xXvampXx saidHey i was just wondering, is it posible to be stright and fake being gay??
If you have ever known for this to happen tell me about it please. lol
Hm, I'm thinking Vamp is wanting to make a point here maybe. Hence the "lol" at the end of his post. I.e. maybe he's prompting us to deconstruct and be critical of the phrase and value we attach to "straight acting."
Many of us have learned, often out of necessity for our own safety, which social cues communicate masculinity and power to those around us: how (presumably) straight men behave in ways that communicate entitlement to things/space/attention/righteousness through their body language and attitudes; their being emotionally detached and rational (or repressed) and therefore strong; downplaying vulnerabilities (health symptoms, emotional and social needs); particular ways of dressing; drinking; etc. And we know there is power/privilege that gets thrust upon men who carry themselves in these particular ways, because masculinity (and independence, individualism, rationalism) is so idealized in this culture. And much of this really is just a costume that even authentically straight men feel burdened to wear.
Nowadays, people are beginning to understand that gender and sexuality aren't necessarily linked, thanks especially to those in the trans community. There is a first level of biologically assigned gender (M/F/Intersexed), a 2nd level of gender identity (where on the gender spectrum, if anywhere, do I feel most authentically aligned?), and the third is how is gender expressed outwardly. Separate from all of this is sexuality. Like Dragoon mentioned above, we equate any variation in gender expression to some variation in sexuality, too - which is not equatable. Which is a double threat to the arbitrary power bestowed upon men who take up this costume of gender, as being associated with and/or even just witnessing a man who might express some form of gender non-conformity kind of reminds this person that their socially-derived power is fairly tentative and arbitrary.
SO. Why would a straight man want to 'act gay'? Which could mean many things - effeminate, emotional, campy humor, whatever. Why, when he would be in a position to lose power and privilege.
Which then begs the question: why would a gay man want to 'act straight'?