When you're feeling down

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    Apr 13, 2010 5:50 AM GMT
    So, I'm usually a happy person, but lately I've been feeling somewhat down about friendship, relationship, and pretty much my personal life as a whole.

    But on the other hand, I've realized, in the past, whenever I feel down or lonely, that's usually because I'm feeling insecure or having too much free time. With that being said, I'm thinking the key of healthy, fulfilling life is to keep yourself occupied with something meaningful every day.

    Is this making any sense? I guess my question is how do all of the independent, single guys on here take care of themselves and pull themselves together when they're feeling low?

    I've pretty much always been positive and encouraging to others as well, so I don't really know what to do these days. Any thoughts/advice?
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    Apr 13, 2010 6:49 AM GMT
    I suppose it's the incongruities between your actual self and your ideal self that cause stress and worry in your life.


    ....icon_smile.gif I'm such a psych major in the making icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 13, 2010 11:35 PM GMT
    I put things into perspective. A lot of the times when I'm down, it's because I'm too hard on myself and for stupid reasons so I try to snap myself out of this "poor me, why does this happen to me" complex and look around and see that I've got things pretty good in life.
    At least I'm not homeless, getting shot at, famine stricken, living under dictatorship and have access to health care. If the biggest concern I have is being worried that a friend is being two faced and I weigh up the bad shit that happens to other people, then it makes me feel like I can tackle this because my problems aren't so big after all.

    And I work out as hard as I can. It helps clear and focus your mind.

    A lot of the times, guys will internalize their issues because it's what we're supposedly meant to do. But if you put it rationally to paper or have a unbiased, unsympathetic ear to listen to you, you deal with it much quicker.
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    Apr 14, 2010 12:22 AM GMT
    Thanks for the comments guys. When I'm in situations like this, I usually tell myself that I'm just tired so that I can suck it up. I guess it's just one of those days when you feel like things around you just suck...but anyways, I'll be fine.
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    Apr 14, 2010 12:31 AM GMT
    When I am down and blue . I like to call my friends and we all go to all the nasty dive bars to see how the other half lives and dies . It always brings me back to center ! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 14, 2010 12:38 AM GMT
    I discovered that these words of one of your Presidents are true for me....

    "“To ease another's heartache is to forget one's own.”
    - Abraham Lincoln

    -Doug
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    Apr 14, 2010 12:42 AM GMT
    If I am feeling that way, I force myself to go for a long intense run. I know I will be pumping with good thoughts by the end of it.

    Then hot shower, the best meal possible and then critically evaluate what's getting me down, and make a few small adjustments where appropriate.

    In the end it is all about perspective. The good things I work hard for, the negative things, if they can't be repaired, I tend to think 'just fuck it' and move on.
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    Apr 14, 2010 4:20 AM GMT
    TRACKBOY111> Haha...dive bars eh? I might have to try that one day. ;)

    Doug> Aww, you always leave sweet comments on here! People around you must be happy to have you.

    AussieBody> Ah, good food always brings me up. icon_smile.gif