What's with the age cut-offs in profiles?

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 28, 2010 10:36 PM GMT
    I'm not creating this thread to complain about being rejected by younger guys because I'm 34. Men turn me on. Boys don't.

    That said, I'd like to hear how you all feel about age cut-offs in people's profiles. I understand the rationale behind "please be over 18" (who wants to go down for statutory rape?) or "I'm not into guys old enough to be my dad" (my dad's a young 76). I don't, however, understand the seemingly arbitrary age cut-offs. Some guys don't want to hear from guys over 35. For others, the cut-off is 40. I even see these cut-offs in profiles written by guys in their 30s and 40s. The exactness of these cut-offs bewilders me. It's as if these guys are unaware that the age of a man does not dictate completely what he's about or who he is.

    Any thoughts?
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 28, 2010 10:44 PM GMT
    People are free to make whatever rules they want regarding age.
    They are also free to break their own rules, and sometimes do.
    But they're not gonna break their own rules for someone who bitches about them. icon_wink.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 29, 2010 1:31 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidPeople are free to make whatever rules they want regarding age.
    They are also free to break their own rules, and sometimes do.
    But they're not gonna break their own rules for someone who bitches about them. icon_wink.gif

    icon_lol.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 29, 2010 1:46 AM GMT
    BlkMuscleGent said
    Any thoughts?


    You are one good argument against cutoffs. Anyone who would cut you off is a fool. icon_smile.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 29, 2010 9:51 PM GMT
    No responses? Is my inquiry that banal? icon_lol.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 29, 2010 9:59 PM GMT
    Cause they are small minded twats??? dun know, you'd have to ask the person who's limiting himself.
  • roadbikeRob

    Posts: 14380

    Apr 29, 2010 10:09 PM GMT
    Everyone is rightfully entitled to set any expectations they see fit. If a particular man does not want a certain age group, than that is his decision. It might be unfair but after all life is unfair.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 29, 2010 10:10 PM GMT
    I'm only 20 and though i do see what you mean by this. The only reason i would ever say something like that is simply because i would rather date someone close to my age. But aside from that I'd be willing to chat with a, lets say, 35+ year old. I would rule out relationship status things at first only because i simply want someone my age. However you never really know how things go. I'm not into older guys, though i'm not going to lie when i see a hansome older guy and find him very attractive icon_biggrin.gif. The reason why i'd have an "age cut off" is because its not all that often that someone 5 to 10 years older has the same interests as someone thats younger. I normally wouldn't go down in age, but my boyfriend/partner is only 5 months younger than me haha so that doesn't count icon_lol.gif. I normally would have dated guys that were a year to 5 years older than me.

    Some men age like wine. Lets not forget about the "experience" they've got on someone younger icon_redface.gif. Though to be honest sexual activity doesn't really matter to me all that much (though its always good when they know what they're doing). It's all about the personality. I just so happen to get lucky with my guy since his outer appearance matches his inner beauty. icon_biggrin.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 29, 2010 10:23 PM GMT
    For dating purposes I usually use a 12yr older/younger rule. In my own experience I have found that I have less in common with guys outside this range. I would still go out with someone older or younger than my 12yr range but that would be based on the individual.

    For friendship....age doesn't matter.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 29, 2010 10:25 PM GMT
    It's bewildering to me when I see that too.

    But look at it this way: If you were, say, 34 would you date somebody who has a profile saying "NOBODY OVER 35?" I wouldn't... cuz in one short year you know what's gonna happen..... right?



  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 29, 2010 10:26 PM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidAge is not an issue with me at all. Maturity is...icon_cool.gif


    God forbid i agree on the maturity level. I'm trying to get rid of a roommate because of his maturity level. Disrespecful, ignorant, ill willed, negative, egotistical, worthless piece of shit he's become. Was great at first. Till he started drinking.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 29, 2010 10:32 PM GMT
    There are some pretty hot guys out there over 35/40. If folks want to limit themselves because of a number then they could be missing out on some really amazing guys, but I do understand its a personal preference.....I'm happy if you are breathing, if not I can always prop you up icon_wink.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 29, 2010 10:32 PM GMT
    Turned down because you're not part of the under 35 crowd? Then come on over to Ciarsolo! Where anyone under 35 is considered a brat anyway and age just makes it oh so much better icon_wink.gif
  • BIG_N_TALL

    Posts: 2190

    Apr 29, 2010 10:34 PM GMT
    I've noticed this too. I've even done it... but it was early 20s to early 30s range. It was more of a baseline I suppose. To be honest, I am finding a lot of guys in their mid to late 30s that I find hot as hell. I'll have to redo my age requirements... icon_twisted.gif Maturity is all important... and I'm not talking about physical age either.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 29, 2010 10:36 PM GMT
    Ciarsolo saidTurned down because you're not part of the under 35 crowd? Then come on over to Ciarsolo!
    Ok, I'm here. Now what? icon_razz.gif
  • stevendust

    Posts: 398

    Apr 29, 2010 10:42 PM GMT
    I thought 40 was supposed to be the new 30? Why are people still bitching about stuff like this? How about stop acting like the world hates you because of the interest of a handful of men? icon_twisted.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 29, 2010 10:48 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    Ciarsolo saidTurned down because you're not part of the under 35 crowd? Then come on over to Ciarsolo!
    Ok, I'm here. Now what? icon_razz.gif


    Greetings trusted friend! After a short and informative presentation on a limited time offer on AMAZING timeshare deals in Boca Raton we will direct you to the Ciarsolo. Stay tuned!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 29, 2010 10:52 PM GMT
    DjDorchester saidIt's bewildering to me when I see that too.

    But look at it this way: If you were, say, 34 would you date somebody who has a profile saying "NOBODY OVER 35?" I wouldn't... cuz in one short year you know what's gonna happen..... right?





    Crap..and I JUST turned 35... time to update my profile!
  • Timbales

    Posts: 13993

    Apr 29, 2010 11:21 PM GMT
    Please be male, between 35.25 and 36.5, between 5'11" and 6" with medium brown hair, blue eyes and a moderately fair complexion.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 29, 2010 11:21 PM GMT
    I dunno why but would hazard a guess that when most young guys think of men in their 40's and 50's they're thinking about their old man and all his old friends or their teachers or gawd knows who and the reality probably is that dad and his friends etc are not in the best of physical shape and do look like outta shape old men. The guys on here in great shape that are over 35 and 50 are not representative of the general population gay or straight in any way.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 30, 2010 3:35 AM GMT


    Why does it matter? Ppl have lot's of things that they choose for themselves that exclude or include. So do you, so do I and every one else.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 30, 2010 3:36 AM GMT
    I prefer to date people in my general age range. Big whoop
  • silverfox

    Posts: 3178

    Apr 30, 2010 3:39 AM GMT
    I love age cut off profiles.

    Particularly of younger guys, who might have an age cut off on an internet site, or maybe set their "searches" to not go beyond a certain age.

    And then...I might see one at the gym or whatever and they approach or start to chat me up and I have to remind them.......



    "Sorry! but i do not meet your online "criteria"! Too bad!! icon_smile.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 30, 2010 3:49 AM GMT
    Hillie said

    Why does it matter? Ppl have lot's of things that they choose for themselves that exclude or include. So do you, so do I and every one else.


    It ought to matter more than the "would you fuck the guy above you" threads in the forum. icon_wink.gif
  • gymguy81

    Posts: 455

    Apr 30, 2010 3:54 AM GMT
    i have some age criteria im 28 and my target age range is 23-36 i dont think its bad but like i said its a target because i have found that the age range of guys im attracted to Most of the time not to say i wouldent go higher or lower.