He's gone.....

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    Apr 20, 2010 11:49 PM GMT
    TomiR1 died after being 3 months in a coma. He was run over by a drunk driver, Dec.17th, the driver who was guilty is now in prison, for life.....too bad we don't have a death penalty here in EU.....
    I tried everything to make Tomi mine, but in his last email to me he told me he loves PRDGUY, his Joshie.

    Tomi died March 30, 2010 at 22:45. His younger brother told me that.

    I miss him as a friend and a shoulder I could always rely on, he knew how to listen and always knew the right words and advice what to say, when someone felt bad...He was an angel when he was alive, always taking care of others, many times leaving his own needs behind, and now he is with angels protected by God.

    Why the best go first.?.......I just don't understand and never accept it.
    Wellu

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    Apr 21, 2010 12:26 AM GMT
    Anyone who knew Tomi (TomiR1) , please reply. I miss him......would do anything to get him back.....even just a friend.
  • Delivis

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    Apr 25, 2010 10:11 PM GMT
    Very sorry to hear this. He was, from what I could tell from our chats, a very sweet guy. I'm sure he will be very missed. My condolences to friends and family.
  • RSportsguy

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    Apr 25, 2010 10:38 PM GMT
    I am sorry for you Wellu and PRDGUY and to Tomi's friends and family! icon_cry.gif
  • BIG_N_TALL

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    Apr 25, 2010 10:38 PM GMT
    I am so sorry to hear about that icon_cry.gif
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    Apr 25, 2010 11:03 PM GMT
    I am very sorry to hear about this...my heart and prayers are with Tomi's familyicon_cry.gif
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    Apr 26, 2010 3:21 PM GMT
    Wellu, please accept our mingled with horror sorrow over this. We remember well when Tomi and PRDguy got together. There was a huge topic celebrating it.

    You also need to understand that there have been magnificently faked deaths on here, which upset many people and made them angry so many will be cautious over this topic.

    Perhaps if PRDguy made a post here....?
  • Nayro

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    Apr 26, 2010 11:28 PM GMT
    Im very sorry for ur loss! I cant believe that happened... I talked to him a few times, he was always nice.
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    Apr 26, 2010 11:37 PM GMT
    meninlove said You also need to understand that there have been magnificently faked deaths on here, which upset many people and made them angry so many will be cautious over this topic.

    Perhaps if PRDguy made a post here....?

    I'm surprised to hear there have been faked deaths on RJ -- any since I joined nearly 2 years ago?I did run into a number in AOL gay chat rooms years ago, a really sick game.

    When my own partner died, and we both did use AOL, I posted a link to the funeral home's web site, where they had online obituaries. I wanted no doubt among his friends of the truth, and it also gave them an address where they could send flowers or cards if they wished (and some did), as well as something they could download with his photo as a keepsake.

    A similar link for TomiR1 would help to dispel any doubt. In any case, I prefer the benefit of the doubt here on RJ, and this news about his death saddens me.
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    Apr 28, 2010 12:12 PM GMT
    meninlove said Wellu, please accept our mingled with horror sorrow over this. We remember well when Tomi and PRDguy got together. There was a huge topic celebrating it.

    You also need to understand that there have been magnificently faked deaths on here, which upset many people and made them angry so many will be cautious over this topic.

    Perhaps if PRDguy made a post here....?


    FAKE DEATH? WHAT A SICK THOUGHT!I'm not going to comment on this insulting remark. I respect the memory of Tomi too much.
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    Apr 28, 2010 12:43 PM GMT
    I'm very sorry to hear this.
    {insert reassuring hug here}
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    Apr 28, 2010 1:43 PM GMT
    Hey, we were VERY fond of TomiR and are both feeling very bad about him.

    We brought up what we did because we went through this with someone we liked very much on RJ only to find out it wasn't real, and a way of suggesting why there weren't more posts here yet.

    Our deepest sympathies and condolences for your loss. TomiR gave us specific instructions to email PRDGUY if anything happened to him...so we did today.

    grieving,

    -us
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    Apr 28, 2010 4:29 PM GMT
    OK, perhaps I overreacted. It's just that Tomi was a best friend anyone could have....even tho I wished for more.....but I have to respect his feelings for Josh.
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    Apr 28, 2010 4:37 PM GMT
    I am so sorry to hear about this. My thoughts are with you.
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    Apr 29, 2010 2:16 AM GMT
    Wellu saidOK, perhaps I overreacted. It's just that Tomi was a best friend anyone could have....even tho I wished for more.....but I have to respect his feelings for Josh.


    This is not the place to live out your drama over a dead flame. Keep it classy (private) and move on.
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    Apr 29, 2010 10:41 AM GMT


    meninlove said Hey, we were VERY fond of TomiR and are both feeling very bad about him.

    We brought up what we did because we went through this with someone we liked very much on RJ only to find out it wasn't real, and a way of suggesting why there weren't more posts here yet.

    Our deepest sympathies and condolences for your loss. TomiR gave us specific instructions to email PRDGUY if anything happened to him...so we did today.

    grieving,

    -us


    Checked in this am, and heard from half dozen.... but its weird, and [size=20]I'm goin' 2ck NOW as to the emails he sent since the beginning of year.

    Am shell-shocked and hope to post more later...

    josh
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    Apr 29, 2010 11:13 AM GMT
    TomiR1 is dead??

    i dont believe...
    i used to talk to him
    jeeeez...icon_sad.gif((
    the black hair guy from finland right?
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    thats so sadicon_sad.gif
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    Apr 29, 2010 1:32 PM GMT
    sacredgranola, You fail to understand that Wellu is GRIEVING. We took absolutely no issue with what he said to us at all.
    Kindly have a little compassion!
    TomiR was a vibrant and kind man that will be/is sorely missed. We're feeling a great deal of sadness over this and have been in touch with PRDGUY.

    respectfully, -us two
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    Apr 30, 2010 6:32 AM GMT
    meninlove said sacredgranola, You fail to understand that Wellu is GRIEVING. We took absolutely no issue with what he said to us at all.
    Kindly have a little compassion!
    TomiR was a vibrant and kind man that will be/is sorely missed. We're feeling a great deal of sadness over this and have been in touch with PRDGUY.

    respectfully, -us two


    THANK YOU
  • EricLA

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    Apr 30, 2010 7:11 AM GMT
    So very sorry for your loss.
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    Apr 30, 2010 11:33 PM GMT
    TomiR1 is dead. I am so sorry to hear that.

    He was/is a great guy. Great bod, great intellect, the kind of guy who you could walk around with in public and not care about anyone else because he made you feel special. Just a fun guy with a awesome personality.

    He will be missed.
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    May 01, 2010 12:32 AM GMT
    JOSH, you know/knew Tomi better than any of us.....will you write a memorial text here, if you are up to it.......I remember some of your testimonials to Tomi and his to you....but my english is not good enough to write as beautiful texts you and Tomi wrote to each other. You are his only true love and I understand that kind of love can not be stopped even by death, you two shared and still share something most of us can only dream of. I am soory for your loss but I know that Tomi is still in love with you, he is your guardian angel now.......
    Love
    Wellu.

    P.S: do you have a nice picture of Tomi?Face? You could put it here, I do not know how to do it.
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    May 01, 2010 7:14 PM GMT
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    May 02, 2010 11:45 PM GMT

    A movie clip from " GHOST" Tomi loved and had tears in his beautiful eyes whenever he saw it or even heard the music.
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    May 03, 2010 12:26 AM GMT
    icon_eek.gif I remember him wellicon_cry.gif




    May God Bless and Keep him in His Open Arms