Military

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    Apr 17, 2010 6:06 AM GMT
    Hello my names casey. I'm new to this forum and I wanted to to see if anyones in the military. I'm 18 and about to go to basic in a month and was wondering if its hard being gay in the military. I'm kinda nervous..
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    Apr 17, 2010 11:55 AM GMT
    I was gay in the military for 10 years and never had a problem.(just got out in November) I had my military life and I had my private life. If you can separate the two, I think you'll be just fine.

    Which service are you joining? What's your job?
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    Apr 17, 2010 12:31 PM GMT
    You better go light infantry all the cool homos do. ;)
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    Apr 17, 2010 12:34 PM GMT
    Tomahawks kill spaceships! You will fight tigers! BEER!icon_twisted.gif
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    Apr 17, 2010 1:28 PM GMT
    well, being gay in the military is alot easier after basic.

    dont be nervous about people finding out in basic though. you will be too damn tired to get hard or even find other dudes sexy.
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    Apr 17, 2010 1:39 PM GMT
    I agree with all on here so far.

    Just be careful reading the replies, because I am sure that I'm not the only one waiting for the stick magazine replies...

    love cronks xx

  • Apr 17, 2010 3:15 PM GMT
    I agree about the basic training. I am an ex Navy Corpsman in boot camp, we were all to tired and just wanted to get finished sure there is eye candy, but just admire the sites a little and move on. When you get to your first duty station, you will soon discover that there are other gay servicemen and women around you and will meet some really cool people. We all were a tight knit group of people and watched out for each other. I made some really long lasting friendships from my military days. I don't regret it at all. Sure the unexpected will always make you a little scared and nervous, but go in with the fact that they are trying to break you down from being an individual into being a team member. It's all a head game, if you can just go with the flow you will be fine. Best of Luck!!!
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    Apr 17, 2010 4:19 PM GMT
    Focus on the job at hand. This is more important that anything gay. Also, noone will care as long as you act like a man.
  • CarbGoggles

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    Apr 17, 2010 4:28 PM GMT
    Just remember there are more important things in life than being gay. If you treat your orientation like an after thought and kick ass at your job you'll be fine. But if you suck at your job and you allow your homosexuality to define you then your military service will be painful. If you join the AF you can always try out for Tops in Blue. Its the AF Glee lol. It's a 2 year commitment where you travel around the world performing for service members. Pretty much every dude in there is gay... They put on a quality show though.
  • fitartistsf

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    Apr 17, 2010 7:58 PM GMT
    I was US Navy for 10 years and a day... Nov.29, 1982, to Nov. 30, 1992.

    Before DADT.
    I was soooo deeply in the closet, as to be subterrenean.
    I never let anyone know I was gay, I never dated, I never went out to the clubs.
    I was so terrified of being found out.
    I never wanted anything to taint my eventual Honorable Discharge, because I knew it would effect my employment in the future.
    To this day, I am dealing with social/sexual issues that I should have been able to deal with in my 20s, the formative years, and at 48, they still effect me.
    I have no gaydar. Unless we are standing in the middle of the Castro District in San Francisco, and you tell me, or show me, that you are gay, I assume everyone is straight.
    Even in a gay bar, I do not make the first approach, if I have found a guy interesting. Because of this, I have missed many opportunities to meet someone.

    All this, because I was in the military, and NOT allowed to be myself....

    If you don't need to be in the military, don't go...

    If you are needing to go in because you need to get your life on track, or find a path, go ahead, but otherwise, the military will not be of much help...

    Todd