite effect in terms of motivation ( "I'll never look like that!") - Also plan your snacks - I personally eat a piece of fruit, raisins and almonds as a snack around 3- 3:30 pm and go to the gym at 5. Another thing - as someone else mentioned, hang around active people and that could include an upbeat workout buddy?! All the best - I'm off to bed! lol
  • greenlantern1

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    Apr 12, 2010 11:26 PM GMT
    Find a very hot active guy, follow him (some call it stalking..hahahaha!!!..Just tell him it is a physical emergency!!..lol!), and do whatever he is doing!! If he is doing...."someone", then I will leave that to your own judgement!!.....Seriously, though, these guys gave some great advice...the more you hang out with active people, the more it will become a habit that you will want to continue.....icon_smile.gif
    Joey
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    Apr 12, 2010 11:26 PM GMT
    I've been working out for a few years now which makes it easier to be motivated to work out when I've had a break but if I'm working out at home I watch a movie (that I've already seen so I'm less distracted) while I do it. Usually a movie is an hour and a half so that's a good session. Lately, I haven't had time to do a full work out so when it's not busy at work I drop and do push ups and crunches.

    And going to the gym is good because you can only be there for one reason. The volleyball is great because of the same thing, and other people have to rely on you which pulls up your game.
    And being outdoors you get exposed to sunshine which is a great mood booster.

    I used to have a spot on the wall of bodies I could aspire to and left a spot for myself which was a good motivator and I read a lot of Men's Health magazine because my circle of friends are not inclined to exercise at all (and I didn't know about RJ at the time). I remind myself this is the body I have to live with, if I'm not happy with it I know what to do about it.
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    Apr 12, 2010 11:27 PM GMT
    If your not motivated to do it, don't.

    be yourself.
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    Apr 12, 2010 11:58 PM GMT
    Gaymedes saidWhat I am trying to get at is from being on RJ for a while and reading posts and profiles it seems like many of y'all are very active but is there anyone else similar to me who have to "force" themselves to be more active? and if you are, what do you do to keep motivated?


    As a human, living creature I have to "force" myself to do anything that isn't just going to happen naturally or by default.

    Some days it's easier for me to spring out of bed at 0500 and hit the gym, and some days I have to put my brain on autopilot (developed through habit) and somehow I find myself in the gym and working out despite that voice in my head that says "Go back to sleep!".

    What motivates me are some of the following things:
    The great feeling I get both mentally and physically from my workouts and other activity.
    The complements (and sometimes attempted pickups) that I get from women of all ages.
    The complements that I get from straight guys.
    The sense of being a role model when boys and adolescents comment on my body and ask me how I do it.
    The lusty stares that I get from all kinds of strangers.
    The sense of superior health and relative youth that I enjoy when I am with people who are my age, but they look and feel oh so much older.
    The sense of superior health that I enjoy when I am on a challenging hike with guys 1/2 my age and they're soaked in perspiration and gasping for air at the top of a killer incline, while I've barely broken a sweat and I'm driving the pace.
    The feeling of looking good in just about whatever I wear.
    The looks I get from people in the grocery store when I ditch the shopping cart and hand carry the sacked groceries to the car ala "These muscles are not just for show."
    The rush of a hot marathon of sex with guys 1/2 my age...and when they conk out before me.

    I was a scrawny, weak, geeky kid who loathed his own body and thought I would never have sex in my life because nobody would want me.

    I made a decision 13 years ago to turn that around and with commitment backed by daily action, I've made some progress.

    I have other motivations that are personal and private which are much less driven by my ego and the prideful narcissistic lusty appetite that I have described in some of the examples above. In all cases, I just try to keep all the progress I've made (with my Higher Power's help) from going to my head because "Pride comes before the fall" and outer beauty can be transient. It is inner beauty that is enduring.

    Keep your eyes on the prize, not the price. What you may also find is that the price is part of the prize.

    Now get into action! :-)

    Aloha and Be Well!

    Alan
  • BlackBeltGuy

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    Apr 13, 2010 12:34 AM GMT
    iguanaSF saidI'm naturally lazy. It's a wonder I've ever accomplished anything, really.

    But one thing I find works for me, is choosing who you hang out with. Make an effort to hang with active people, and if you're worth the trouble, they'll include you.

    Hang with other couch potatoes, and well... you know the drill icon_smile.gif

    I've biked, rowed, bowled, hiked, played tennis, golfed and been on softball and volleyball teams, etc. only because my friends got me into it. Bless their active little hearts.

    Whew. I need a nap now. This post made me tired.



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    Apr 13, 2010 2:40 AM GMT
    Thanks all for the advice. Lately it is a good friend that has got me into rollerblading more and I got her into volleyball last summericon_biggrin.gif The good and bad thing with working out with her is we laugh to much and I constantly lose count and we both are very busy chatting that I don't but much focus on my workouticon_razz.gif

    My big issue is my spouse. I love him and don't want anyone to get the wrong impression because he is AWESOME; but due to physical issues he can't be as active as I am and is also a "homebody" type. At times I feel that with me out doing stuff and him at home I am neglecting him. He has never seriously said anything about it (He works with my blading buddy; hence how we meet).

    Again, thanks for all the great advice.
  • jlly_rnchr

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    Apr 13, 2010 11:38 AM GMT
    I might not be naturally inclined to be doing something outside every waking hour, but I wouldn't say I force myself to be active. I got involved in a handful of activities recently, like weekly tennis with my dad and twice-weekly jogs on Kelly Drive with coworkers, that probably fill my quota of interesting activity.

    As always, I got the gym to fall back on. Every eliptical and treadmill has a little LCD screen on it, so you can be a couch potato whilst exercising, very smart move.
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    Apr 13, 2010 12:00 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidBeing Something YOU'RE Not.

    Come on with the bad English already. Dang! icon_eek.gif


    oops, sorryicon_sad.gif
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    Apr 13, 2010 7:07 PM GMT
    Gaymedes said
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidBeing Something YOU'RE Not.

    Come on with the bad English already. Dang! icon_eek.gif


    oops, sorryicon_sad.gif

    On three lets pretend like it's actually THAT big of a deal...

    1.... 2..... 3...
    "Awwwwe man!!"

    Acknowledged, but this isn't "Grammar Jocks". No need for apologies or " icon_sad.gif " Gaymedes

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    Apr 13, 2010 7:20 PM GMT
    The decay of western society is not a big deal?

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    Apr 13, 2010 7:26 PM GMT
    subjectively speaking, I think the use of "decay" is much more accurate as a past than present progressive participle.
    In which case the current state of American English and Western Society is moot... that battle has been lost, "yo".

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    Apr 13, 2010 7:29 PM GMT
    Gaymedes saidI am not naturally an "outdoorsie" person. I would be very content to stay at home, watch tv, movies, and play video games. But I have been really trying to get outside and be active.

    My one love is volleyball which I play weekly, and now that the weather is nice I have been rollerblading every chance I get.

    What I am trying to get at is from being on RJ for a while and reading posts and profiles it seems like many of y'all are very active but is there anyone else similar to me who have to "force" themselves to be more active? and if you are, what do you do to keep motivated?


    Folks workout because it feels good.
  • Tyinstl

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    Apr 13, 2010 7:42 PM GMT
    I love video games, I'm a lot like you. I don't go outside much either.

    Have you tried Dance Dance Revolution? It's amazing cardio and you can play it in the privacy of your own home.
  • xKorix

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    Apr 13, 2010 7:51 PM GMT
    I find balance helps. I push myself when I feel I can and have the mental reserves to do so or go easy on myself when I feel I've run out of will-power/discipline/mental energy. It is mentally challenging/draining changing your habits and it does take time. I find I can accomplish more if I allow myself to rest/relax without being hard on myself or believing I should be doing more. Also the notion of will-power being like a muscle is true; it can only lift what it can, so start small if that's all you can do; you don't want to strain it that'll just lead to burn-out; it needs to re-charge/rest and it also needs to be challenged for it to grow.
    At this point I can accomplish more and more without burning out or being harsh on myself about taking it easy.
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    Apr 13, 2010 8:06 PM GMT
    Grammar is a big thing since I want to be a teacher and am married to one that teaches 8th grade Englishicon_razz.gif

    Tynistl, I may consider it but after going shopping with my 75yr old grandmother who doesn't get around well and wanted to buy Dance Dance Revolution...... it kinda ruined it for me. I love my grandma but she is a bit crazyicon_biggrin.gif

    Actually today I just got in may new pair of rollerblades and had to try them out. Bye bye went the gym and hello to the bike pathicon_biggrin.gif

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    Apr 14, 2010 12:29 AM GMT
    Tyinstl said
    Have you tried Dance Dance Revolution? It's amazing cardio and you can play it in the privacy of your own home.


    This stuff surely is fun, like the Wii games, but just like all the other "home exercise" stuff, there's a classic pattern to these purchases that is the basis for a century long line of hucksters selling everything from cure-all elixirs, vibrating belts, twister platforms, rowing machines that store under your bed, bow-flexes, and on and on, up to Dance Dance Revolution:

    The initial flurry of excitement, just like with any other new toy, then the fairly rapid demotion into dust-gathering household detritus.

    So while I encourage everyone to play Dance Dance Revolution, it definitely is good exercise and quite fun, here's my advice:

    When you hear the phrase "in the privacy of your own home" and the pitch person isn't talking about sex, just say no.

    The sad truth is, people who buy this stuff don't get fit. 99% of the time, they are purchased because folks are continually looking for a quick and easy fix. That's not to say you might not be the 1%, but until you tell me how much fat you lost on Dance Dance Revolution over 6 months, and not just "I've done it every day for 2 weeks now", then I'll hold off putting you in that exclusive 1% club.

    People who regularly play sports, do Weight Watchers, or go to a gym are the ones that see results. This has been true for, oh... a really long time.

    Find a playmate that isn't necessarily your hubby, and pick up the gym or a sport with him/her. Your hubby sounds like he'd approve, and maybe even join in one day when he sees how happy you are when you come home from your play dates.

    EDIT: Just read your roller blade post. Yay! You go girl!

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  • Sk8Tex

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    Apr 14, 2010 12:34 AM GMT
    OMG lol! I saw that "Shake weight" on TV the other day and busted up laughing. Never seen so many people so enthusiastic about the jerk off maneuver. icon_lol.gif I had to tell my coworkers about it the next day and find the video clips online. icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 14, 2010 12:42 AM GMT
    My advice to someone who wants to become a more active person: Get rid of your television set. You will naturally gravitate to becoming more active to fill the void of your previously sedentary form of entertainment.
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    Apr 14, 2010 12:46 AM GMT
    catfish5 saidMy advice to someone who wants to become a more active person: Get rid of your television set.


    Good advice!

    And this reminds me of another reason why all the silly home exercise crap is advertised as "As Seen on TV", as if that is some sort of positive endorsement: this stuff is marketed to TV couch potatoes for a reason. The manufacturers behind these products know their demographic cold.

    Odd thing about not watching TV -- you're never exposed to "get fit quick" come-ons -- and you likely won't need em anyway, cause your activity level (and calorie expenditure) will instantly go up.

    This is the product marketer's dream consumer:

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