I guess I'm a love guy ..

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    Jan 27, 2008 7:34 PM GMT

    Most gay guys like to have sex, one night stands and enjoy life.. I guess I'm one of the minority who don't ..

    The last guy I had sex with him was cute, can always make me smile and feel comfortable.. although we barely talk and have done it only once..
    few days ago I talked to him online and asked to meet him again ..
    but he said that it was just a one night stand and it's enough ..

    I cried? ... well, yes ... icon_sad.gif

    Maybe I like him.. I know he has a boyfriend but I felt the need to spend some more time with him ..

    Am I being too romantic? too unrealistic?? is there anyone else that think this way?
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Jan 27, 2008 10:21 PM GMT
    I like sex and enjoy life, but not into hookups and one night stands, and I have a partner that I love to bits.

    Not trying to put you down here, but you knew he had a boyfriend, so it was obvious, it was going nowhere.

    You can never be too romantic.

    You were being too unrealistic with that guy, but what your looking for, is not unrealistic.

    Don't cry. Find a single guy that wants what you want. There are some out there.

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    Jan 28, 2008 11:15 PM GMT
    Good advice. In addition, it wouldn't hurt to do a little soul-searching to try and figure out if you have a bigger issue of only being interested in/attracted to guys who are unavailable. I know so many people who are self-destructive in their attractions for a number of reasons, and you don't want to be one of those people.

    All relationships are work, but don't make it harder than it already is.
  • GQjock

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    Jan 29, 2008 11:08 AM GMT
    Chalk this up to this being a learning experience for you
    Don't get all caught up with every guy you hook up with or you might be setting yourself up for a world of hurt

    It's okay to like being emotionally involved with guys you have sex with
    but it can't be with every single one
    Once you find the right guy this won't really matter but until then take a step back until you get the right message back
  • Laurence

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    Jan 29, 2008 11:40 AM GMT
    Your point here would hold more water if the guy you're into hadn't already been in a relationship.

    You can't complain that guys are only interested in one night stands and then tell us this guy already has a relationship.

    You shouldn't be wasting your time and effort on him anyways. Find a single guy of your own and then maybe he'd be interested in something more.

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    Jan 29, 2008 8:52 PM GMT

    THX for the advices... I guess I was in a bad position after I broke up with my boyfriend and I was looking for company, attention or someone to be with ...
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    Feb 05, 2008 6:51 AM GMT
    yep, vulnerability is a bitch and your hand is a friend.

    don't get too carried away... why would you be interested with a guy who cheated on his boyfriend with you?
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    Feb 06, 2008 8:19 PM GMT

    It's not cheating .. he said the're like sex mates more than a couple and in an open relationship ..
    I would never accept to be the "other guy" in this issue..
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    Feb 06, 2008 9:47 PM GMT
    Like you GHoSTa I am a relationship type of guy. So is my brother and his son, must be genetic. I usually found casual sex enjoyable at the time then kind of depressing afterwards.

    If you are the romantic type try and meet guys that are

    a). Of a similar mindset, guys that are in an "open" relationship do not usually fall into that category (not all relationships are that open it is sometimes only one of the couple that really wants it open);

    b). Go to places where you can meet guys and talk to them without the pressure to jump into bed right away, that could mean social organizations, volunteer groups or sports groups. Some people do meet their life mate through casual sex but it really is a shotgun approach that is just as likely to get you jaded and hurt.