If you and a married guy were into each other

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    Apr 25, 2010 10:15 PM GMT
    But due your morals you would not give in yet he still wants you, what do you? or do you let him go after aother guy who may happen to be your friend.
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    Apr 25, 2010 10:30 PM GMT
    not a snow balls chance in hell of him getting me into the sack!!!! he can go do what he wants but the other partner sure needs to brighten up and smell the roses unless the relationship is open, he's an arsehole
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    Apr 25, 2010 10:35 PM GMT
    But you are really into that guy, then what?
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    Apr 25, 2010 10:50 PM GMT
    fpkhan saidBut you are really into that guy, then what?

    I don't care if he's prince charming and I'm inlove, I am NOT doing that to another person.. I will not take part in hurting another person like that, the guys other half is having a relationship with this person, they love and trust this person..

    NO.. I don't care how I feel about the guy, I wont do that to the partner!
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    Apr 25, 2010 10:59 PM GMT
    A friend of mine suspected her husband of indielity, she said she didnt care if he was with a man as she felt he may be bisexual, but could not take him being with another woman, eventually turns out he's seeing another woman and my friend divorced him, despite applogising and promising never to cheat again.
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    Apr 25, 2010 11:04 PM GMT
    and that was her decision.. there would have been more behind all of that then you wouldn't know about, she doesn't need to explain everything, her choices are her own and did what she felt was right by her.

    So I take it your either married or your into a married guy
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    Apr 25, 2010 11:15 PM GMT
    Single into a married guy, well there was something for sure, but I guess morals and mostly low esteem held me back, why he didnt pursue the thing full force is beyond me because he appears very confident and aggressive as far as getting what he wants is concerned, maybe inside hes all sensitive and not so sure, and I feel he really loved me I could see it in his eyes and his tone of voice, now he just ignores me literally tries to not even look at me. as for me I feel so guilty about it, especially with the feeling that his wife suspects there was something, even thouigh nothing happened but he made it too obvious, would openly comment on me, praise me, say things that were not appropraite in company.

    Yes that was the weirdest he would say such things always when a third person was around, never alone so I could respond.
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    Apr 26, 2010 1:01 AM GMT
    fpkhan saidBut you are really into that guy, then what?


    It sounds like you've already made up your mind.

    It doesn't matter the circumstances. This is one of those black and white things: do you sleep with a married man causing him to cheat on his wife, or do you take the high road and tell him no.

    People do things like this every day and convince themselves they're the exception to the rule because they have a special connection with the other individual. No one is an exception to the rule, if you sleep with him, its still wrong.
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    Apr 26, 2010 3:58 AM GMT
    Poor wife and kids (if they have any)
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    Apr 26, 2010 4:15 AM GMT
    I would NEVER get involved. Put yourself in the position of the other person in the relationship. Would YOU want your bf to do that to you?

    It's hard to let go, but do NOT ruin someone else's life for something that isn't worth it.
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    Apr 26, 2010 4:16 AM GMT
    Ask yourself this question.

    If you were a married person and found out that your significant other was cheating on you would you be ok with that? It's a pretty simple no brainer.

    I've too much self respect for myself to do something like that to myself or to another person and what's stopping the person you are really into from doing something scandalous like that to you. Nothing really because what goes around, comes around.

    Why would you want to be into someone who has no values. He's married and breaking every rule in the book. What chance do you have at being happily into someone who could just as easily cheat on you if he finds someone else who's really into him (figuratively and literally).

    Not worth it but if you wanna be that guy formally known as a home wrecker then more power to you. Whatever wakes you up and let's you sleep easy I guess. This incident is very similar to the one I replied to the other day about with the guy who slept with his best friends BF....another no brainer.
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    Apr 26, 2010 4:16 AM GMT
    AJeJr88 said
    fpkhan saidBut you are really into that guy, then what?


    It sounds like you've already made up your mind.

    It doesn't matter the circumstances. This is one of those black and white things: do you sleep with a married man causing him to cheat on his wife, or do you take the high road and tell him no.

    People do things like this every day and convince themselves they're the exception to the rule because they have a special connection with the other individual. No one is an exception to the rule, if you sleep with him, its still wrong.


    If his feelings for you are that strong, he would be honest with his wife about his sexuality and you. People will tell you anything to get you to do what they want.
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    Apr 26, 2010 4:25 AM GMT
    oh wow, homewrecker much? dont do it man....well not at least until he is fully true to his partner, you, & himself :i

    but even that just seems wrong imho
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    Apr 26, 2010 4:28 AM GMT
    fpkhan saidBut due your morals you would not give in yet he still wants you, what do you? or do you let him go after aother guy who may happen to be your friend.


    Is the man married to a man or a woman? Is he in an open relationship?

    To give you good advice, we need details LOL.
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    Apr 26, 2010 4:41 AM GMT
    I've known too many people who dated a married man thinking he was going to leave his wife. And maybe he did. But what was acceptable timing for other woman/man was much faster than what the husband was able to deliver. I'd strongly recommend you avoid getting involved with a married man if you can.
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    Apr 26, 2010 4:58 AM GMT
    Don't be the cause of a break up or infidelity...you wouldn't like it if it happened to you , so don't do it to someone else... it's that simple...he is off the market....icon_eek.gif
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    Apr 26, 2010 5:24 AM GMT
    The guy is into you but he is married?

    I think it's a lose lose situation for everyone. I mean the guy is a jerk for cheating on his wife (or in some states husband) and you are just as bad for aiding in the cheating.
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    Apr 26, 2010 5:26 AM GMT
    If I was really into him, I'd hold off for a while, telling him he needed to work things out with his wife/husband. Eventually, running into him everywhere would start to wear me down, and we'd eventually do it in a storage closet somewhere.
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    Apr 26, 2010 5:39 AM GMT
    Been there; done him.
    And his wife approved. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 26, 2010 12:37 PM GMT
    He's MARRIED I would walk away No I would RUN and never look back!
    Only an idiot would knowlingly carry on an affair with a guy who is either partnered or married. It's a road that leads nowhere.icon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gif
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    Apr 26, 2010 1:02 PM GMT
    BlkMuscleGent said
    fpkhan saidBut due your morals you would not give in yet he still wants you, what do you? or do you let him go after aother guy who may happen to be your friend.


    Is the man married to a man or a woman? Is he in an open relationship?

    To give you good advice, we need details LOL.

    BMG, I don't think it makes much difference whether the guy has a wife or a husband. Either way there's somebody who's going to be hurt.
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    Apr 26, 2010 2:05 PM GMT
    Hey fpkhan, this, "Yes that was the weirdest he would say such things always when a third person was around, never alone so I could respond."

    ...tells me he was using you as a prop to hint to others he likes men. I don't think he wanted your response.

    Remember that in many cases, someone that leaves his partner for you is someone who leaves partners for others. Likely you would be the next ex. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug
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    Apr 26, 2010 2:10 PM GMT
    let him go
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    Apr 26, 2010 2:14 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    Remember that in many cases, someone that leaves his partner for you is someone who leaves partners for others. Likely you would be the next ex. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug


    totally agree (again), doug!

    this is what reason would tell you, but unfortunately, penile organs don't listen to reason...it is about the taboo, the chase, the intrigue right now more than true love.

    and to the OP, let's say the guy is gay and really would make a great partner for you. then he needs to come out to his wife, get his life in order, and THEN think about moving in with you. let's say the guy is bi-curious. he needs to tell it to his wife, get the divorce so he can play both sides of the fence (it's hard to be married to a man AND a woman) which would include playing with you too. but first things first...he owes his wife, whom he married and stood at an altar and made a vow to because he "loved" her, the truth.

    if he can't come to terms with the truth, then you need to dump him. if he is a coward when it comes to this, chances are he is a coward in many other areas. bank on it.

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    Apr 26, 2010 2:40 PM GMT
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    ...tells me he was using you as a prop to hint to others he likes men. I don't think he wanted your response. [/quote]

    Hmmm, that is freaky but why would he do that? in our culture its insulting to be into men/boys, I have a feeling his wife knows that hes into men, just a hunch, yes I steer clear of him and know he might do the same to me as I did suspect fishy behaviour between him and a friend of mine a few times, but cant get him out of my system.