Second Chances?

  • hockeyguy99

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    Apr 25, 2010 9:37 PM GMT
    So my ex and I recently broke up. He got scared and ended things, but continued to ignore me for 2 months. Now that he is ready to talk, he wants to get back together.

    Do relationships always deserve a second chance?

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    Apr 25, 2010 10:26 PM GMT
    and what do you want dear
  • calibro

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    Apr 25, 2010 11:31 PM GMT
    nothing ever deserves anything. you listen to your heart and reason and decide what the situation calls for.
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    Apr 25, 2010 11:33 PM GMT
    If you love him, or think you could love him and vice versa then that is all that matters.

    I'm sure there are a lot of circumstances that led him to where he is, committment is a huge thing to some people, so I reckon you should at least hear him out if you think there is a possibility of a future.
  • bobcatman

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    Apr 25, 2010 11:50 PM GMT
    Haha, it seems like all the guys I am causually dating have exs that seem to call them up and wanting to get back. It blows.

    An ex is an ex for a reason, is what all my friends are telling me. icon_twisted.gif
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    Apr 25, 2010 11:51 PM GMT
    You are the ONLY one who can answer that one. That relationship was only between you & him.
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    Apr 25, 2010 11:55 PM GMT
    AussieBody saidIf you love him, or think you could love him and vice versa then that is all that matters.

    I'm sure there are a lot of circumstances that led him to where he is, committment is a huge thing to some people, so I reckon you should at least hear him out if you think there is a possibility of a future.


    Hell no mate. The bloke ignored the OP for two long months. I understand if a guy is scared of commitment, but ignoring someone without an explanation is just fucked up. Be a fuckin man and communicate.
  • leojock1985

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    Apr 26, 2010 12:02 AM GMT
    Honestly I believe everyone deserves a second chance.. people make mistakes and people sometimes learn and realize things post losing people they love even if they are the ones who ended things.

    But you need to communicate with him that what he did was wrong and he needs to admit it and obviously the whole running when committment is a factor has to stop and you won't be his Yo-Yo..

    So overall I say hear what he has to say and give it another shot.. U never know what the possiblities are until try.. so best of luck with whatever you do man!!
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    Apr 26, 2010 12:05 AM GMT
    Aggieboy said
    AussieBody saidIf you love him, or think you could love him and vice versa then that is all that matters.

    I'm sure there are a lot of circumstances that led him to where he is, committment is a huge thing to some people, so I reckon you should at least hear him out if you think there is a possibility of a future.


    Hell no mate. The bloke ignored the OP for two long months. I understand if a guy is scared of commitment, but ignoring someone without an explanation is just fucked up. Be a fuckin man and communicate.


    Thing is, I'd find out what he'd have to say before making the decision. And that is only if I really cared about him.

    A second chance for this relationship might be a beautiful thing, or it may lead nowhere.

    But I would say they need to talk it out and discover how they feel now.
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    Apr 26, 2010 12:10 AM GMT
    In other words he got really horny while going without for two months, and is too lazy to get out and find someone else to fuck.

    There is no such thing as an ex-ex, unless you're one of the very very few.
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    Apr 26, 2010 12:11 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidIn other words he got really horny while going without for two months, and is too lazy to get out and find someone else to fuck.

    There is no such thing as an ex-ex, unless you're one of the very very few.


    Sounds like a story there? icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 26, 2010 12:14 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidIn other words he got really horny while going without for two months, and is too lazy to get out and find someone else to fuck.

    There is no such thing as an ex-ex, unless you're one of the very very few.



    LOL
  • NashRugger

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    Apr 26, 2010 12:14 AM GMT
    Dude, might as well and see what happens.

    IMO, if it is just because he misses the sex, forget it. However, if he truly misses you and wants to be with you and tell you "I love you" again, go for it.
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    Apr 26, 2010 12:15 AM GMT
    AussieBody said
    paulflexes saidIn other words he got really horny while going without for two months, and is too lazy to get out and find someone else to fuck.

    There is no such thing as an ex-ex, unless you're one of the very very few.


    Sounds like a story there? icon_smile.gif
    Nope. Promise. Never had that experience.

    *watches for lightning*
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    Apr 26, 2010 12:16 AM GMT
    futuresooner saidDude, might as well and see what happens.

    IMO, if it is just because he misses the sex, forget it. However, if he truly misses you and wants to be with you and tell you "I love you" again, go for it.


    Saying "I Love you" means shit. He has to show it..
  • NashRugger

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    Apr 26, 2010 12:20 AM GMT
    That's what I meant, if he is ready to say it and mean it, then go for it.
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    Apr 26, 2010 12:21 AM GMT
    Aggieboy said
    futuresooner saidDude, might as well and see what happens.

    IMO, if it is just because he misses the sex, forget it. However, if he truly misses you and wants to be with you and tell you "I love you" again, go for it.


    Saying "I Love you" means shit. He has to show it..


    Definitely, a long road to regaining trust if he does follow through and takes him back.
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    Apr 26, 2010 12:23 AM GMT
    "Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for." -Bob Marley
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    Apr 26, 2010 2:27 AM GMT
    I bet every one of us knows of a straight couple that got married, divorced, then remarried - maybe even divorced and remarried a second time! Maybe you two are the "can't live with him, can't live without him" type...
  • Celticmusl

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    Apr 26, 2010 2:29 AM GMT
    a_real_person saidI bet every one of us knows of a straight couple that got married, divorced, then remarried - maybe even divorced and remarried a second time! Maybe you two are the "can't live with him, can't live without him" type...


    I call this being a protestant.
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    Apr 26, 2010 2:31 AM GMT
    hockeyguy99 saidSo my ex and I recently broke up. He got scared and ended things, but continued to ignore me for 2 months. Now that he is ready to talk, he wants to get back together.

    Do relationships always deserve a second chance?



    really, you have to ask?
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    Apr 26, 2010 2:33 AM GMT
    Celticmusl said
    a_real_person saidI bet every one of us knows of a straight couple that got married, divorced, then remarried - maybe even divorced and remarried a second time! Maybe you two are the "can't live with him, can't live without him" type...


    I call this being a protestant.


    Lol, my nan in Wicklow would have a heart attack if she heard this.
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    Apr 26, 2010 2:33 AM GMT
    My ex did something similiar. I took him back and he did the EXACT same thing 4 months later.

    My answer is no
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    Apr 26, 2010 3:13 AM GMT
    Don't be so quick to ignore him. See what he has to say however don't jump right back into "getting back together" under the guise that you were connected in the past. You are at 1st base again.

    Most important it's what you want. Can you reclaim what you had? Possibly. But do at minimum find a friendship. Otherwise how would you feel about the previous investment you made? (baring any deceitful lies, cheating etc..) Those things I would find much harder to regain/come to terms with.

    Just my 2-pence!
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    Apr 26, 2010 3:23 AM GMT
    I always think second chances are ok. We are all humans and none of us are perfect. If you expect a relationship in which you give up on the first split... good luck