I just got chubby chased...

  • DrewT

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    Apr 30, 2010 4:40 AM GMT
    Okay, so I was talking to this guy on IM and he tells me (as stated in his profile) that he likes chubby guys. Not fat he said. Then he tells me how hot I am. I know I'm gay fat, but I don't think I'm that big. As someone trying to become slimmer and more in shape, should I take offense? And to put the "icing" on the "cake" he wanted to watch me it. Since he's attractive I talked to him, but i was a bit put off by him.

    What do you guys think?
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    Apr 30, 2010 4:55 AM GMT
    People have a variety of tastes.
    How you take it is up to you, but personally I'm flattered when someone finds me hot...and I'm gay-fat, which is a step down from where I was (was just fat).

    Being comfortable in your own skin, regardless of body type, adds attractiveness on a subconscious level. icon_smile.gif

    Edit: And if you still don't want him, send him my way. icon_wink.gif
  • DrewT

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    Apr 30, 2010 5:11 AM GMT
    Oh, honey baby child he is batshit crazy. let me tell you.

    And thanks. I used to be fatter, but most people said I wasn't (then again, Americans think big is normal). It's nice to be thought hot, but then where it comes from can be a let down.
  • Iluros

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    Apr 30, 2010 5:12 AM GMT
    You probably should just be flattered that he's attracted to you, though obviously not for the reasons you might like.

    Just take it in stride and continue to make the improvements that you want. As someone who is another kind of niche attraction I encounter the same situation with guys hitting on me. I've chosen to exercise to get my body to a level that I'm happy with. I did the whole "have a relationship with a guy who happens to like skinny twinks" thing and it really only made my self-confidence worse.
  • mcwclewis

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    Apr 30, 2010 5:16 AM GMT
    Simply_Drew saidOkay, so I was talking to this guy on IM and he tells me (as stated in his profile) that he likes chubby guys. Not fat he said. Then he tells me how hot I am. I know I'm gay fat, but I don't think I'm that big. As someone trying to become slimmer and more in shape, should I take offense? And to put the "icing" on the "cake" he wanted to watch me it. Since he's attractive I talked to him, but i was a bit put off by him.

    What do you guys think?



    You're "gay fat"?

    I think you look great.


    I must admit I've never heard the term "gay fat".... though I get what you mean by it.
  • DrewT

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    Apr 30, 2010 5:17 AM GMT
    Iluros saidYou probably should just be flattered that he's attracted to you, though obviously not for the reasons you might like.

    Just take it in stride and continue to make the improvements that you want. As someone who is another kind of niche attraction I encounter the same situation with guys hitting on me. I've chosen to exercise to get my body to a level that I'm happy with. I did the whole "have a relationship with a guy who happens to like skinny twinks" thing and it really only made my self-confidence worse.


    Thanks. I'm working on my body for me, and no one else. Though it's taken me a long time to get to where I am, it still feels like a step back to a worse me, and I don't want to go there agin.
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    Apr 30, 2010 5:23 AM GMT
    What anybody else thinks about you is irrelevant. It's what you think and feel about yourself. Just strive to be the best "you" that you can be.

    Also, from my experience, sometimes there are people who are really very "beautiful" on the outside, but what they have on the "inside" is either emptiness, bitterness, prideful, or some other kind of ugliness. Don't let their feelings of inadequacy and self-loathing acted out by putting you down (so they can feel superior)....don't let it get you down.

    See the miserable mother fuckers for what they are: Ugly.

    Aloha and Be Well!
    Alan

    P.S. You look fine in your pictures, and your profile appears to indicate that you are height/weight proportionate.
  • DrewT

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    Apr 30, 2010 6:27 AM GMT
    Thanks you guys icon_smile.gif
  • Timbales

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    Apr 30, 2010 12:42 PM GMT
    As someone who is losing weight as well, I'd be offended but I wouldn't take it out on him. He has his thing, and that's fine, but I wouldn't want to be a part of it. I hate it when someone says something about my cheeks, it's why I hate smiling in pictures.
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    Apr 30, 2010 12:58 PM GMT
    "gay fat"

    its so sad, but so true.

    why are we all so hard on ourselves?

    my boyfriend constantly comes down on me for being so obsessive about staying healthy as we age. Now of course he has a swimmers body and probably wont ever be any bigger than maybe a size 32 waist, but he is right. we are all way too hard on ourselves.
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    Apr 30, 2010 1:01 PM GMT
    CUTTABITCH! icon_twisted.gif


    HAHAHAHAHAHA!!! Just kidding!


    Take the compliment and RUN with it!
  • shortGymCA

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    Apr 30, 2010 4:06 PM GMT
    I've been known to get angry at my 'larger' friends who are offended when a guy finds them attractive for their size, calling them a cub, or bear in a way that clearly means that the individual thinks they are attractive.

    If you found a guy hot becuase he had great abs or a nice chest becuase thats what your into, whats the difference. People are shallow and fetishize appearance.

    Take it as a compliment and move on, get comfortable wirht your body as it is now and work to change it if you want too change it.

    whoops soapbox.
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    Apr 30, 2010 4:19 PM GMT
    a1972guy saidCUTTABITCH! icon_twisted.gif


    HAHAHAHAHAHA!!! Just kidding!


    Take the compliment and RUN with it!


    Cool and you'll lose the gay fat. Well eerr provided you don't eat icon_cool.gif
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    Apr 30, 2010 4:28 PM GMT
    I don't see anything chubby of fat about you...so don't let that get to you. Your body seems to look great and are good looking.
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    Apr 30, 2010 4:34 PM GMT
    Simply_DrewOh, honey baby child he is batshit crazy. let me tell you.


    If the guy is crazy, I wouldn't rule out his intending to insult you.

    In any case, you look great the way you are.
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    Apr 30, 2010 4:42 PM GMT
    Ignore and get back to the gym, in fact do some extra work outs, to stay off-line, and keep focusedicon_exclaim.gificon_twisted.gif Leave those goons be...icon_lol.gif
  • vindog

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    Apr 30, 2010 4:46 PM GMT


    gay fat...lol
  • ChilaxinJOCK0...

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    Apr 30, 2010 4:50 PM GMT
    What the fuck is "gay fat?" I didnt know there was categories of fat
  • BeachStud2014

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    Apr 30, 2010 4:51 PM GMT
    lmao @ gayfat !
  • Iluros

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    Apr 30, 2010 5:40 PM GMT
    ChilaxinJOCK09 saidWhat the fuck is "gay fat?" I didnt know there was categories of fat


    Apparently there's a discrepancy between mainstream society and the gay community about what constitutes fat.

    That is, if you're straight and could be called average, you'd be 'gay fat.'
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    Apr 30, 2010 5:42 PM GMT
    ChilaxinJOCK09 saidWhat the fuck is "gay fat?" I didnt know there was categories of fat


    thats the same thing i was thinking lol
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    Apr 30, 2010 6:03 PM GMT
    Simply_Drew saidOkay, so I was talking to this guy on IM and he tells me (as stated in his profile) that he likes chubby guys. Not fat he said. Then he tells me how hot I am. I know I'm gay fat, but I don't think I'm that big. As someone trying to become slimmer and more in shape, should I take offense? And to put the "icing" on the "cake" he wanted to watch me it. Since he's attractive I talked to him, but i was a bit put off by him.

    What do you guys think?


    LOL.

    He was playing with ya' Pumpkin.
  • Iluros

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    Apr 30, 2010 6:17 PM GMT
    chuckystud said
    Simply_Drew saidOkay, so I was talking to this guy on IM and he tells me (as stated in his profile) that he likes chubby guys. Not fat he said. Then he tells me how hot I am. I know I'm gay fat, but I don't think I'm that big. As someone trying to become slimmer and more in shape, should I take offense? And to put the "icing" on the "cake" he wanted to watch me it. Since he's attractive I talked to him, but i was a bit put off by him.

    What do you guys think?


    LOL.

    He was playing with ya' Pumpkin.


    You mean like this?
  • DrewT

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    May 01, 2010 12:10 AM GMT
    Iluros said
    chuckystud said


    LOL.

    He was playing with ya' Pumpkin.


    You mean like this?


    Negging, sounds about right!
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    May 01, 2010 12:13 AM GMT
    Well....hopefully he also mentioned your 14 in cock....proving that he needs glasses, LOL