Drinking alcohol

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    Apr 13, 2010 5:22 AM GMT
    Based on a similar discussion over smoking weed, I was wondering if drinking alcohol is a deal breaker for anyone. For me, I see nothing wrong with a couple of drinks here and there, but having more than a couple of drinks more than a couple of nights a week is a deal breaker for me. Everyone has their nights to cut loose, I guess, but someone who gets totally drunk out of their mind more than just the occasional time is a total deal breaker. Drunk people annoy the hell out of me.
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    Apr 13, 2010 6:58 AM GMT
    Isn't a little wine everyday suppose to be good for you?
  • anAKsomebody

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    Sep 27, 2015 8:03 AM GMT
    I've had absolutely too many negative experiences centered around alcohol in my life to even want alcohol to be a part it. Alcohol is a deal breaker, just like any controlled substance use and cigarettes would be too. I don't mind if my friends choose to have these in their life; that is their right to choose such things. But alcohol is not welcome in my home.
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    Sep 27, 2015 8:25 AM GMT
    I enjoy a good cocktail and grew up in a home with a well stocked bar. There were always parties and good times. There were even a few negative experiences but good the times and memories far outweigh the bad. Alcohol was always a part of celebrations and I and my siblings were allowed a cocktail or two before the legal drinking age. My parents never made smoking or drinking taboo. The result was we learned moderation. Alcohol was a part of the celebration not the reason for the celebration.

    I hate when people intentionally drink with the expressed intention of getting shit faced drunk. I didn't even do that when I was in college.

    Although, I can see where people who may have experience with an alcoholic parent or ex partner may not want to have anything to do with alcohol and I respect that.
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    Sep 27, 2015 11:53 AM GMT
    at minimum uncontrolled alcohol is a deal breaker but so is any addiction. alcohol is not possible if you have any type of goals for your body, health.
  • tictactoe

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    Sep 27, 2015 12:07 PM GMT
    I think alcohol tastes yucky.
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    Sep 27, 2015 12:35 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan said

    I hate when people intentionally drink with the expressed intention of getting shit faced drunk.


    Same here. Sadly, there is a culture of this in the UK. It tends to be a very British (and possibly Irish) trait and not something you see in continental Europe. If any other drug caused the crime and anti-social behaviour that alcohol does, there would be a national outcry. Thankfully, it is a trend that appears to be on the wane:

    Binge-drinking among young adults in Britain is continuing to fall, figures from the Office for National Statistics show.
    http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-31452735
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    Sep 27, 2015 2:21 PM GMT
    Drinking in and of itself doesn't bother me. I drink socially. However, drinking excessively is not a good look either.

    You have to know when, where and how much is acceptable to drink.
    If I'm out to dinner with friends, then 2 drinks is generally all I'll drink with dinner. If I'm out on a Friday or sat night and bar hopping, then drinking more than 2 drinks is generally gonna happen over the course of the night.

    Being that I don't go clubbing like I used to I prob only drink once or twice a month now. And it's usually wine. I'm an avid runner and I coach cross country, so I find that the day after I've drank, I feel a little off when it comes to running. It's hard to describe, but I don't feel as on point.

    When it comes to dating someone who drinks-- I generally don't mind as long as they have their shit together and under control. If they wanna drink more than I do, that's not an issue, just don't be getting shit faced every. single. night.
  • giodude

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    Sep 27, 2015 5:07 PM GMT
    People can do as they please. If people want to get drunk, then they can do so, but I will have no part in it. I'll be friends with heavy drinkers, so long as they don't get drunk around me. I don't mind being in the presence of people who are consuming alcohol, but if you get drunk, I'm gone.

    Alcohol tastes gross, firstly. I've had it in my mouth and never swallowed it. Secondly, it's classified as a poison, why would I voluntarily poison myself? How in any way is that fun?
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    Sep 27, 2015 6:50 PM GMT
    giodude saidPeople can do as they please. If people want to get drunk, then they can do so, but I will have no part in it. I'll be friends with heavy drinkers, so long as they don't get drunk around me. I don't mind being in the presence of people who are consuming alcohol, but if you get drunk, I'm gone.

    Alcohol tastes gross, firstly. I've had it in my mouth and never swallowed it. Secondly, it's classified as a poison, why would I voluntarily poison myself? How in any way is that fun?

    girl, please.
    That's all subjective.
    Alcohol doesn't taste gross to everyone.

    And you're not being poisoned by drinking it in moderation.
    So, get down from your high horse with your sanctimonious bullshit. Talking about how you've never even so much as swallowed the stuff! Fucking prude, then you have no idea what you're really talking about and aren't relatebale to most people. You've never even had alcohol before. Therefore, your thoughts on alcohol are utter bullshit. #trueStory
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Sep 27, 2015 7:27 PM GMT
    Thanks, Lord! My old folks were smart enough to teach me how to drink responsibly.

    So, over the time, I have grown into a social drink type only. The age of "Dynasty" with all the power dudes clinking with their glasses of Scotch/Bourbon, and smoking like stags are definitely so past us.

    This translates to having a glass or two of good wine with a nice dinner. Maybe a glass of champagne before. And no drinks with meals or without them at home if not socializing, which is somewhat of a rarity these days.

    I am tolerant towards the guys who drink. Their life. They are calling the shots. Would I tolerate this in a partner, and among a group of close house friends? Nope. If a dude cannot hold his shit together, he needs help - not parties, drinks and smokes.

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  • tj85016

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    Sep 27, 2015 9:38 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidI enjoy a good cocktail and grew up in a home with a well stocked bar. There were always parties and good times. There were even a few negative experiences but good the times and memories far outweigh the bad. Alcohol was always a part of celebrations and I and my siblings were allowed a cocktail or two before the legal drinking age. My parents never made smoking or drinking taboo. The result was we learned moderation. Alcohol was a part of the celebration not the reason for the celebration.

    I hate when people intentionally drink with the expressed intention of getting shit faced drunk. I didn't even do that when I was in college.

    Although, I can see where people who may have experience with an alcoholic parent or ex partner may not want to have anything to do with alcohol and I respect that.


    yep
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    Sep 28, 2015 12:43 AM GMT
    I could see how it would be a deal-breaker for an (ex) alcoholic (There are a lot of gay men who are (ex)alcoholics) , who can't drink himself, and would not want to have a partner/date who does.