Immature Men

  • NyRuinz

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    Apr 15, 2010 4:47 PM GMT
    I swear I feel like i'm back in elementary school. My roommates friend has a crush on me, but the way he expresses it is so juvenile. Like whenever I am around he is constantly bragging, acts like a jerk to me (rude etc.), ignores me occasionally yet if I get a paper cut he's knocking people down to get the neosporin and band-aids. The other day he was flirting with one of my roommates females friends, yet he kept glancing over at me to see if I noticed (and yes he's gay). At first I thought he was just an annoying douche, until my roommate told me he's only like that when i'm around and it's because he has a crush on me. She say's he always asks about me and if he comes to the house and i'm not there he's wondering where I am. She told me he's a little insecure about himself and his current position in life, but overall he is a good guy. I would definitely take the time to get to know him, but I wish that immature behavior would cease. Have you guys had any similar experiences with childish men?

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    Apr 15, 2010 11:05 PM GMT
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    Apr 15, 2010 11:39 PM GMT
    NyRuinz saidHave you guys had any similar experiences with childish men?

    Daily at work. He amuses me; and everyone gives him hell saying he's my boyfriend. I just go with the flow and treat him like a brother (we've all been there a couple years), giving him hell as well. The little fucker just needs to stop cheating on me with his girlfriend; and we all remind him of that regularly.

    Oh and btw, I'm totally out at work. And they're all my boyfriends...even the fugly ones. Hopefully they'll run across this thread someday. icon_twisted.gif
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    Apr 16, 2010 12:00 AM GMT
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    LOL! xD
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    Apr 16, 2010 12:04 AM GMT
    You can end this by being the mature one. If you are interested in him, then approach him. If you are not interested, tell your friend or dare to tell him yourself.
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    Apr 16, 2010 3:26 PM GMT
    I always have the funniest way to get someone to tell me they like me.

    I tease them meaning I ask them a question about their behavior and say, "oh, really? there isn't another else influencing you to act like that? Huh? HUH?"


    And when I get them smiling and laughing and opening up with me they usually tell me. It's all about getting that person comfortable enough around you to feeling like it's ok that they can tell you. I'm pretty good at it,gotta admiticon_cool.gificon_cool.gif

    Of the longer relationships I've had that's the the thing I did in the beginning because they were really shy and I thought that was the cutest thing in the world.
  • Timbales

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    Apr 16, 2010 3:31 PM GMT
    I don't know if I'd want to get involved with the male friend of a female roommate. It could get ugly.
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    Apr 16, 2010 4:04 PM GMT
    I've had some instance where I thought certain guys hated me until I found out much later that they liked me. I'm really bad at reading clues.
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    Apr 16, 2010 4:54 PM GMT
    NyRuinz said I would definitely take the time to get to know him, but I wish that immature behavior would cease. Have you guys had any similar experiences with childish men?



    Yep when I taught HS in my early 20's most on my freshman boys and up to even senior boys had crushes so it was very cool.

    Just be kind be friendly and let it take its course. Once you engage him in conversation you'll know what next.
  • jgymnast733

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    Apr 16, 2010 8:44 PM GMT
    Yup, this guy at work who's [he works in the kitchen] has told everyone that he and i are a couple,so everytime i arrange for us to hang out away from the job he's always too busy....So, i'v stopped talking with him because everything to him is a game....
    Now, he's doing everything in his power to get my attention,even asking our coworkers to put in a good word for him, but i'm not falling for it......I'm too old for games..
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    Apr 16, 2010 8:58 PM GMT
    NyRuinz saidI swear I feel like i'm back in elementary school...

    ...Have you guys had any similar experiences with childish men?

    Not me personally like this, but you may have already answered your own question. This is a cliche regarding straight men (or boys), the "show-off" syndrome when immature males try to impress females. This really is elementary school or junior high stuff.

    Men are mostly men, whether straight or gay, and I agree he's behaving very immaturely, just like a straight teenage boy might do around a girl he likes. Only in this case the dynamic is gay. And you may have to handle him the way a straight female would handle a guy like this: ignore him and don't encourage him.

    He'll either eventually mature, someone you might like to know better in a year or more (although if close in age to you he's a little overripe for that change), or he'll feel the chill and give up.
  • NyRuinz

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    Apr 16, 2010 9:36 PM GMT
    Red_Vespa said
    NyRuinz saidI swear I feel like i'm back in elementary school...

    ...Have you guys had any similar experiences with childish men?

    Not me personally like this, but you may have already answered your own question. This is a cliche regarding straight men (or boys), the "show-off" syndrome when immature males try to impress females. This really is elementary school or junior high stuff.

    Men are mostly men, whether straight or gay, and I agree he's behaving very immaturely, just like a straight teenage boy might do around a girl he likes. Only in this case the dynamic is gay. And you may have to handle him the way a straight female would handle a guy like this: ignore him and don't encourage him.

    He'll either eventually mature, someone you might like to know better in a year or more (although if close in age to you he's a little overripe for that change), or he'll feel the chill and give up.


    I agree Red, If he does give up, then it was for the best and wasn't meant to be.