"Ignore His Posts"

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    Apr 18, 2010 5:00 PM GMT
    I'm Alan. And although I've been an RJ member for a while, it has only been recently that I've become more engaged and active with the RJ community.

    The forums are a feature where I experience value for the time I spend on this site. As I read threads and posts, I get a great deal of useful information. In some cases, I feel that I have something of value to share and I post.

    Some of my posts are short, and some are quite long (like this one). In all cases these responses come from my heart, and in some cases from 44 years of life experience which includes maintaining friendships for up to 30 years, 25 years of living with what has been considered a terminal illness, 23 years of individual and couples counselling, dozens of books and instructor lead courses on human relations, and too many other subject matter domains to list.

    Sometimes my longer posts are an attempt to distil a vast body of experience and knowledge into a relatively short post of a page or slightly longer. It may seem long, but in the context of what I am trying to condense, it is relatively brief. And of course sometimes I'm just ranting and showing just how human, neurotic, or crazed I am.

    In all cases I am attempting to share with others for free, relevant lessons in life that I have paid sometimes dearly to learn. Sharing freely is just part of my personal purpose in life. My lessons and their value die with me, so I try to share them as freely as I can while I'm still here.

    Some or all of what or how I write, other RJ members may not like, may not agree with, or at worst may annoy and offend. To all of you, I offer my apology as it is not my intention to annoy or offend.

    I urge any other RJ member who finds no value in my posts, and who may be annoyed or offended by what or how I write to:
    1. Click on the "Ignore His Posts" link under my profile name and picture next to this post.
    2. Click on my profile and click on "Block him".

    This may be an easy and convenient way to filter my communications so that they no longer disturb. However, I have no control over other RJ members' posts that may quote me, so there may still be visible stuff that I write.

    Please do not take any of this as a personal "slam" against any one person. The reality of a social networking site is that not everybody is going to agree with, get along with, or like everybody else. For whatever reason, I just may not be someone who "clicks" with you. And that's ok.

    To those who choose to ignore my posts and block me, I say "Peace!".
    To those who continue to enjoy or suffer my posts, I say "Thank you! I'll continue to try to be a positive contributing member of this community. I hope to be able to continue to share value with all of you".

    Aloha and Be Well to all!
    Alan
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    Apr 18, 2010 5:42 PM GMT
    Hi Alen, I for one love your post.
    weather or not I agree...thanks.
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    Apr 18, 2010 5:46 PM GMT
    I love it when people ignore me. Then I can talk smack about them and they don't see it. Like I care if they don't like/aren't reading my posts. ... icon_rolleyes.gif ... icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 18, 2010 5:46 PM GMT
    lol, Alan, you have yet to annoy or offend either of these ol' Canadians, and based on your posts and the flavour of them, it's doubtful you ever will (unless you tell us us to nuke babies in the microwave or something, then we'd be upset). icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 18, 2010 5:50 PM GMT
    Hello Alan. To be honest with you, I agree with the other guy who made a comment about your long post in another thread.

    You write wonderfully and he can agree with me on that but with so many posts to go through, I skim through most of them, skipping over really long ones or at least, read the first two paragraphs before moving on.

    If the thread itself is longer than 2 pages, I read the first page and the last page, knowing full well that I could miss some really good posts between pages 2 through 6 for instance.

    Likewise, you shouldn't take our comments as a "personal slam" against you. Keep writing because you enjoy doing so and others who are not on a time-constraint will enjoy reading your valuable input.

    G'day! icon_wink.gif

    ps - I never block anyone's posts, even those I can't STAND because there are days that they may have the same sentiments as mine! icon_biggrin.gif

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    Apr 18, 2010 5:55 PM GMT
    Hi Alan,

    I'm writing to you personally - but for this thread, I just want to say I like your posts. You have good advice or experience to share and you do it well.
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    Apr 18, 2010 5:57 PM GMT
    Ignoring Caslon is a true exercise in futility.
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    Apr 18, 2010 6:02 PM GMT
    I never ignore anyone, I basically think it's a silly feature.

    No matter how stupid, annoying or offensive someones posts may be, making them invisible just ruins the continuity of a thread. Also any responses to ignored posts will make a little less sense.
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    Apr 18, 2010 6:05 PM GMT
    I just want to say I like your posts. You have good advice or experience to share and you do it well. I think you are a great guy and you should keep on giving your advice and opinions here. You are a valued member of our community.
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    Apr 18, 2010 6:06 PM GMT
    i love everyone on RJ.

    well, except the conservative posters. oh, and the effeminate posters. and, okay the guys who don't have ripped abs. and anyone over 50. and guys who have profile pics with their shirts on. but apart from that, there's like 5 guys i really like.

    BUT!

    i ignore no one. (i'm guessing after this post i may get ignored...) icon_eek.gif

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    Apr 18, 2010 6:11 PM GMT

    Never apologize for presenting self. Participation in these threads require it. For those that find fault and sling testosterone, they need to seek a prescription, cause it's not that serious.
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    Apr 18, 2010 6:18 PM GMT
    weird...a blank thread
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    Apr 18, 2010 6:27 PM GMT
    Well, Alan's posts remind me of this saying that Bill and I believe in deeply.

    "What do we live for, if it is not to make life less difficult for each other? ~ George Eliot"

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    Apr 18, 2010 6:56 PM GMT
    rangard saidi love everyone on RJ.

    well, except the conservative posters. oh, and the effeminate posters. and, okay the guys who don't have ripped abs. and anyone over 50. and guys who have profile pics with their shirts on. but apart from that, there's like 5 guys i really like.

    BUT!

    i ignore no one. (i'm guessing after this post i may get ignored...) icon_eek.gif

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    Geesh, rangard,

    I am over 50, I prefer to keep my shirt on, I don't have ripped abs and maybe my long hair makes me look effeminate.

    Er, why are you on this website?
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    Apr 18, 2010 7:02 PM GMT
    I can't recall anything you have written that's gotten my shorts in a knot... so don't worry. But I know I have had my posts ignored and I know that there are some people's whose posts I ignore as well. It's fine with me.... I would rather have peace of mind and spirit, and I am sure they feel that way too.
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    Apr 18, 2010 7:08 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidIgnoring Caslon is a true exercise in futility.


    Ignoring Caslon makes life better.
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    Apr 18, 2010 7:19 PM GMT
    I read the comment on the other forum that prompted this one. There is nothing of which I am more suspicious than supposed "constructive criticism". The medicine always has more to say about the would-be doctor than it does about the so-called patient.

    This idea that communication should be extremely succinct in order to have any value is business-seminar bullshit. Alas, I've been in positions in business were I have been on the receiving end of thousands of e-mails a day that are designed to demonstrate the efficiency and summary capability of the sender through their insight and brevity. Being prone to probe a little deeper, I found that 7 times out of 10 this business-speak, net-speak meme covers vacuity in the guise of wisdom.

    Many ideas cannot be reduced to bumper-sticker slogans. People who are intelligent enough to consider contradictory facts often want to follow a logical thread, and help their readers to do so as well. This takes time, and it takes space.

    As for the ignore feature. I am a big believer in this tool and was one of the people who repeatedly petitioned to have an ignore button. At this point I have 5 pages of ignored RJers.

    I haven't found that the forums make less sense without those postings. In fact, it is easy to get a sense of how things progress and exactly where the forums veer off on narcissistic tangents.

    The beauty of the ignore button is that the time I save reading the one-dimensional and repetitive opinions of persons unnamed, creates an efficiency and time gain that I can spend by reading the thoughts of caring, warm, and thoughtful people.
  • DarkSensation

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    Apr 18, 2010 7:21 PM GMT

    Why Would Anyone Want to Ignore Someone's Post....That's Very Childish and not to mention Close minded icon_evil.gif
  • ursa_minor

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    Apr 18, 2010 8:22 PM GMT
    there is no fault in speaking your mind, i believe that is basic truth of a FORUM.
    you have to accept that even the mentally challenged can participate as well.
  • Space_Cowboy_...

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    Apr 18, 2010 8:22 PM GMT
    charlitos saidweird...a blank thread



    BLAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!
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    Apr 18, 2010 8:33 PM GMT
    I've about 12 in my block list. Best thing I ever did. Some posters are just a blatant waste of bandwidth and brain cells.
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    Apr 18, 2010 8:51 PM GMT
    tl;dr

    But I didn't ignore, so it's all good. icon_biggrin.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 18, 2010 9:03 PM GMT
    Alan,
    Thanks for a very sincere discussion about your thoughts about participation on the site. Your input will be appreciated and I'll certainly time the time to hear what you'd like to convey! Glad to have you here.
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Apr 18, 2010 9:16 PM GMT
    Problem is, the ignore button malfunctions all the time.
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    Apr 18, 2010 9:36 PM GMT
    I just skip the long posts after the first few lines and go to the rest of the forum, never bothered me... not like your trolling...