The dreaded VD... (Valentine's Day)

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    Jan 26, 2008 1:50 PM GMT
    I know I'm jumping the gun by a few weeks, but I tend to get caught unprepared for it so I'm taking advantage of having remembered early and doing something about it: asking you mooks (with all due respect) what you're planning, or best surprise you've recieved, or what.

    Valentine's day is one heck of a double-edged sword. As much as it appeals to the side of me that's dumb, young and in love, I also know that screwing it up will result in weeks of hearing about it icon_rolleyes.gif

    So come on, inspire me. What can I do for the boy...
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    Jan 26, 2008 2:21 PM GMT
    Mine likes the traditional roses. They delight him to no end. Guess I've got it easy...not cheap...but easy. ... icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 26, 2008 2:55 PM GMT
    Personally, i think the best thing is to spend special time with him. Yeah, and do the things that bonds you together (though preferably something that he enjoys alot). Lol. Yeah that's my opinion.
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    Jan 26, 2008 4:18 PM GMT
    Valentine's Day should be renamed by the greeting card companies as National Singles Awareness Day. It's designed to make single people feel bad and inadequate. And I usually do when I'm single this time of yearicon_lol.gif


    Now to answer your question. You really can't screw this one up. Do something kind and thoughtful. Get him tickets to a show or a game he really wants to see or some other personalized and thoughtful gift or gesture . I suggest making him part of at least some of the planning. Maybe you guys can come up with the dinner ideas together. I've found that if one partner completely hijacks the evening, it can make the other one uncomfortable or even resentful. And just remember that nothing says "I Love You" on Valentines Day like no-holds-barred ass-slapping butt-pounding freaky wild monkey sex.icon_razz.gif

    Now my best surprise was when an ex bought me a box set collectors edition of books I had really been wanting. he let me make dinner and then we went and saw a movie which he let me pick out. When we got home he threw me down and gave me rough lovins on the stairs before we could even get the bedroom.icon_twisted.gif

    My worst experience was when the guy I was seeing at the time pouted during dinner and refused to eat hardly anything I cooked. he then said that I was too nice and that my behavior was disingenuous because nobody is that easy to get along with. and that's when he dumped meicon_rolleyes.gif


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    Jan 26, 2008 4:18 PM GMT
    You asked for the best (in this case WORST) surprise I've ever recieved on Valentine's Day.

    I was assistant stage managing a show that had a performance on Valentine's day. All these couples were in the audience to see the show as their date, and then there were some AWKWARD people too,
    anyway
    about 10 minutes before the house opens, i find out that the sound board will not communicate to the house speakers, so we have NO SOUND. No i am also a professional sound designer, so i tried fixing it all i could, but the sound board was being cooperated with by a MAC computer, and not the usual pc's i work with, so i didn't really know what to do, but i fixed all i could, and still we had no sound.

    That performance was the worst surprise i've ever recieved.
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    Jan 26, 2008 4:20 PM GMT
    you'll really hear about it for weeks of you "screw it up" ? wow, that sounds like a lot of pressure for a holiday made up by Hallmark to sell cards. don't worry about it man... just love him every day.
  • kasch33

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    Jan 26, 2008 4:22 PM GMT
    I met my ex bf on Valentine's Day, which was always cool and romantic up until we broke up...now it kinda sucks for obvious reasons...lol

    Best gift he gave though was a weighted box that had a map and two plane tickets for
    San Francisco.
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    Jan 26, 2008 5:31 PM GMT
    He's joking, but I do hear about it, I'm still catching shit for Christmas. I have a tendency to try and think of something different or "special" but I guess I usually land on the wrong kind of special and do something that doesn't specifically speak to him.

    As it happens, I'm usually on the singles side of the issue when mid-February rolls around, this'll be my first to completely give in to the evil marketing forces nipping at my wallet, so there's a good risk of it going to my head. If I get carried away, let me know.

    How about renting a sky-writer...
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    Jan 26, 2008 5:42 PM GMT
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    Yea, as you might have thought from these pics, I have never had a reason to celebrate V-day yet.

    I would start with a morning of breakfast in bed, followed by a steamy bath/shower. Next would be the walk(or drive) into town to buy some oysters, chocolate, flowers, candles (red), champagin, massage oils, and strawberries (substitute lovers favorite fruit here). While love is at work/out clean and ready the oysters, set candles in some key places (don't light house on fire..thats not quite romantic), cover the bed in a light coating of rose peddles, prepair the chocolate for dipping (either the fruit or your fingers in). When he gets home, prepair a light dinner (preferably with some of his favorite foods) but start with the oysters. For desert the strawberries (or other fruit) and SOME of the chocolate sauce. Next head to the bed room to give him a pleasureable massage useing the oils and after that find a use for the left over chocolate sauce *wink*...from there its all kissing, cuddleing, and love.
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    Jan 26, 2008 5:55 PM GMT
    I am asking my guy to marry me on Valentine's Day...
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    Jan 26, 2008 5:58 PM GMT
    jarhead5536 saidI am asking my guy to marry me on Valentine's Day...

    That's tough to top.

    Is massage one of those things where the thought counts, or if you suck at it should you leave it to professionals?
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    Jan 26, 2008 5:59 PM GMT
    there is so much pressure to do something fun or romantic. I remember last year I really didn't celebrate it with my bf, didn't to the whole roses, dinner thing. And he still reminds me how I didn't to anything. So this year I'm getting him involved in it. Asking what he'd like to do, i think I might surprise him with the oysters idea. Maybe a show? I need to plan...
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    Jan 26, 2008 6:17 PM GMT
    you know, I knew what a mook was in general but I had to look it up online in the urban dictionary ..

    A term coined by Douglas Rushkoff in an episode of PBS's "Frontline" entitled "The Merchants of Cool." Mooks are archetypal young males(teens-early 20s) who act like moronic boneheads. They are self centered simpletons who live a drunken frat-boy lifestyle(or are frat-boys). Examples can be found anytime someone watches "Jackass." Rushkoff claimed that the media glorifies this ideal and stifles natural self expression, however, some people might argue teenage boys have always acted like morons(its actually a long-standing stereotype). Nonetheless, standardized conformist dumbass-culture behind a veneer of exhuberance is a scary notion indeed.

    Cool .. Anyway, As far as lovers, I don't care much for flowers, unless they are still in the ground in the wild, but am partial to candy. Other things that are cool .. making out in a jacuzzi or bath, massage and candlelight stuff, eating out at a nice restaurant and just enjoying each others company. Touchy feely stuff that feels good. A little card or note that can be hung on the fridge for a week or so is nice. YOU said you have a side that is young, dumb and in love .. I think he will know what to do. Just be sincere about it. If valentines day is not about love and romance, it is just another day.
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    Jan 26, 2008 6:20 PM GMT
    Freakyninjamonkey saidYea, as you might have thought from these pics, I have never had a reason to celebrate V-day yet.
    LOL that "you WILL love me" card is too funny. In the spirit of recent stalker love maybe it could be something like "I would wear a diaper and drive to Florida nonstop to see you .."
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    Jan 27, 2008 12:01 AM GMT
    Hahahah, excellent reference there, activeandfit. Well done =) See, living in Cape Canaveral, even temporarily, messes with your judgement!

    And thanks for the lesson on mooks, guess I never gave it that much thought... but I'll go with that definition, sure.

    Williamw30- see what I mean? It's like I screwed up by remembering ahead of time, so now I have to do something about it.

    And yes, I do readily admit to qualifying as "young, dumb and in love" but my problem is flying by the seat of my pants usually lands me in trouble! (See above comment about living in Cape Canaveral and judgement) I need to add to that description, amend it with "dense." Card for the fridge might be good... how does he know to put it on the fridge? Write it on the envelope?
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    Jan 27, 2008 12:28 AM GMT
    novembermike saidCard for the fridge might be good... how does he know to put it on the fridge? Write it on the envelope?


    Well, you could get one of those sexy guy magnets with a note on it -- a fridge magnet would be self evident. BUT Just as an interesting side note I have to tell you something.

    I was making business cards once and found this pack of "business card magnets" that are self adhesive on one side for making your business cards into fridge magnets. Well I soon figured you could stick other stuff to them.

    I began shrinking sexy guy pics and even friend pics, printing them and sticking on the magnets and then on the fridge .. viola' .. custom fridge magnets. You can even stick them (one or two) to the back of a nice card and there you have and instant Card magnet.
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    Jan 27, 2008 12:38 AM GMT
    ActiveandFit... does the scientific community know about this? That's absolute genius.

    Damn near exactly why I started this thread, just didn't know it would work.
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    Jan 27, 2008 1:04 AM GMT
    lol .. see .. fund the sciences
  • irishkcguy

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    Jan 27, 2008 1:49 AM GMT
    I hate Valentine's Day. We shouldn't require a holiday to tell the people in our lives how much we love them. And as it relates to the bf/partner relationship, Valentine's Day is even more gross to me. It's supposed to be a day about romance. Romance, to me, is spontaneous, not rehearsed or obligational. If you want to surprise him with flowers, just do it. Don't wait and do it just because it's February 14. Couples should have Valentine's Day several times each month. I work in the food service industry and Valentine's Day is a horror show, much scarier than Halloween -- couples going out to dinner with no feeling of passion or romance, just the obligation that they are supposed to go out because it's February 14. Ugh.
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    Jan 27, 2008 3:10 AM GMT
    Aright sunshine, lemme try and make something constructive out of that...
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    Jan 27, 2008 3:17 AM GMT
    irishkcguy said We shouldn't require a holiday to tell the people in our lives how much we love them.
    I agree ..icon_sad.gif
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    Jan 27, 2008 3:21 AM GMT
    Here's the constructive thing: you don't need a holiday to do something special for your guy. And you don't need to worry about doing the "right thing." I hope your bf would be the type of guy that would appreciate the attempt at doing something nice for him. I think surprising people is always more romantic that some stupid date on the calendar that says I am supposed to.
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    Jan 27, 2008 3:48 AM GMT
    jarhead5536I am asking my guy to marry me on Valentine's Day...

    Now THAT's awesome! icon_biggrin.gif

    Since my guy won't be back home until late April or early May (and yes, I'm trying to get the calendar to advance faster, but its not working), I'll be sending him Godiva truffles and flowers (roses and stargazer lilies) and a very "adult" V-Day card. I'd rather send him me, but that's not going to work out this time... dammit... icon_sad.gif

    And novembermike... the sky writer thing... ummm... come down to earth just a bit. icon_wink.gif How about taking him to an all male spa to have a spa day for two, and then out to a nice dinner and a show or movie? Nothing says I love you like pampering your guy! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 27, 2008 12:09 PM GMT
    Irish, take it easy. It's not like I need St.Pattie's day to drink, either. I understand the superficial characteristics of Valetine's Day and I'm not saying everyone has to go out and do something or they're bad people, but why be so against it?

    Unless your birthday is on Feb.14th and Valentine's Day takes away some of the attention (got two friends with birthdays on holidays - makes it easier for me to remember, but bugs the hell out of them), it's a day where, regardless of the sincerity of the actual day, people are going to see hearts and teddy bears and crap all over the place. It's an easy opportunity to make someone feel like the day is there for them, so why not? Unless there's some horrible dark secret to it that I don't know, like the greeting cards are made in a child labor sweatshop.

    Besides, we do other stuff for each other throughout the year. This is just bonus.

    NativeDude, I think I'm in the same boat as far as not getting to actualy see my guy on the 14th. Sky writer might be too much... I could order his favorite pizza for him, maybe.
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    Jan 27, 2008 12:36 PM GMT
    Lucky for me my BF would be overjoyed with a bucket of hot wings and a six pack of hard cider.. i'll throw in the jelly belly variety pack for good measureicon_biggrin.gif