Guys in their 20's = Not Dateable?

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    Apr 24, 2010 5:38 PM GMT
    First off, I'll admit that topic is probably beaten into the ground.

    Second off, I'll admit that at a brand new 33 years of age I seem to have mostly dated/talked to/hang out with guys younger than me. The reasons why is for another topic post...But its not that there aren't older guys out there that I'd find attractive, cool, intelligent, personable, etc, I just haven't met any of the single ones yet.

    Anyway, a friend pointed out that he thinks the reason that nothing long lasting has developed with the guys I've talked to in the past is because they've all been in their 20's. He said guys at that age can't be monogamous and do LTRs because they are still learning what they want/like, experiencing new things, etc. Especially if they are attractive, in-shape, personable, etc in this digital age where its so easy to cheat...Not a new theory at all, I know...

    I mentioned to him that I'd met plenty of 20+ year olds in relationships so there had to be some out there that were capable of it....He countered by reminding me that those same 20+ year olds in relationships I'd met had all been trying to cheat on their BFs with me...Touché....ugh...

    So my topic question is (re-hashed, I'm sure) this:

    From your experience, do you think guys in their 20's are realistically capable of LTRs in this age of Facebook, Twitter, Realjock, sex sites, txt msgs, IMs, clubs, etc?


  • Midas426

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    Apr 24, 2010 6:05 PM GMT
    Indy404 saidFirst off, I'll admit that topic is probably beaten into the ground.

    Second off, I'll admit that at a brand new 33 years of age I seem to have mostly dated/talked to/hang out with guys younger than me. The reasons why is for another topic post...But its not that there aren't older guys out there that I'd find attractive, cool, intelligent, personable, etc, I just haven't met any of the single ones yet.

    Anyway, a friend pointed out that he thinks the reason that nothing long lasting has developed with the guys I've talked to in the past is because they've all been in their 20's. He said guys at that age can't be monogamous and do LTRs because they are still learning what they want/like, experiencing new things, etc. Especially if they are attractive, in-shape, personable, etc in this digital age where its so easy to cheat...Not a new theory at all, I know...

    I mentioned to him that I'd met plenty of 20+ year olds in relationships so there had to be some out there that were capable of it....He countered by reminding me that those same 20+ year olds in relationships I'd met had all been trying to cheat on their BFs with me...Touché....ugh...

    So my topic question is (re-hashed, I'm sure) this:

    From your experience, do you think guys in their 20's are realistically capable of LTRs in this age of Facebook, Twitter, Realjock, sex sites, txt msgs, IMs, clubs, etc?


    It's a challenge for even guys in their 30's, 40's, and 50's to maintain LTRs in the age of all these social networking sites that are mentioned. In the good ol' days before the Internet, I imagine that a lot more guys by necessity stuck things out because it was a bit harder to find the next great thing. But these days, if you don't exactly think like the other person, the guy is ready to drop you and find someone else.
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    Apr 26, 2010 10:09 PM GMT
    I believe it's possible me and my bf are both 21. In all honesty there are so many types of ppl out there and we often see things through our own personal experiences and beliefs. If you truly want to find someone in there 20's who' commited you have to first believe they exist because they do icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 26, 2010 10:10 PM GMT
    I'm 23...and I'm completely datable...and I completely agree...I don't date guys in their 20's!!!
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    Apr 26, 2010 10:13 PM GMT
    It just comes down to the individual, and I think that gusy in their 20's are busy forging a career, discovering themselves and discovering the world.

    Age alone I don't believe to be the factor, rather where the individual is at in their life, and what that individual wants out of life, i.e. a partner or to continue playing the field.
  • hockeyguy99

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    Apr 26, 2010 10:27 PM GMT
    AussieBody saidIt just comes down to the individual, and I think that gusy in their 20's are busy forging a career, discovering themselves and discovering the world.

    Age alone I don't believe to be the factor, rather where the individual is at in their life, and what that individual wants out of life, i.e. a partner or to continue playing the field.


    I would agree with a lot of what aussi has said. I think a lot of it is not your age specifically but where you are in life and how mature you are. In my opinion I would have to say guys in their 20's are definitely date worthy as long as its what they want. when i am in a relationship its because I want to be with that person. If i or the other starts looking elsewhere, then i would think we have some more serious issues to address.
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    Apr 26, 2010 10:31 PM GMT
    Yes the topic has been beaten into the ground, but it will also continue to be beaten into the ground every month or two, until the very end of time itself. So you're in good company. It seems every person on the planet thinks about this topic and also has an opinion they will then state online.

    So, as a public service for newer folks: I'll distill all the prior trillion RJ threads on the "age" topic to two simple conclusions:

    1) It's obvious to a sack of hair that generalizing people based on their physical age, just like generalizing based on hair or skin color, body type, hometown, "race", profession, political or religious affiliation, favorite sport, etc. etc. ad nauseum sets you up for a complete FAIL as far as any useful information in dealing with REAL people.

    2) On the other hand, such vapid generalizations ALWAYS make for popular and heated discussion topics on the innerwebs.

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    Apr 26, 2010 10:38 PM GMT
    I'm 20 and have one more year of university to go and I'll be out in the real world, free to explore and experience new things. However, I've always been a relationship guy and really don't like and would never sleep around or anything like that. But my point - none of this has anything to do with my age. Like someone said, it just depends where a person is in their life and what kind of person they actually are. I also wouldn't want to date anyone that much older than me. Until I try it, it would just be weird.

    God, I'm way too inexperienced haha
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    Apr 26, 2010 10:41 PM GMT
    Of course not.... guys in their 20's are train wreaks waiting to happen
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    Apr 26, 2010 10:53 PM GMT
    I think 20-29 is too large of an age range to group together. I think people in their later 20's are capable of having a LTR, but guys in their early 20's are more likely to want to play the field and find out what they like, and with good reason.
  • NashRugger

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    Apr 26, 2010 10:55 PM GMT
    I'm 23 and my partner is 44. We've been together for a year and 4 months and have total trust in each other.

    I have no desire to be with anyone else right now because we compliment each other quite nicely. I would never date anyone my age though, 28 and up is for me.
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    Apr 26, 2010 10:59 PM GMT
    MsclDrew saidOf course not.... guys in their 20's are train wreaks waiting to happen


    Except us!
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    Apr 26, 2010 11:06 PM GMT
    collegekid2004 said
    MsclDrew saidOf course not.... guys in their 20's are train wreaks waiting to happen


    Except us!


    Speak for yourself.... I'm a hot mess icon_twisted.gif
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    Apr 26, 2010 11:23 PM GMT
    MsclDrew said
    collegekid2004 said
    MsclDrew saidOf course not.... guys in their 20's are train wreaks waiting to happen


    Except us!


    Speak for yourself.... I'm a hot mess icon_twisted.gif

    I don't know if I'd go so far as to call myself a "trainwreck". Maybe one of the hobos in the cattle car though.
  • EricLA

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    Apr 26, 2010 11:25 PM GMT
    I'd date a guy in his 20s, but would depend on the guy. I could see dating a guy in their late 20s, perhaps their mid-20s if they were pretty stable in their lives. But, in general guys in their early- to mid-20s are still figuring things out. I'm not sure it would be realistic to date someone in that place in their lives. That said, I know people in their 30s and 40s still trying to figure things out. It's about maturity, knowing yourself and what you want, and to some extent experience with the world.
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    Apr 26, 2010 11:28 PM GMT
    MsclDrew said
    collegekid2004 said
    MsclDrew saidOf course not.... guys in their 20's are train wreaks waiting to happen


    Except us!


    Speak for yourself.... I'm a hot mess icon_twisted.gif


    Funny that you mention it...my friends all call me Hotmess...
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    Apr 26, 2010 11:50 PM GMT
    20's are still the age's in which we're exploring. Our sexuality, where we're going with it...what we truly want and a lot of stuff needs to be figured out before we hit an age where we just feel there's no return.

    With that being said, I've been in a relationship for over a year, my first one and sometimes I do think I haven't dated around enough or gotten to do what I wanted to do...but I'm giving it due time...because I'm currently happy and would like to keep happiness as I explore. If it so happens I may have to go away from my partner to be happy, he'll have to understand.
  • Anto

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    Apr 26, 2010 11:57 PM GMT
    Indy404 saidFirst off, I'll admit that topic is probably beaten into the ground.

    Second off, I'll admit that at a brand new 33 years of age I seem to have mostly dated/talked to/hang out with guys younger than me. The reasons why is for another topic post...But its not that there aren't older guys out there that I'd find attractive, cool, intelligent, personable, etc, I just haven't met any of the single ones yet.

    Anyway, a friend pointed out that he thinks the reason that nothing long lasting has developed with the guys I've talked to in the past is because they've all been in their 20's. He said guys at that age can't be monogamous and do LTRs because they are still learning what they want/like, experiencing new things, etc. Especially if they are attractive, in-shape, personable, etc in this digital age where its so easy to cheat...Not a new theory at all, I know...

    I mentioned to him that I'd met plenty of 20+ year olds in relationships so there had to be some out there that were capable of it....He countered by reminding me that those same 20+ year olds in relationships I'd met had all been trying to cheat on their BFs with me...Touché....ugh...

    So my topic question is (re-hashed, I'm sure) this:

    From your experience, do you think guys in their 20's are realistically capable of LTRs in this age of Facebook, Twitter, Realjock, sex sites, txt msgs, IMs, clubs, etc?




    Yes. For people that like to have a lot of sex with different people, I haven't see age as being the main factor for it, it gets used as an excuse a lot though. It just depends on the person imo.

  • Delivis

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    Apr 26, 2010 11:58 PM GMT
    I dont know, I consider myself very datable, but I am willing to accept I may be in a minority there.
  • Anto

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    Apr 27, 2010 12:01 AM GMT
    mswete saidbut guys in their early 20's are more likely to want to play the field and find out what they like, and with good reason.


    What does that mean? Human vs animal sex? Girl instead of a guy?
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    Apr 27, 2010 12:08 AM GMT
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    From your experience, do you think guys in their 20's are realistically capable of LTRs in this age of Facebook, Twitter, Realjock, sex sites, txt msgs, IMs, clubs, etc?


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    Well, it all depends on the guy. There are plenty of guys in their 40s and 50s that don't seem capable for maintaining a LTR. If we are talking about a guy in his EARLY 20s then i think it is going to be natural for him to want to experiment more and date a lot. That being said, I think plenty of guys in their mid to late 20s are ready for and looking for a LTR. I know I was.
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    Apr 27, 2010 12:18 AM GMT
    iguanaSF saidYes the topic has been beaten into the ground, but it will also continue to be beaten into the ground every month or two, until the very end of time itself. So you're in good company. It seems every person on the planet thinks about this topic and also has an opinion they will then state online.

    So, as a public service for newer folks: I'll distill all the prior trillion RJ threads on the "age" topic to two simple conclusions:

    1) It's obvious to a sack of hair that generalizing people based on their physical age, just like generalizing based on hair or skin color, body type, hometown, "race", profession, political or religious affiliation, favorite sport, etc. etc. ad nauseum sets you up for a complete FAIL as far as any useful information in dealing with REAL people.

    2) On the other hand, such vapid generalizations ALWAYS make for popular and heated discussion topics on the innerwebs.



    Yeah I didn't mean for this to come across as the typical "age" Young vs Old topic...I wanted to pose the "Youth Exploration" question this time around...
  • BIG_N_TALL

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    Apr 27, 2010 2:45 AM GMT
    It's funny you mention older guys not liking to date 20-somethings. I'm going on 24 years old, and I am seemingly more attracted to guys in their late twenties or early thirties. I am not particularly interested in many of my contemporaries - I am not sure why. I have always been attracted to older guys - not grandpa types either.

    I have to disagree with the 20-somethings not being LTR material assertion. I know many who are between 22-28 and in LTR... usually with men in their late twenties and early thirties. I do know a lot more 20-30 year old guys who are just as loose as a goose, and will sleep with any man. I've never been this 20-something gay guy - I don't cheat. icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 27, 2010 2:49 AM GMT
    i date guys in their 20s icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 27, 2010 2:51 AM GMT
    To each its own, but i will say stay in ur age range, to avoid any pitfallsicon_eek.gificon_lol.gif