Catch 22: Chill, Drama-Free & The "L" Word

  • TannerMasseur

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    Apr 22, 2010 8:36 PM GMT
    See a lot of RJ members use these words in their profiles. Curious 2 see what these words mean 2 u? For me,

    LOVE is wanted, reciprocated & mutual feelings of affection.
    DRAMA is unwanted, unreciprocated & nonmutual feelings of affection. Actually no feelings of affection for the one showing it 2 u.
    CHILL is knowing when to be "drama-free" & not use the "L" word so easily.

    Any RJ members out there have a hard time dealing w the "L" word?
    What do u do when u want 2 be "drama-free" & "chill" but ur starting 2 develop feelings 4 someone u've been amazingly & enchantedly intimate with? Such a Catch-22. Just putting this thread out there 4 those who want 2 get into it.....
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    Apr 22, 2010 9:21 PM GMT
    Only to say
    YUP to 1 and
    YUP to 2 and
    YUP on 3,

    The L word to me spells a strong level of commitment and dedication. It is not easily given nor accepted. ...There is plenty of give in seeking it. Love, that is.
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    Apr 22, 2010 9:38 PM GMT
    This thread is about Lube, right?
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    Apr 23, 2010 5:56 AM GMT
    Nothing wrong with a stance on love, however I'm severely cloyed by the amount of profiles that throw the other two words around. Just sounds so generic. "Chill, down-to-earth drama-free guy here blah blah blah...." Egh.
  • jrs1

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    Apr 23, 2010 7:14 AM GMT
    Ciarsolo saidNothing wrong with a stance on love, however I'm severely cloyed by the amount of profiles that throw the other two words around. Just sounds so generic. "Chill, down-to-earth drama-free guy here blah blah blah...." Egh.

    don't forget " straight-acting. " that's always a good one ...
  • TannerMasseur

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    Apr 23, 2010 3:03 PM GMT
    I know. Seems developing feelings is a no-no. No feelings of attachment allowed. Just hot sex! Long's we're on the same page & there's no strings, everything's fine n' dandy & happy-go-lucky, ur a keeper & the relationship can be maintained & remain as is & nothing more. Call it what u want: steady-teddies, fuck-buddies, friends w benefits, casual, etc. Hmmm, sounds like a new thread: "keepers vs casual" or "keepers vs creepers"......