gonna meet up with the guy I met on the internet

  • Nayro

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    Apr 25, 2010 7:35 PM GMT
    Sooo last topic of mine was about this guy I met on the internet... We chatted for a while and we are gonna meet in Amsterdam. Im going there this thursday. Im kinda nervous though, hes very hot, confident and he has a strong personality. It will also be my first time in Amsterdam going to gay bars and everything will just be new. I don't really know how I have to handle this... I want to meet him, I want to go to Amsterdam, I want to discover the gaybars and how things go there... but it's that nervous feeling inside that has always kept me from doing stuff like this...
    On the other hand, Im 20, I'm independent and can do whatever the fuck I like... Its just a bit frightening I guess.
    I'm quite sure it has to do with the fact that I'm not self-confident at all, I'm the youngest out of 3 kids(by quite the age difference) and have been treated like that for a long time. (nothing traumatic btw)
    Why does it all have to be so difficult, no... better question why am I making this thing so difficult for myself...
    Some people are just able to switch the button in their head, go out, find a guy, have sex, have drugs and do stupid things and they don't even care. I can't do that... Even though it seems very exciting and a little tempting..
    Anyway, I don't know if you can understand the feeling I'm trying to describe here, I hope at least someone does and can tell his story...
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    Apr 25, 2010 10:18 PM GMT
    How long have you been getting to know him?

    How many friends know where you are going?

    Where will you be staying?

    Do you have emergency contacts in amsterdam?

    Are you staying with him?

    Do you plan on getting it on Marvin Gaye style?

    Do you have protection if you do?

    How comfortable are you going to meet someone for the first time without friends?

    Maybe you should take someone along?

    Do you know a martial art?

    Do you have enough money to pay for a quick escape if it's necessary?

    Do you realize there's a chance this guy MIGHT be an axe-murderer?

    Why are you meeting him in Amsterdam?

    Will you meet in public?

    Do you plan on being alone together immediately?


    ...do you see where i'm going with this? Don't do anything stupid. be careful. And keep us in touch while you're there, will you? More importantly, keep in touch with people that you can CALL TEXT and MEET. Update someone every 20 minutes and have the police on speed-dial.


    **I've done something like this - I was talking to a guy for 8 months before going to visit him. Now, A year and 5 months later, and i'm the luckiest guy this side of the pacific icon_razz.gif But you need to BE CAREFUL!!!
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    Apr 25, 2010 10:25 PM GMT

    We want to know your date of return his name, address and tele. If we don't here frm you 24 hrs after date of return we're calling the COPS....So give it up!icon_eek.gif


    Love RJ
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    Apr 25, 2010 10:35 PM GMT
    Be safe but don't fret that much. I've met lots of guys off the net and somehow have all turned out to be wonderful experiences.
  • Nayro

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    Apr 25, 2010 10:35 PM GMT
    Haha, thanks for ur concerns, Im gonna go there the 29th. Im staying with my aunt and uncle who dont live too far away from Amsterdam.

    answers to the questions, allthough I did get the point icon_smile.gif

    How many friends know where you are going?
    0 im not out and Dont want to be out yet

    Where will you be staying?
    aunt and uncle, maybe if we hit it of, his place? (I know wrong answer..)

    Do you have emergency contacts in amsterdam?
    Im gonna go there on a national holiday, theres people everywhere.
    I will not have emergency contacts but there are friends of mine who i can call who will be there, but dont know im seeing him.

    Are you staying with him?
    maybe (Strike 2..)

    Do you plan on getting it on Marvin Gaye style?
    what?

    Do you have protection if you do?
    Hmm i think I just figured what Marvin Gaye style means, there is protection yes.

    How comfortable are you going to meet someone for the first time without friends?
    it will be awkward, weird Im nervous though curious.

    Maybe you should take someone along?
    no

    Do you know a martial art?
    no

    Do you have enough money to pay for a quick escape if it's necessary?
    yes

    Do you realize there's a chance this guy MIGHT be an axe-murderer?
    yep

    Why are you meeting him in Amsterdam?
    Its a national holiday and Amsterdam is the place to be!!

    Will you meet in public?
    yes!

    Do you plan on being alone together immediately?
    Maybe...
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    Apr 25, 2010 10:46 PM GMT
    You seem to be aware of the risks of meeting a total stranger. Good thing that you will meet him in public first. Just don't get drunk and always listen to your gut feelings. If your gut says no, don't go home with him.

    I went home with many strangers and lived to tell the tale.

    Koninginnedag in Amsterdam is so much fun. Even if things don't work out, you will have a blast.
  • Nayro

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    Apr 25, 2010 11:31 PM GMT
    ye! Finally some1 who knows what Koninginnedag is icon_razz.gif

    Though after the disaster that happened last year with Koninginnedag more ppl know about it
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    Apr 26, 2010 12:04 AM GMT
    Tip #1: Have fun.
    Tip #2: Don't be afraid.
    Tip #3: Shit happens, so expect the worst and hope for the best.
    Tip #4: Refer to tips #1 and 2.
    Tip #5: Post nekkid pics if he's hot. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 26, 2010 12:14 AM GMT
    Be cautious and remember that this is someone you know little about. No matter how long you've been talking to him online, you know only half of a person until you see him face to face. Have fun and enjoy getting to know this dude more.
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    Apr 26, 2010 12:25 AM GMT
    Don't be striking, remember i said i've done the same and it worked out wonderfully. It's not a 'bad' idea to get with him (BTW, you lose prestige points for not knowing the marvin gaye reference. Bad Gay!)

    Have fun, make sexy sexy (if it comes to that) and don't be afraid of staying at his place if things DO look good. Just don't get too overconfident too quickly and remember, no 'i love yous' on the first night of sexy sexy icon_razz.gif

    Let us know, keep us informed, and good for you icon_smile.gif
  • starboard5

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    Apr 26, 2010 12:54 AM GMT
    I'm not sure I can understand why you're doing this.
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    Apr 26, 2010 12:58 AM GMT
    You' ll probably feel free ti be why you are far from home and thats good, but remember to be careful, if at any point, as someone else said "your gut saya no, then is no" other than that have fun, I hope you guys really hit it off. Ohh remember be careful with those weed filled brownies! Lol
  • Nayro

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    Apr 26, 2010 8:11 AM GMT
    starboard5 saidI'm not sure I can understand why you're doing this.


    How do you mean?
  • Nayro

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    May 01, 2010 4:04 PM GMT
    k then.....

    The day before I went to amsterdam we were chatting again... big fun, nice conversation, hot too and we were both looking forward to meet eachother. yay. So I asked him for his phonenumber, I told him i'd call him when I was in Amsterdam so he could pick me up and we could go out together and have fun. He gave me his number. Then we talked for 5 mins more and then he went offline out of nothing. He does that pretty often cause his computer sucks and crashes every now and then. So I texted him that I was going ot bed cause I was tired and needed all the energy I could get for the day after... So I went to sleep.

    When I woke up next morning I didn't receive anything back. So I texted him: You know you're allowed to answer with a text message right? icon_razz.gif'' Then I went to college. After college I checked my phone again, nothing. When I was home I thought, ok this is weird, i'll call him. So I did. I got the voicemail of some1 TOTALLY different. I was stunned, shocked and surprised. I called again to see if it was really a different name, and it was. So I went online on msn to see if he was online. He wasnt. I mailed him my phonenumber and also wrote in therre that he was stupid enough to give me the wrong phone number (on purpose or not is still the question)

    I went to my family who live close to Amsterdam cause I was staying there. That night I went to Amsterdam by myself, still hoping he would call. I never went out in Amsterdam before and I now understand why its such a well-known city, it really is a world-city. Unbelievable, but just so you know, if you only have been in Amsterdam, thats totally not how the rest of the Netherlands is like. I felt like a foreigner there, even though its my own capital city.

    I went to the gaystreet, where all the gaybars and stuff is. Even though theres sex, drugs, gaybars, bananabars(where women do stuff with bananas) etc etc scattered around the city, the regulierdwarsstraat is the place to be in amsterdam for gays. So i went in this pub (first time I was in a gaybar aswell) everyone was staring at me, I walked up to the bar, sat down and bought a beer. Still lots of guys were staring at me, even when i looked back they didnt even look away, but just kept staring. Felt kindof awkward, but I guess they were checking me out or something... I had multiple of these experiences that evening.

    When I checked my phone for the last time, the guy still didnt call and I took the last train back to my family... Next day it was a national holiday in the Netherlands so I went to Amsterdam with a friend and we had lots of fun. So it was a good experience, I'm just frustrated that the guy gave me his wrong number(or a fake one) and then didnt call me either... He is online on msn now but his status is on away, so hes not answering. I'm giving him one more chance to explain him self and if he does not proof hes real now, hes on my ignore list...
    I just WANT him to be real so bad cause I really like him...

    So thats the story, thats how it went icon_smile.gif


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    May 01, 2010 4:14 PM GMT
    oh C R A P. I'm sorry this was such a bust, but at least you had a great time otherwise.

    Forget the guy. He's a fake and probably gets off on fooling other people on the www. I'm pretty sure you'll never hear from him again. Whatever he was telling you on the phone and in the chats was not authentic and he had to pull the plug when the time came to actually meet.

    On the positive side, he also wasn't an axe-murderer, who tried to lure you in to kill you...
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    May 01, 2010 4:21 PM GMT
    He was a fake. Sorry about that.

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    May 01, 2010 4:26 PM GMT
    Sorry to hear things did not turn out so well for you. Don't despair, you are so young - there will be another hot guy (or another few dozen) in your life as you move on. The reason all the guys noticed you might be because you're young, tall and have gorgeous eyes. I'm sure you are a really nice guy - from the way you write. There are insincere people around who just want things from us - - and we just have to weed them out and seek the best people. Just be yourself, and get out there - - - something (or someone) good is coming your way.
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    May 01, 2010 4:58 PM GMT
    Oh, I am so sorry this happened to you. There are a lot of fakes out there and most of us have had our share. You seem like you are a really nice guy and I am sure that you will find someone soon. As far as the guys looking at you....you are a good looking guy and you could have had your pick of any of them. icon_smile.gif
  • lozano86

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    May 01, 2010 5:08 PM GMT
    Ouch that sucks. At least you had fun with your friend. And experienced the bar life. They just stared at you. Thats funny
  • Delivis

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    May 01, 2010 5:15 PM GMT
    I hate dishonest flakes.
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    May 01, 2010 5:16 PM GMT
    I can relate,i had a similar situation happen to me, but this guy answered his phone. He just never showed up until the last day of my vacation saying how sorry he was for leaving me hanging. I was so stupid. Don't worry about it there are plenty of men out there, one that is worth your time and energy.
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    May 01, 2010 5:37 PM GMT
    I'm giving him one more chance to explain him self and if he does not proof hes real now, hes on my ignore list...

    Based on your story, he doesn't deserve the one more chance. It's a life lesson. Flakes are everywhere. Sorry you got stuck with one.
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    May 01, 2010 5:53 PM GMT
    Welcome to the world of the internet broicon_twisted.gif Be extremely cautious who u talk to on these websites. People have been killed, robbed and raped. Anyone tells u differently, they're a fukkin liaricon_rolleyes.gif
    Be glad GOD blessed u with a flake, he most likely could have been the serial killer, destined to take ur life. Take from this experience, never give out ur personal info, unless ur positively sure, its a connection. Take life serious, u can be here today, gone tomorrow. Desist all communication with this loser, never ever conversate with him/her again, because u do NOT know who he or she is. Its better meeting people out and about, u know wut ur getting, as apposed to the internet, where be pretend to be something, they're noticon_lol.gif I giving u the best information in this lifestyle u will ever need.
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    May 01, 2010 6:09 PM GMT
    Dude sorry things happened as they did. I also had my fair share of fakers . I chatted with one guy from NYC for about 6months. I even planned a trip to vist him and much like your experience he just disappeared without any contact . A few days later I saw him online and he claimed he had a medical issue come up. I hate to doubt anyone but it just all seemed too fake. I should of realize he was a fake when his number was always blocked from my caller ID, he would never let me call him, and he would never let me see him on cam - ever though he has seen me several times.
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    May 01, 2010 7:08 PM GMT
    Sorry that things didn't go as you hoped they would. On the bright side it sounds like you still had a good time overall and went to your first gay bar and got a lot of attention!

    It is hard to tell what is real or not on the Internet. I will say that I have met two guys from RJ in person (as friends) and in both cases it was a nice experience. So it is possible to find real and nice guys online.

    I've already told you this but you really are a nice looking young man and you seem to be a really nice person also. It is only a matter of time before you find the right guy for you.