Should I stay or should I go.

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    Apr 14, 2010 11:42 PM GMT
    I finally meet a guy who is smart, handsome and fun and most importantly, very much into me. And still I'm not feeling it. I'm just not that into him. I don't
    know what to do, I don't want to take advantage of him but still, i'll
    never find a better catch than this. I should be so happy and i'm not.
    Any advice is appreciated.
  • LatinUomo

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    Apr 15, 2010 12:11 AM GMT
    Tell him that and move on.

    If you're not into him, you'll never gonna be. It's that simple. It would cruel to lead him on, not like you are.

    You'll find another you're into and the feelings are mutual. You're only 24.
  • Timbales

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    Apr 15, 2010 12:13 AM GMT
    How long have you been seeing him?
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    Apr 15, 2010 2:37 AM GMT
    Hmm....if u were ALOT older, i'd say settle but you're only 24 and have plenty of time to find the right one. let this poor guy off the hook and find one you actually like
  • johnny9027

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    Apr 15, 2010 5:53 AM GMT
    move on! even though u wanna give a try but finally u will still feel nothing,(except for that he save ur life or other drama happened) anyway, moving on is better for both of u guys and don't procrastinate in a relationship that u don't really want to. I've been there, and it sucks!
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    Apr 16, 2010 12:12 AM GMT
    I was afraid so.
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    Apr 16, 2010 12:14 AM GMT
    Yeah I think you should move on. I just had the same dilemma with my ex and we were together 11 years. It doesn't get any easier if you stay together and just aren't that into him—trust me. It doesn't mean you can't have a great relationship together, but just don't expect fireworks or to feel head over heels in love.
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    Apr 16, 2010 12:25 AM GMT
    If your'e not into him, dont be holding on to him until you find someone better..... how would you like it if the tables were turned around and it was you who was being played? wouldn't feel so nice. I would just tell him the truth and let him go, im sure you'll find someone else when you least expect it.
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    Dec 28, 2010 7:31 AM GMT
    boulderic saidI finally meet a guy who is smart, handsome and fun and most importantly, very much into me. And still I'm not feeling it. I'm just not that into him. I don't
    know what to do, I don't want to take advantage of him but still, i'll
    never find a better catch than this. I should be so happy and i'm not.
    Any advice is appreciated.



    There's a million reasons why It's not jumping off the way you want it to.
    Some people are good for you...
    but in this case it sounds like HE is better for someone else.
    And that's not a compliment.

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    Dec 28, 2010 7:46 AM GMT
    you need to say more to get advices :

    Is the sex good ?

    Did ever 'felt it' with someone else ?
  • TadPohl

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    Dec 28, 2010 8:36 AM GMT
    Dude, have some empathy for the poor guy. You might end up feeding a superficial fantasy for yourself and for him. It's definitely not healthy and the dream will shatter with awful consequences.
    My testimony:
    I was once the other guy. My boyfriend wanted desperately to love me, but there was no chemistry for him. I was dragged through a messed up relationship based on a "maybe" and had my heart broken.
    It sincerely would have been better if we had simply remained friends. I wouldn't have bought into the illusion of a sincere relationship and had my feelings and pride painfully wounded.

    Perhaps you'll date later in life, perhaps you'll becomes amazing friends. I don't think it's wise to force things that don't feel right. It's a waste to start a relationship dishonestly.
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    Dec 28, 2010 8:42 AM GMT
    If the shoe don't fit right......