Gay Cliché

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    Jan 28, 2008 1:37 PM GMT
    I just turned 40 (, which is awesome, but made me reflect on who I am and what I am up to and why.

    Also recently I re-viewed Kinsey for a class. And this scene again struck me:

    I loved this implication, that we are all different, not just unique but actually, truly different. We create similarities and find patterns to build belonging and community. But these are fictions, narratives we make up from what is okay to say socially and culturally.

    Anyway, carnival is coming up and it is a total blast here. And I came up with a costume and talked a friend into going with me. We are going as a version of heat miser and snow miser from an old American Christmas film called a Year Without Santa Claus

    Except my version of our costumes are simply fur kilts with fur shawls and lots of glitter and shit. It sounded fun when I thought of it, but after the fact I thought, damn, I'm a total fucking gay cliché. You can see the fotos on my profile. I thought to put them up even though they look like the only costumes I can come up with involve skimpy fur.

    Anyway, ALL this is to ask, in what ways honestly are you a "gay cliché." Like anything, costumes you have worn, reasons for working out, places you go, things you do.

    I thought to throw it all on the table for myself and then be cool with it. From here I can see how I am really different, I become free to be be okay being totally myself, as goofy, confused, and disjointed as I am. And then I can give other people grace to do the same thing.
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    Jan 28, 2008 2:29 PM GMT
    Ehh...the reason I workout is for the same reason alot of guys get other guys.
    I feel good about myself when I achieve, but I guess physical achievement adds to it now.

    I'm really not flaming or gaypride at all so I can say I'm really not cliche in that manner.

    Maybe because I'm in band and choir...? icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 28, 2008 2:45 PM GMT
    Laughing to (and about) myself, I'll submit I love:

    buying clothes, wearing stylish togs

    watching men's gymnastics, diving, and figure skating (LOL)

    ballet, opera, classical music

    working out to keep things as attractive as I can (and functioning)

    hitting the sauna and steam room to check out my coworkers-out and "relax"
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    Jan 28, 2008 2:52 PM GMT
    cliché |klēˈ sh ā kli-; ˈklēˌ sh ā| (also cliche)
    1 a phrase or opinion that is overused and betrays a lack of original thought : the old cliché “one man's meat is another man's poison.”
    • a very predictable or unoriginal thing or person : each building is a mishmash of tired clichés.
    2 Printing chiefly Brit. a stereotype or electrotype.
    ORIGIN mid 19th cent.: French, past participle (used as a noun) of clicher ‘to stereotype.’

    I would say that the base characteristics combine in a pattern that any old fool would recognize as "she is so gay". However, a subtler examination reveals that I am way more perverse than that.

    Just as nouvelle cuisine brings the seemingly disparate in peace and harmony (well I suppose that is a matter of opinion too) then I think I have used my clichés to my best advantage.

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    Jan 28, 2008 6:25 PM GMT
    i just remembered a line from Pulp Fiction:

    - You know what's your problem? You gotta PRIDE problem, man. F*ck pride..

    Well, i like people and can be near long enough with those who f*ck cliche and live like they feel - with sense of direction icon_exclaim.gif - maybe 'cause i'm from "creatives" (oh, my stomach writhing icon_idea.gif )

    p.s. cliche is something repetitive.. icon_sad.gif

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    Jan 28, 2008 6:26 PM GMT
    Yeah, what is it the us always feeling the need to "strip" down to the minimal when possible?? Yeah, it's nice to see when a guy is showing skin, yet over the years I've become jaded and somewhat nonchalant about it, it does nothing for me anymore. Like you've seen one scantily clad Gay man, you've seen them all!! Kinda uneventful now.

    And what's up with the pseudo uniform? Jeans and that dumb leather harness?!?!?!?
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    Jan 28, 2008 6:28 PM GMT
    my cliches:

    1) I cant catch a ball.

    2) I dont care