Chase is a game. It's fun for sexual conquer, but so unhealthy and a very weak cement for building something lasting.
To the guys who are 'being chased'...running and then getting caught may feel fun, but in the end, if you WANT to be caught I very much doubt you'd even flinch in any direction other than toward the man you hope to catch you. Sure you might have been burned, or have trust issues that make you skittish when you feel a powerful connection, and you think "well, if this is real, he'll come get me." Okay, not the healthiest approach, but for a week or two it's cool, so long as when he shows up you recognize how good you feel that he came after you. That's the signal to stay put. If you're going to be loved, and be a lover, then you have to take risks. Hope is a bitch, but every now and then, it delivers. On the other hand, if you're just tired and decided 'what the fuck, let's try this out and I'll see what happens'...brother, wake the fuck up, the other guy's heart is not a toy. If you're really not that into him, grow a set and say so, no matter how bad it makes you look or feel, you owe him some respect. He's not doing this to keep you amused until the real deal comes along. Be a man.
To the guys who chase...you may have fun hoping to win, but if he's still running after a second date/call/text...brother that guy is just toying with you, and it's for certain and sure that he's going to feel rested enough after a while to get up and play this game another day. Outrunning is not a win, it's being a pace car putz for somebody who needs therapy. Value yourself enough to know that if they aren't buying, they're not worthy. If you find yourself telling him how you feel and he's "woa! too much, too soon" he's right on one account, it is too much, and he should be allowed the privilege of going without....any. Move on.
Love feels good. Repeat, feels good. Passion and flattery can be real, and they can overwhelm. Let it catch you off guard and make you feel a little overwhelmed and see what happens. Trust grows, balance is found, and you'll find a way. But seriously, men, if you don't like to feel good, get out of the game and get help.