CANT CUM?!?!?!

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    Apr 13, 2010 5:36 PM GMT
    Hey Guys I recently started dating a new guy and we have had sex a few times and for some reason I cant cum. I've been with other guys before and I have had the same problem. I can easily keep going for 3 hours, staying hard the whole time. We switched between oral, anal, etc. and I still cant come. Whats my problem. My boyfriend is starting to blame himself that he cant satisfy me but thats not the case cause I'm very attracted to him and he's very good in bed.
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    Apr 13, 2010 6:01 PM GMT
    It's either something between your ears (inhibition or anxiety of some kind), or it's medical.

    Go to a doctor, and go to a counselor or therapist to determine which it is.
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    Apr 13, 2010 6:35 PM GMT
    Can you cum when masturbating?
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    Apr 13, 2010 7:33 PM GMT
    Are you on any antidepressants? They can do that sometimes. Don't ask me how I know... icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Apr 14, 2010 2:46 AM GMT
    ejay79 saidAre you on any antidepressants? They can do that sometimes. Don't ask me how I know... icon_rolleyes.gif


    Yeah, tell me about it - know firsthand about this myself. So frustrating sometimes. icon_mad.gif
  • Brando

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    Jun 02, 2012 5:35 AM GMT
    Been there... but my real problem is just staying hard. I cant do it. When I jack off, all is fine and good, but during sex, it just dies at any given moment. WhY?!
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    Jun 02, 2012 2:47 PM GMT
    ytboi saidHey Guys I recently started dating a new guy and we have had sex a few times and for some reason I cant cum. I've been with other guys before and I have had the same problem.


    Based on the quoted text, it sounds as if this has been an ongoing issue and is not unique to a specific partner.

    If my assumption is correct, I feel you should seek professional advice.
  • mybud

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    Jun 05, 2012 6:43 PM GMT
    Brando saidBeen there... but my real problem is just staying hard. I cant do it. When I jack off, all is fine and good, but during sex, it just dies at any given moment. WhY?!
    Dude you're 23...I'd see a doc
  • Suetonius

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    Jun 23, 2012 8:04 AM GMT
    Brando saidmy real problem is just staying hard. I cant do it. When I jack off, all is fine and good, but during sex, it just dies at any given moment. WhY?!

    If the plumbing works when jacking off, but not with a partner, the problem is probably in your other head. Anxiety, depression, guilt, lack of interest, lack of sleep, alcohol, drugs - lots of possible causes. See a psychologist/therapist for a long time, or see a doctor and get a prescription for ED medications (they generally work, regardless of the cause), or both.
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    Jun 23, 2012 2:14 PM GMT
    ytboi saidHey Guys I recently started dating a new guy and we have had sex a few times and for some reason I cant cum. I've been with other guys before and I have had the same problem. I can easily keep going for 3 hours, staying hard the whole time. We switched between oral, anal, etc. and I still cant come. Whats my problem. My boyfriend is starting to blame himself that he cant satisfy me but thats not the case cause I'm very attracted to him and he's very good in bed.
    You're STRAIGHT!
  • FRE0

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    Aug 17, 2012 3:19 AM GMT
    It's unlikely that a doctor could help. There are some problems that doctors cannot take care of.

    Edging for too long can make it impossible to climax. Resting for a while after long edging may solve the problem. Also, it isn't necessary to have a climax every time anyway. It's a problem only if you see it as a problem.