Family reactions to coming out!!

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    Apr 16, 2010 6:08 AM GMT
    Ok so I came out to my family 2 months ago and have had a different response then I expected.

    Was wondering if anyone else was surprised at the reaction they got and how families are coping.

    I was pretty sure that my Father would be ok with it and my Mother would have the issue. Well I was right on that score. But where I was wrong was that I was pretty sure my Mother would kick me out of the family. She met a gay friend of mine years ago and told me not to ever turn out like him.

    So I was pretty sure she wouldnt be accepting. Well she still has trouble talking about it as it is only new, but she has come to terms with the fact im gay. I also told them last week I have a partner which well lets just say as yet they arent that accepting, they are refusing to meet him.

    Would love to read some stories of others experiences with coming out as I do know that families react in many different ways. A friend of mine's parents told him after a year that they couldnt deal with it and he hasnt spoken to them in 7 years now. Whereas my partners family were like ok cool and when they met me his first bf taken home to meet them they opened their arms to me straight away.

    Wouldnt it be great if all families were like that???
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    Apr 16, 2010 6:18 AM GMT
    my mom ignores me when i enter the gay theme...she thinks i am joking...lol, well, i dunno if i am still in the closet cuz only my brother, 2 cuzins and a friend knows i am gay...

    My mom hate gay people...and my dad, i dunno O_o, i havent hear him yet talking bad about gays, he just says is not the right thing etc like everyone does, but i am afraid he get his Gun and shoot me if i tell him i am gay. My mom...she speak shits alwais about gay people...and if my grandmother knows someday i am gay...that will be the end of her...she will have a heart attack...
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    Apr 16, 2010 2:45 PM GMT
    It was easy for me - my parents are gay.

    I wish I had some words of advice, as I hear and read all the time how many people have struggled with coming out and their families accepting. It's obviously difficult for me to relate. I sympathize because it certainly can't be as easy for everyone.

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    Apr 16, 2010 2:52 PM GMT
    Surprisingly it was a non-issue.
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    Apr 16, 2010 3:09 PM GMT
    My mom cried and locked herself in her bedroom for three days. Then again, she does that a lot.
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    Apr 16, 2010 3:35 PM GMT
    My parents told me I was gay LOL
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    Apr 16, 2010 3:37 PM GMT
    My mom was a bit surprised, but she's ok with it. I found out my brother had issues with it but never told me. He told my mom it was a phase and I'd grow out of it.
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    Apr 16, 2010 10:50 PM GMT
    flex89 saidMy parents told me I was gay LOL


    LOL...i think that will happen to me...hahahahyou make me laugh so much...icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 16, 2010 11:01 PM GMT
    Yes it is one thing to tell them, it is quite another to bring the BF around; if it’s in their face they can’t pretend you never told them.
    Over time things have gotten easier, mostly because my relationship has lasted longer than any of my siblings.
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    Apr 17, 2010 12:06 AM GMT
    My dad caught me fucking in the basement with the football coach's son,[ I was 12, he was 16] my dad just said,,'' I didnt know you liked boys""....He just told me to be careful and informed my DL uncle about it and we had a long talk about being discreet....
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    Mar 14, 2012 8:06 AM GMT
    Update...

    My partner n I have now split since this thread was started n the fact that my family weren't to accepting was part of our issue, although there were many other issues as well.

    Two months after I broke up with my ex in June last year I told my mum that I'd met another guy. Her first question was what football team does he go for? That to me showed how far my mother has come in accepting me.

    Although in the two years since I came out my mother has not been comfortable using the word gay until the other day when I was telling her about an incident that had happened with a female acquaintance. Her response to me was doesn't she no ur gay.

    I'm really proud of my mother in how far she has come to accepting that I'm gay. Everyone told me just give her time.

    There has even been family gatherings where she has told my older brother, who still cannot accept it n who I haven't spoken to in two years, that is he has a problem with me being there don't come. Now my mother is big on family so for her to say that is again amazing to me.
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    Mar 14, 2012 6:02 PM GMT
    Was not a big deal......they told me to be happy and live my life..and be safe
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    Mar 14, 2012 7:25 PM GMT
    My dad didn't take it very well. I had to threaten to literally kill him to make back down. Since the house had 14 guns (10 shotguns, 4 rifles) that was an easy task. All it took was one loaded gun and he shut the fuck up. icon_lol.gif