Dating a guy and his profession...

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    Jan 28, 2008 1:09 AM GMT
    I just started dating a guy who is a Emergency Flight Nurse for a large hospital. He is wonderful! Funny, Handsome, Sexy, smart, humble...a very nice guy! My only issue is his job...it is a great job, he makes good money, etc., but he is on call it seems 24/7. This has cut into our time together several times and gets kind of frustrating when we are "in the middle of things"icon_redface.gif. Anyone have any experiences with a man and his profession as an "issue"? Are there any professions that make it too hard to deal with the man of your dreams? Any suggestions? We have talked about it and both understand that it is the nature of his job, but it is still hard to be willing to share him on a moments notice with the rest of the world. The "adreniline junkie" that I have fallen for is fantastic, but I am jelous that the world can have him "on call" and I get what's left.icon_sad.gif
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    Jan 28, 2008 1:23 AM GMT
    Yup, its a pain, but if hes worth it, then just accept it.

    Mine has made offers to leave his job and find another, but I would never ask that nor do I want it.

    A job for a man is very important, specially a job like yours, I am willing to bet he gets a lot out of it.

    Sure it will get in the way some times and it will frustrate the hell out of you, it did me, there where many many times where I thought about leaving, we have had an argument or two over it, but, eventually you will adapt to it and learn to work around it.

    Plus there is nothing like knowing your guy feels good about his job and what he does!!

    If hes as great as you say he is, be happy with the time you spend with him.

    Quality is more important the quantity!!
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    Jan 28, 2008 2:29 AM GMT
    His job is just a part of him as is his family, dog, or intelligence.Gotta decide if you're willing to share him with the world or end up not having that opportunity. Best of luck.
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    Jan 28, 2008 3:07 AM GMT
    Trust me... Being in a public service position, his job is part of who he is. I know, because I am one of those people that have a job that calls me in 24/7. I have had issues in relationships because of this and it is a hassle for my other half, but it is something that got easier as time past in the relationship.In a previous relationship, I actually tried leaving my job for a "normal" job. It actually made the relationship worse because I missed what I really loved doing, an office job was not for me! It is just another bump in the journey of your relationship, it will get easier as time goes on.
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    Jan 28, 2008 3:22 AM GMT
    I've been there. An ex of mine was an intern at a hospital and it seemed he was always on call for the ER 24/7. I felt that same jealousy you're feeling, Sporty_g.

    Eventually, I had to decide if I loved him enough to deal with his job or not, and the more I thought about it, the more I realized that I loved him too much to let his job come between us. After a while, once I realized that, I learned to not stress over him being on call and to make the most out of the "us" time that we did have. We eventually decided to break up because he wanted to follow his dream... to go to Africa and try to help the women and children with HIV... and there was no way I could have uprooted my life to go with him at that time. But while we were together, the relationship we had was clearly worth putting up with him being on call all the time.

    I hope that gives you a little insight or helps in some way...

    Good luck!
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    Jan 28, 2008 4:32 AM GMT
    I know it can be rough, but I don't think it should matter. Part of loving a guy is loving what he does for OTHERS and not just what he does for you. This is a selfless love.
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    Jan 28, 2008 4:50 AM GMT
    Work and Relationships...

    Tough one.

    Tired of seing each other only on leaves and a couple weeks a year; My partner gave up his military (25+ yr) career to spend more time with me.

    He decided to switch careers and went back to school for another degree.

    What we both didn't take into account is how much I travel on business.

    I would highly recommend to anyone thinking about it NOT to change careers, unless you know you would be happy doing something else.

    Don't look at the problems and the time he has to go away... Look at the time he can be there as a precious gift.
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    Jan 28, 2008 5:03 AM GMT
    Years ago on Fire Island I met a beautiful man and it stoked my ego that he seemed into me...and then I found out he was a tobacco lobbyist.

    I couldn't get past the fact, even for a vacation fling.
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    Jan 28, 2008 5:33 AM GMT
    Squarejaw saidYears ago on Fire Island ...and then I found out he was a tobacco lobbyist.
    Fire BAD, tobacco WORSE.
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    Jan 28, 2008 5:40 AM GMT
    Squarejaw saidYears ago on Fire Island I met a beautiful man and it stoked my ego that he seemed into me...and then I found out he was a tobacco lobbyist.

    I couldn't get past the fact, even for a vacation fling.


    Ew! bad bad bad bad! I might be less horrified if he told me he ate puppies and ran a chain of fried puppy restaurants.
  • GQjock

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    Jan 29, 2008 10:55 AM GMT
    Someone said it before...
    a job is part of somebody
    and it's part of the package deal
    Yeah... it does suck when your BF's job gets in the way sometimes but that's just as much a part of him as the color of his eyes or his hair

    I was in a relationship for years with someone who constantly could not get over the fact that I could never take off with just a moments notice...and that in medicine you have certain responsibilites