How do I meet other people?

  • pitgs

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    Apr 17, 2010 9:57 PM GMT
    i have been thinking of going to a gay bar or club in pittsburgh but after reading the reviews, i dont know if it is a good idea. I am south asian and am not super hot, and from what I have read, nobody wants to talk to you unless you are caucasian and hot, What other options should I consider if I want to meet decent people? Any advice is greatly appreciated.
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    Apr 17, 2010 10:16 PM GMT
    pitgs, caucasian is so last century. True...to many people you are at the bottom of their list, but to others you are at the top. Personally, I'll typically go for a South Asian before I go for a white guy (I said that to make you feel better but it's also true).

    You can't go out thinking you are at the bottom of your list, because then you'll act out your thoughts and people will read your insecurities decreasing your chances further. It's an awful perpetual process that you have to become aware of or else you'll end up sabotaging yourself.

    Do you have an iPhone? If so, download Grindr now. It's the best thing to happen to gays since the internet.
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    Apr 17, 2010 10:23 PM GMT
    I think asian guys are hot as fuck. Just being asian will grab my attention. Dont assume those things about all guys cause you would be very wrong
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    Apr 17, 2010 11:53 PM GMT
    be yourself.
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    Apr 18, 2010 12:11 AM GMT
    Don't count yourself, or other guys, out before you give each other a chance. Just be yourself and be friendly. The rest will happen naturally.

    I'm asian and I have no problem meeting guys of all ages, races, and types.
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    Apr 18, 2010 12:26 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidDon't count yourself, or other guys, out before you give each other a chance. Just be yourself and be friendly. The rest will happen naturally.

    I'm asian and I have no problem meeting guys of all ages, races, and types.


    I am not Asian, I am definately not hot and I do not have a great body and I rarely go to gay bars, but when I do, I do not have any problems in meeting people. You might want to go to meetup.com and see what gay groups are in your area. That is what I did when I moved to Phoenix and I joined a gay professionals group that meets the first Sunday of every month for brunch and then in the middle of the month on either Monday or Wednesday we go to dinner and sometimes a play or concert. I also joined a hiking meetup and once every week or so we go for a nice hike somewhere in the State. I also joined a gay group that is affiliated with HRC. Everyone is very friendly and have made some nice friends.

    So get yourself out there and get going.
  • pitgs

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    Apr 18, 2010 2:11 AM GMT
    Thanks everyone for your responses. I really appreciate it.
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    Apr 18, 2010 2:27 AM GMT
    dude, id say go out. be yourself have a few cocktails to calm yourself down a lil and just have fun. smile alot. dont look like your having the worst time of your life or else people will think you are and wont talk to you. Look like a fun, out going person and youll be shocked as to who would talk to you. and remember everyone has a type they like, who knows you might find you a hot stud whos been gunnin for a guy like you.
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    Apr 18, 2010 2:38 AM GMT
    pitgs saidHow do I meet other people?
    Go to Twist.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Apr 18, 2010 3:06 AM GMT
    Christ all mighty. You were here yesterday asking the same question.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Apr 18, 2010 3:09 AM GMT
    Oops sorry that was a different gay guy hiding behind a locked door.
  • tennsjock

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    Apr 18, 2010 9:54 AM GMT
    Volunteer for Equality Pennsylvania http://www.facebook.com/equalitypa. You'll be doing good work and you'll get to meet people. Then organize a voter registration drive at gay bars. You'll get to talk to every gay person there! When I volunteered with Equality Texas, I used voter registration as a pretext for flirting. It works!