I was US Navy for 10 years and a day... Nov.29, 1982, to Nov. 30, 1992.
I was soooo deeply in the closet, as to be subterrenean.
I never let anyone know I was gay, I never dated, I never went out to the clubs.
I was so terrified of being found out.
I never wanted anything to taint my eventual Honorable Discharge, because I knew it would effect my employment in the future.
To this day, I am dealing with social/sexual issues that I should have been able to deal with in my 20s, the formative years, and at 48, they still effect me.
I have no gaydar. Unless we are standing in the middle of the Castro District in San Francisco, and you tell me, or show me, that you are gay, I assume everyone is straight.
Even in a gay bar, I do not make the first approach, if I have found a guy interesting. Because of this, I have missed many opportunities to meet someone.
All this, because I was in the military, and NOT allowed to be myself....
If you don't need to be in the military, don't go...
If you are needing to go in because you need to get your life on track, or find a path, go ahead, but otherwise, the military will not be of much help...