Apr 17, 2010 4:33 PM GMT
I have a question:
For almost a year now I have been exchanging eye contact with a guy in my gym. At first I just thought it was some dude looking at me. Nothing more. Then when I began to think about it I realised it was very often. We are both obviously shy and when I say eye contact, I mean looking at each other quite often and then darting our eyes away when we realise the other is looking. We had never spoken and at times it has seemed as if he is going to say something. This has gone on and on for months. Sometimes we would see each other in the changing rooms and glance, making sure we had locked eyes. Usually when one of us was leaving. This has happened in the street a few times, even in big crowds. It seems we always notice one another.
Fast forward 6 months and I almost gave up as nothing had ever been said between us. I started going at different times and would rarely see him. When I did, the same things would happen. Now I have changed jobs again and my gym hours are similar to his so its all started once more. My confidence has grown and it went from us having eye contact to him giving a small smile and wording 'hi' to me. I would just raise my eyebrows in acknowledgement. Now I have began to say hello back to him and smiling. He seems receptive of this and always greets me back with a hello and smile. I know it sounds stupid but is this just a straight guy saying hello or does it sound like there is something else going on? Is he flirting? Does he want to speak to me further? Am I barking mad?
The first time I said hello and smiled he immediately text someone on his phone and then it rang, he left the gym to talk which he never does. Is this connected? Maybe he is thinking exactly the same about all this as me.
The reason for this message is I cannot get this out of my head, it seems there is something in it and this is simply not going away...
For almost a year now I have been exchanging eye contact with a guy in my gym. At first I just thought it was some dude looking at me. Nothing more. Then when I began to think about it I realised it was very often. We are both obviously shy and when I say eye contact, I mean looking at each other quite often and then darting our eyes away when we realise the other is looking. We had never spoken and at times it has seemed as if he is going to say something. This has gone on and on for months. Sometimes we would see each other in the changing rooms and glance, making sure we had locked eyes. Usually when one of us was leaving. This has happened in the street a few times, even in big crowds. It seems we always notice one another.
Fast forward 6 months and I almost gave up as nothing had ever been said between us. I started going at different times and would rarely see him. When I did, the same things would happen. Now I have changed jobs again and my gym hours are similar to his so its all started once more. My confidence has grown and it went from us having eye contact to him giving a small smile and wording 'hi' to me. I would just raise my eyebrows in acknowledgement. Now I have began to say hello back to him and smiling. He seems receptive of this and always greets me back with a hello and smile. I know it sounds stupid but is this just a straight guy saying hello or does it sound like there is something else going on? Is he flirting? Does he want to speak to me further? Am I barking mad?
The first time I said hello and smiled he immediately text someone on his phone and then it rang, he left the gym to talk which he never does. Is this connected? Maybe he is thinking exactly the same about all this as me.
The reason for this message is I cannot get this out of my head, it seems there is something in it and this is simply not going away...
The best way to get past the smiles, raising eyebrows and awkward Hi's is to make move. The worst that can happen is nothing at all. 
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