Blame it on the alcohol

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    Apr 25, 2010 6:26 PM GMT
    I think I screwed up last night.
    thing is, I don't go clubbing much and I normally don't drink too heavy, but last night I was w my (supposedly straight) friends at a club w free beer included in the entry, and I went totally overboard. My clothes from yesterday are dirty (which means I must have fallen over), I lost my cell phone (how the fuck did I do that???) so yes, there were blackouts.

    Therefore my recollection of events is quite blurry to put it mildly, but I woke up with a feeling of guilt and an urge to apologize to someone, though not quite sure for what.

    But I just sent an e-mail to my (supposedly straight) friend w an apology based on a sense, that in my drunken state I may have tried to kiss him (yes, he's young and cute looking and he did know I'm gay).

    What I think happened is: music is playing, we start dancing. See some of my straight friends are comfortable enough to dance w a gay guy, they'd even think it's fun to dance a little naughty, grab my ass and stuff as a joke.
    So I think that's what happened, and usually I can control these things, cos I know they don't mean anything by it, but I was too drunk out of my mind this time and I think I crossed a line by getting a little turned on by him and maybe I kissed him. next thing I remember is going home in a cab, so I don't even know how he reacted to this.
    I'm really anxious to see what he replies to my apology. Maybe I shouldn't have sent it. if he was just as drunk as me and didn't remember, I will now have brought it all back to him lol.

    But what it really comes down to is, I'm so shocked and amazed that I, me, myself could actually do something that stupid, even under the influence of alcohol. I mean I've done drunk stupid shit before, but I didn't think I had THIS in me, cos I'm usually quite good at controlling myself. my brain must really have shut off, running on pure instincts.

    any thoughts? similar stories? lost friends?



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    Apr 25, 2010 6:29 PM GMT
    Moral of the story: If you're normally not a heavy drinker, don't drink heavy around guys you wanna fuck...unless you already know the feeling is mutual.
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    Apr 25, 2010 6:29 PM GMT
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    Apr 25, 2010 7:15 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidMoral of the story: If you're normally not a heavy drinker, don't drink heavy around guys you wanna fuck...unless you already know the feeling is mutual.


    that's the thing, I didn't expect I'd get turned on by him. I never lusted for any of my straight friends... if so it must be subconsciously
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    Apr 25, 2010 9:25 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidMoral of the story: If you're normally not a heavy drinker, don't drink heavy around guys you wanna fuck...unless you already know the feeling is mutual.


    Or just don't drink heavy full stop. Doesn't do anyone any good.

    5 years ago I used to get a little too drunk on Sat nights out... lost 7 mobile phones in 12 months... but learnt to stop being so silly and now I never drink too much.

    I actually don't think I can drink more than a few these days.
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    Apr 25, 2010 9:32 PM GMT
    Hey Judoguy, it is probably not as bad as you think it was. I did some really stupid stuff when I was younger and most of the time alcohol was involved. I rarely drink anymore. Your friends were probably wasted too. I wish you the best!!
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    Apr 25, 2010 9:37 PM GMT
    i despise that song
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    Apr 25, 2010 10:05 PM GMT
    Did he reply yet?
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    Apr 25, 2010 10:10 PM GMT
    makavelli saidDid he reply yet?


    no, nothing yet.
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    Apr 25, 2010 10:21 PM GMT
    If he's a good enough friend he probably won't care... or if he does, he won't hold it against you.

    Also, if you treat this like it was so bad, you might convince him that it actually IS bad. I mean, so what, you tried to kiss him.

    Bottom line, he shouldn't hold this against you.
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    Apr 25, 2010 10:26 PM GMT
    Isn't kissing a new judo/mma hold? A form of breath control? icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 25, 2010 10:30 PM GMT
    When I was in college I used to drink heavily...A LOT. My school was kind of a party school and plus I wasn't really out so I just kinda joined in.

    Anyway I have done lots of stupid things while drunk such as losing several phones, my jacket, and my wallet. Once all in the same night. Also my biggest heavy drinking fault is sending stupid drunk texts to people full of random thoughts in my head. I tend to land on one thought when really drunk and completely latching onto it and running with it, even if it isn't really how I feel overall. So I have just kinda cut back on drinking so heavily. It removes the brain to mouth filter which can be dangerous, especially if you have such an overactive imagination as mine.

    I'm sure your friend will forgive you as long as it isn't a recurring behavior.
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    Apr 25, 2010 10:33 PM GMT
    Was your butt sore when you woke up? icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 25, 2010 10:39 PM GMT
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    Apr 25, 2010 10:43 PM GMT
    lmfao...sounds like u had fun dawgicon_exclaim.gif Oh well shyt happens...he will understandicon_lol.gif
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    Apr 25, 2010 10:46 PM GMT
    McGay saidWas your butt sore when you woke up? icon_biggrin.gif


    lol, no. I'm pretty sure no butt sex was involved
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    Apr 25, 2010 10:52 PM GMT
    judoguy said
    McGay saidWas your butt sore when you woke up? icon_biggrin.gif


    lol, no. I'm pretty sure no butt sex was involved


    That explains the guilt.

    I was in a band in college and it always involved a lot of partying. I woke one morning in my bedroom and I realized there was somebody's face inches from my own and when I opened my eyes for the next 10 minutes, even after fully waking, I had to keep asking myself who the girl in my bed was. I was just in my underwear and I didn't want to know what she was wearing. There was a ton of people in the house I shared and I started asking people if anyone know who the girl was. Eventually, out walked Lee, our sax player, a guy. I had no recollection and I never asked.
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    Apr 25, 2010 11:06 PM GMT
    I think we've all had nights like those man dont worry about it. Your friends should understand.
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    Apr 26, 2010 6:12 AM GMT
    El_Flash21 saidI think we've all had nights like those man dont worry about it. Your friends should understand.


    I'm expecting that he will be understanding. he doesn't seem like a guy to freak out over such a thing.

    (he still hasn't replied to my e-mail yet, but I expect he'll check his mail today. good to know it's finally monday so I can get hold of a phone again icon_smile.gif )
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    Apr 26, 2010 6:20 AM GMT
    Nope. Never had a night like that. I don't believe in getting drunk and letting my emotions run rampaging all over the place. I drink but I don't get drunk and yes it is very possible to do.

    You probably got horny and your friend just happened to be there and secretly you probably do have a little thing for him. Guess what the alcohol did for you? It amped it up a notch or two and with your circuits all cross wired something was bound to happen.

    To make it worse he didn't know you were gay but I'm sure he knows now. Fuck it I say. Let him know you are gay and that what happened shouldn't have happened and that you hope it doesn't change the lovely friendship you have (that's asking a lot considering the situation). If it does then oh well. His lose and also let this serve as a lesson for you to control your drinking when around people who don't know you.
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    Apr 26, 2010 6:30 AM GMT
    you shouldnt feel guilty at all, I mean you were wasted, had no control of yourself. Your friend should understand, come on, has he ever tried to hit on girls while being intoxicated?? :i

    if he doesnt then screw him :d(no punt intended)
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    Apr 26, 2010 6:33 AM GMT
    correction to guy101:

    My friends DID know I'm gay before.
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    Apr 26, 2010 6:42 AM GMT
    I read this and I have mixed emotions

    Obviously you had too much to drink and you could have been smarter and controled this... shame on you (slaps your hand). However if it was a true black out then you don't know what happened... point being you should have just come clean like this "Man I was really wasted last night, and I'm sorry if I made a fool out of myself or put you in an awkward position". If nothing happened then your friend would just laugh but if something did happen at least it opens up a forum to talk about it.

    However, I would like to point out that it's too late to use this stratagey because you already admitted what you think you did to your friend. So in the future be a little bit more vague.
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    Apr 26, 2010 6:47 AM GMT
    Don't sweat it too much, you can always laugh it off as the effects of too much alcohol and you just lost control of yourself.

    Most of us have been there and done that, gawd, i have a vague recollection of pole dancing fuelled by too much champagne, grinding that pole icon_redface.gif at a Melbourne Cup race day event
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    Apr 26, 2010 6:53 AM GMT
    Oh? My bad, judoguy.