Would you date a whore!?

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    Apr 23, 2010 12:50 AM GMT
    Ok honestly!!! the guy I am with now use to be a huge... i mean HUGE whore!!! and it seems like more and more stuff keeps coming up!!! you name it he's done it over and over...

    So im just wondering what your thoughts are on this... anything would be helpful... thoughts, feeling, experiences.
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    Apr 23, 2010 2:31 AM GMT
    awesome, he can teach you icon_biggrin.gif
  • AlexGuess

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    Apr 23, 2010 2:45 AM GMT
    If it's botherin you already that's not a good sign, but whatever wasn't in your time you shouldn't care about it, get to know each other, and make a new impresion of him, BUT if he still is a "whore" be careful.
  • xebec75

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    Apr 23, 2010 3:26 AM GMT
    "whore" = gets paid for sex

    Is that what you mean? Or do you mean that as a free adult male he explored his physical and emotional boundaries in a sexual way with a number of different men?

    You don't know (or didn't share with us) his growing up experiences or psycho-sexual background. Maybe he was raised in a hippie commune where traditionally prudish American attitudes about partnering, intimacy, and sex were not part of his upbringing. Perhaps he was abused and uses sex as a sexual mental salve. Or perhaps he feels like he is a grown man who is in charge of his body and what he does with it is his choice. If he does it in way that isn't malicious, is safe, and treats the other person or people with respect, what's the problem?

    Sounds like he should think twice before dating such a close-minded and judgmental person. Your issues with his past sexual life are just that...your issues. Let's start a thread about that.

    Sorry to be so mean...I just am offended by these old-fashioned, unhealthy, hetero-normative attitudes towards sex and intimacy. It's 2010...we can enjoy our bodies...that's why we have themicon_exclaim.gif
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    Apr 23, 2010 4:17 AM GMT
    Yeah I would date a guy with a long sexual history but admittedly I'm insecure in a lot of ways so it would eventually get to me...ESPECIALLY if he's a "good catch" mentally and physically. I wouldn't get psycho like checking his phone and stuff but it would drive me to insane internally where I'd be thinking how I match up to conquests of his past and how I could continue to compete to keep his interests solely on me...

    As for your guy, people can change...Guys grow up and decide certain things they liked are not interesting anymore...

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    Apr 23, 2010 4:21 AM GMT
    therealjock saidOk honestly!!! the guy I am with now use to be a huge... i mean HUGE whore!!! and it seems like more and more stuff keeps coming up!!! you name it he's done it over and over...

    So im just wondering what your thoughts are on this... anything would be helpful... thoughts, feeling, experiences.



    Nope! there are plenty of nice guys out there for me to complicate my life with a total whore!


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    Apr 23, 2010 8:29 PM GMT
    I would sooner date a whore than I would a prude.
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    Apr 23, 2010 8:33 PM GMT
    therealjock saidOk honestly!!! the guy I am with now use to be a huge... i mean HUGE whore!!! and it seems like more and more stuff keeps coming up!!! you name it he's done it over and over...

    So im just wondering what your thoughts are on this... anything would be helpful... thoughts, feeling, experiences.
    Be glad you don't have to teach him everything.
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    Apr 23, 2010 8:36 PM GMT
    no

    but if you like the lad then meh go ahead
  • JayDT

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    Apr 23, 2010 8:51 PM GMT
    Look we all have pasts. Sometimes those are good sometimes they're not. The bottom line is that he's look at you as his possible future. Can you be man enough to say, sure he made mistakes but those mistakes eventually led him to me, or are you going to let your ego get in the way of something potentially great and judge him for past occurances?

    When we look back at all of our lives, we all have things we regret, things that don't look so great to a potential mate, hurdles to over come. The key for everyone is to not judge that stuff.
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    Apr 23, 2010 8:56 PM GMT
    Labeling someone as a "whore" is really degrading- You should at least respect him for his honesty. If you are insecure about all his sexual experiences and his sexual history, then maybe he is not the right match for you. It so easy to judge someone. Just think how you would feel if you were similarly judged. If you really have genuine feelings for this guy, then you would make an attempt to understand him better. If not, then move on.
  • MuscleComeBac...

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    Apr 23, 2010 9:01 PM GMT
    Well, in spite of the fact that I'm about to piss off a whole bunch of guys....
    ....if it was good enough for a boy from Nazareth, it's good enough for me. icon_eek.gif

    Seriously, do you love him? Are you having fun? Is he focused on you and treating you well? Then have a little faith and know that a ho is just a lover who hasn't been loved by the right guy. Redemption is the gift of those willing not to judge, but be judged first. Sounds like he's judged you hot...so, take note and be happy for how much you redeem something in him that other men have missed.



  • Greygull

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    Apr 23, 2010 9:26 PM GMT
    Both myself and my Boyfriend are both what you would consider whores. did the hook up thing for quite a while before settling down with each-other. and im completely happy
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    Apr 23, 2010 9:30 PM GMT
    Greygull saidBoth myself and my Boyfriend are both what you would consider whores. did the hook up thing for quite a while before settling down with each-other. and im completely happy



    Your 22!!!! how long is "Quite a while"? Six monthsicon_razz.gif
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    Apr 23, 2010 9:59 PM GMT
    I am the "whore" in my relationship, it does make my boyfriend uncomfortable at times. When asked I downplay my experience not because I'm ashamed but because it's hard for him to hear because he's a little possessive and can count the guys he's been with.
    When he's at his best he says I was just practicing for him all those years and to the end that he and I are together and enjoy a very energetic, frequent, full sex life... it's true.
    When he's not at his best he looks like he's about to crawl into himself to get away from me, then he pulls himself together and we laugh about it.
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    Apr 24, 2010 2:58 AM GMT


    Who's scale are you comparing to? You might be my example of a whore and your experience may be no more than two.
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    Apr 24, 2010 3:09 AM GMT
    JayDT saidLook we all have pasts. Sometimes those are good sometimes they're not. The bottom line is that he's look at you as his possible future. Can you be man enough to say, sure he made mistakes but those mistakes eventually led him to me, or are you going to let your ego get in the way of something potentially great and judge him for past occurances?

    When we look back at all of our lives, we all have things we regret, things that don't look so great to a potential mate, hurdles to over come. The key for everyone is to not judge that stuff.


    this.

    i'd date a post-whore or a reformed whore, both of whom would need to have a clean bill of health.

    dating someone who is currently "whoring" is a no go.

    if you like the guy and he's fufilling your needs in other departments, you're just gonna have to compartmentalize his past -otherwise it'll negatively affect y'alls' present and potential future which is no bueno.
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    Apr 24, 2010 3:16 AM GMT
    therealjock saidOk honestly!!! the guy I am with now use to be a huge... i mean HUGE whore!!! and it seems like more and more stuff keeps coming up!!! you name it he's done it over and over...

    So im just wondering what your thoughts are on this... anything would be helpful... thoughts, feeling, experiences.


    Everyone has a past. If you can't deal with his past, then perhaps he's not the one for you.

    I'm no angel. So, I'd be a hypocrite if I rejected a guy just because he has a past. That said, I know who I am now and what I bring to the table. I've changed my ways and would be most comfortable with someone who has undergone a similar transformation.
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    Apr 24, 2010 3:17 AM GMT
    BlkMuscleGent said
    I'm no angel.


    Understatement! LOL icon_razz.gificon_wink.gif

    Of course the quoted poster is correct - history is to be learned from, not feared.
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    Apr 24, 2010 3:23 AM GMT
    Every saint has a past, every sinner has a future.

    Who among us hasn't done things we wouldn't do now in the light of day?
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    Apr 24, 2010 3:25 AM GMT
    RunintheCity said
    BlkMuscleGent said
    I'm no angel.


    Understatement! LOL icon_razz.gificon_wink.gif

    Of course the quoted poster is correct - history is to be learned from, not feared.


    "Understatement?" Excuse me? LOL hahaha
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    Apr 24, 2010 3:25 AM GMT
    I once dated a former prostitute. I didn't care, but it was really funny how he blurted it out on the first date. I just blinked and said "Uh...that's okay."
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    Apr 24, 2010 3:26 AM GMT
    TexDef07 saidEvery saint has a past, every sinner has a future.

    Who among us hasn't done things we wouldn't do now in the light of day?


    Eloquent wisdom. . . .
  • jrs1

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    Apr 24, 2010 3:29 AM GMT
    huh?

    is this one of those play on whomsoever so cast the first stone ... kind of things?

    this thread is confucian.
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    Apr 24, 2010 3:31 AM GMT
    BlkMuscleGent said
    "Understatement?" Excuse me? LOL hahaha


    Said with love, boo. Ha ha ha ha! You know it's a stone I could cast.
    (Of course I was teasing.)