MODESTY

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    Apr 22, 2010 1:47 PM GMT
    I think it's one of the most attractive personality traits in a person, and I think it's lacking in way too many guys.

    A physically hot dude will turn me off if he displays no modesty at all.


    EDIT: Humility is a better word for this.

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    Apr 22, 2010 1:48 PM GMT
    I hang out at the nude beach, and have had sex on that beach. Modesty is not in my vocabulary. icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 22, 2010 1:59 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidI hang out at the nude beach, and have had sex on that beach. Modesty is not in my vocabulary. icon_lol.gif



    Hahaha I thought I saw you in the dunes.

    I'm not talking about modesty = "Oh my god, cover yourself up I don't like seeing your bits."

    I'm talking about the lack of modesty as in "Yea I know, I really AM as hot as you think, perfect in just about every way, I don't even need to cite examples because there are too many of them and I wouldn't know where to start."


    Being proud of how you look is OK, being confident is too. But don't take it too far, it undermines your appeal.

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    Apr 22, 2010 2:27 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidI hang out at the nude beach, and have had sex on that beach. Modesty is not in my vocabulary. icon_lol.gif

    Nor mine, in that sense of the word. No doubt you're talking about Haulover, at Sunny Isles/North Miami, where I and some of my gay friends also go.

    But sex on the beach is somewhat problematic. Haulover's not all gay, just mostly the north end by custom, and straights and even children go there.

    There is a difference between nudity and licentiousness, not to mention simple good manners. If I want to have sex in view of strangers, I go to a gay resort or bathhouse, not a public beach. Just as straight sex on a public nude beach is objectionable, and illegal, so is gay sex.
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    Apr 22, 2010 2:30 PM GMT
    Isn't sand in your crack kinda uncomfortable. I don't even like it between my toes
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    Apr 22, 2010 2:36 PM GMT
    but but but, I'm awesome, how will you know of my awesomeness if I do not tell you??? icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 22, 2010 2:36 PM GMT
    DjDorchester said
    Being proud of how you look is OK, being confident is too. But don't take it too far, it undermines your appeal.


    I disagree.
    Just what kind of sick porn are you watching?


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    Apr 22, 2010 2:41 PM GMT
    DjDorchester said
    I think it's one of the most attractive personality traits in a person, and I think it's lacking in way too many guys.

    A physically hot dude will turn me off if he displays no modesty at all.



    agreed... confidence is great. but a little humility and modesty and knowing that you're not perfect makes me melt way more than their 6 pack
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    Apr 22, 2010 2:51 PM GMT
    i concur. most of us are smart, work hard, eat right, and take care of ourselves. It doesn't make you any more special than the next guy. I don't want to hear about how big your biceps are 24X7. Being able to take a compliment gracefully is a great trait.
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    Apr 22, 2010 3:10 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidbut but but, I'm awesome, how will you know of my awesomeness if I do not tell you??? icon_razz.gif



    Eww look... your ego is masturbating again.
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  • jimjock

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    Apr 22, 2010 4:40 PM GMT
    I'm certainly not parsing here, but I agree with the original sentiment. I, however, find humility a more appropriate description.

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    Apr 22, 2010 4:53 PM GMT
    I am modest and shy, except when tequila shots comes into the equation and it is the exact opposite.
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    Apr 22, 2010 5:22 PM GMT
    jimjock757 saidI'm certainly not parsing here, but I agree with the original sentiment. I, however, find humility a more appropriate description.




    You're right, that's better.

    I stand humiliated. icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 22, 2010 5:38 PM GMT
    Nothing sexier than a guy who is HOT and doesn't even know it.
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    Apr 22, 2010 5:50 PM GMT
    DjDorchester said
    I think it's one of the most attractive personality traits in a person, and I think it's lacking in way too many guys.

    A physically hot dude will turn me off if he displays no modesty at all.



    You mean if I am running around in my speed-o you will hate me or if I am in a tank top and gym shorts....You sound like an old lady who gets to over heated.....

    Unfortunately, I am an exhibitionist and I like to run around near naked. I just been this way since I was about 3 years old...just ask mommy!!
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    Apr 22, 2010 5:54 PM GMT
    False humility is stupid, and, from where I sit, very unappealing.

    Folks SHOULD project confidence, and a can-do attitude.
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    Apr 22, 2010 5:59 PM GMT
    Humility is the right word. It doesn't matter if you think you're the hottest shit on two legs, if you're humble about it it makes you all the hotter.

    If you're running around in your speedo talking trash to everyone who doesn't have the same body well...you're a douche. Otherwise, you're a hot guy in a speedo.

    Personally, I find a little cockiness amusing, and use it myself. I'm pretty muc average, except for my eyes, but it's fun to bust out one of several 'hot shit' lines to get a laugh. Mostly though, I prefer to be humble. I've had enough guys tell me I'm ho to believe it, but I've had enough guys te me I'm not hot enough to make me seriously doubt that I am. So at the end of the day, as I really am a bundle of doubt, I'd rather think myself average than be the douche who thinks he's hot shit and isn't.
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    Apr 22, 2010 6:01 PM GMT
    Mystic_Man said
    DjDorchester said
    I think it's one of the most attractive personality traits in a person, and I think it's lacking in way too many guys.

    A physically hot dude will turn me off if he displays no modesty at all.



    You mean if I am running around in my speed-o you will hate me or if I am in a tank top and gym shorts....You sound like an old lady who gets to over heated.....

    Unfortunately, I am an exhibitionist and I like to run around near naked. I just been this way since I was about 3 years old...just ask mommy!!



    No you misunderstood completely. This isn't about wearing clothes or not wearing clothes. Read on...
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    Apr 22, 2010 6:03 PM GMT
    chuckystud saidFalse humility is stupid, and, from where I sit, very unappealing.

    Folks SHOULD project confidence, and a can-do attitude.



    An over-inflated ego is equally unappealing especially if it's all hot air.

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    Apr 22, 2010 6:10 PM GMT
    acting like you know you're good when you are is a great quality.
    being arrogant about it is dumb but funny. You always hope to be there when they bite the dust.
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    Apr 22, 2010 7:20 PM GMT
    DjDorchester saidI think it's one of the most attractive personality traits in a person, and I think it's lacking in way too many guys.

    A physically hot dude will turn me off if he displays no modesty at all.


    EDIT: Humility is a better word for this.



    Uhh, there's no such thing for that in here.
    Have you taken a look at this site, i mean REALLY take a look around?!
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    Apr 22, 2010 7:41 PM GMT
    I believe that confidence is not a bad thing at all. However, if a person becomes too full of himself and becomes too narcissistic, it is a turn-off because if they are so wrapped up in themselves, how can they appreciate the beauty of someone else.

    I think humility is necessary to some extent because no one is absolutely flawless. You can definitely be confident and happy with your appearance and self, but to think that you are a god will leave everyone else disgusted.
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    Apr 22, 2010 7:52 PM GMT
    Red_Vespa said
    paulflexes saidI hang out at the nude beach, and have had sex on that beach. Modesty is not in my vocabulary. icon_lol.gif

    Nor mine, in that sense of the word. No doubt you're talking about Haulover, at Sunny Isles/North Miami, where I and some of my gay friends also go.

    But sex on the beach is somewhat problematic. Haulover's not all gay, just mostly the north end by custom, and straights and even children go there.

    There is a difference between nudity and licentiousness, not to mention simple good manners. If I want to have sex in view of strangers, I go to a gay resort or bathhouse, not a public beach. Just as straight sex on a public nude beach is objectionable, and illegal, so is gay sex.
    After dark doesn't count as "in the public eye."
    And I've had sex on Sobe at 3am. Twice. And it's not even a nude beach. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 22, 2010 8:02 PM GMT
    Sometimes people have issues with "arrogance", "confidence" and "modesty". I've always considered myself a confident person in most respects and a few have called me "arrogant", which is unfortunate.

    Modesty is very attractive, especially in a confident person.
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    Apr 22, 2010 8:21 PM GMT
    I dig confidence. Arrogance is a turn-off.

    Fake humility is exasperating. I remember a few years ago, that one American Idol contestant, Dolittle--forget her first name--who would act SHOCKED at the compliments. Really a turn-off.