Is 18 a problem?

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    Jan 28, 2008 9:23 PM GMT
    I have heard from a few people that say "Your 18 go away", "call me in 3 years". So I was wondering why 18 (19 in 2 months) is such a big problem. Some 18 yr olds (like me) are more mature than most. We all love the same, live the same.....oh wait some are just stupid kids. But how does one know unless they talk to them, and get to know them?

    So why is it such a big deal that guys are 18 (with proof of ID and legal citizen of the US)? I mean youd think guys would want to talk and be with a 18 yr old, i mean they can have sex for hours, never get tired, and can stay hard for a long time, plus thier dicks are smooth and smell really good haha. Anyway jsut a thought and wondering why 18 is such a big deal....any ideas????
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    Jan 28, 2008 9:28 PM GMT
    It's prolly along the same lines as to why you are biased against bisexual people which you state in your profile, you find it a turn off. People find it to be a turn off when your too young to go out to bars and buy your own alcohol, and the fact your just out of highschool.
  • EricLA

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    Jan 28, 2008 10:02 PM GMT
    When young guys (18+) find me attractive, I'm flattered. And amazed. I might even be convinced to mess around with them, if I'm in a messing-around mood. But, at 41, I wouldn't have greater expectations. It would be unlikely that we'd have enough in common for something long-term. Not impossible, but unlikely.

    I do go for younger, but try to go for guys no younger than their mid- to late 20s (which many people still feel are too young).

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    Jan 28, 2008 10:33 PM GMT
    It's not a big deal really. However keep in mind that you may be the mature one from your friends or the most mature 18 year old out there, however you have yet to have those "years" of life experiences to teach and show you more! Your attention, energy, focus & priorities tend to be in a different order than someone who's in their 20's and yet still different from someone who's in their 30's and so on, it's just simply a matter of experiencing what life has out there.
  • irishkcguy

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    Jan 28, 2008 10:34 PM GMT
    I have a theory: it's possible there may be some kids on there that say they are 18 when they are younger. Maybe guys don't want to have anything to do with 18 year olds for fear they are not really yet legal. Just a thought.
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    Jan 28, 2008 10:39 PM GMT
    When I was 18, I was definately a problem...icon_evil.gif
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    Jan 28, 2008 10:42 PM GMT
    18 is fine when you are 18. It is not at all fine when you are 43. That is just my opinion.

    Like DJBens, I was a boatload of trouble at 18 but then, I still am.

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    Jan 28, 2008 10:48 PM GMT
    DJBens77 saidWhen I was 18, I was definately a problem...icon_evil.gif



    Same here! Amen to THAT!!
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    Jan 28, 2008 10:48 PM GMT
    I tend to find that 18 is only a problem when they havent left education, when they have enterred the real world they tend to be more grounded and mature.
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    Jan 28, 2008 10:49 PM GMT
    irishkcguy saidI have a theory: it's possible there may be some kids on there that say they are 18 when they are younger. Maybe guys don't want to have anything to do with 18 year olds for fear they are not really yet legal. Just a thought.


    Good thought.

    I am flattered when some younger guy chases me; I may even flirt back a little, but because I am happily partnered that is as far as it will go.

    One young guy just about stalked me last fall. It was a little weird, but I ended up helping him out a great deal in the end.

    a1972guy is right though about age differences having a great deal to do with long term compatability.

    Yes, most 18 yo's can go like the energizer bunny, and they are just entering their peak years; BUT - for many - that leaves them with very little else when they stop.

    Be careful what you wish for... there are also a lot of older guys out there who can not wait to take advantage of some 'fresh meat'.
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    Jan 28, 2008 10:50 PM GMT
    ITJock said[quote][cite]irishkcguy said[/cite]I have a theory: it's possible there may be some kids on there that say they are 18 when they are younger. Maybe guys don't want to have anything to do with 18 year olds for fear they are not really yet legal. Just a thought.


    Good thought.

    I am flattered when some younger guy chases me; I may even flirt back a little, but because I am happily partnered that is as far as it will go.

    One young guy just about stalked me last fall. It was a little weird, but I ended up helping him out a great deal in the end.

    a1972guy is right though about age differences having a great deal to do with long term compatability.

    Be careful what you wish for... there are also a lot of older guys out there who can not wait to take advantage of some 'fresh meat'.[/quote]

    Thanks!
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    Jan 28, 2008 10:56 PM GMT
    What??! I was supposed to stop being trouble at 18?

    But seriously, I won't even consider touching 18-year olds unless I know they're really 18.
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    Jan 28, 2008 11:13 PM GMT
    There are many 18 yr olds more mature than many 48 yr olds, so in m opinion it's more about the individual than the age.
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    Jan 28, 2008 11:23 PM GMT
    I would have sex with an 18 yo, but I would be unlikely to date one. This always annoyed me when I was younger (early 20's) but my experience with people in their late teens early 20's is that they're less stable, emotionally more erratic, almost everyone at that age feels like they're 'more mature' than their peers...really it's almost cliche. I'm not saying there aren't some great people who are young out there...but I only have so much time so spend it going for the increased probabilities of connection with people 25+.
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    Jan 28, 2008 11:31 PM GMT
    In response to your question I was just there 3 years ago when people were telling me the same thing!

    So I have to be honest because I considered myself to be mature for my age as well but I have also learned that no matter how mature you are that there are still things in life that you can only learn through living life which means time.

    Don't worry about it in the long run because there are so many years left for us to live.

    Hope this helps a little....
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    Jan 28, 2008 11:31 PM GMT
    Tony:

    There's absolutely nothing wrong with 18 yo. There have been a lot of good answers, but generally I would suggest it's just a preference.

    Yours is a very interesting question...generally the Forums have been about the reverse: Ageism on RealJock; why no one responds to those over 40...50...60? is there life after 30, 40, etc.
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    Jan 28, 2008 11:35 PM GMT
    josh221 saidIn response to your question I was just there 3 years ago when people were telling me the same thing!

    So I have to be honest because I considered myself to be mature for my age as well but I have also learned that no matter how mature you are that there are still things in life that you can only learn through living life which means time.

    Don't worry about it in the long run because there are so many years left for us to live.

    Hope this helps a little....



    Good one!!!
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    Jan 28, 2008 11:37 PM GMT
    There's nothing wrong at all with being 18. It's just that I probably don't want to hang around the same places as an 18 year old, I probably want to see different movies than an 18 yr old, and I would like to share experiences that my partner can relate to.

    It's hard to accept it when your partner reminds you that he wasn't born when Thriller came out etc...
  • GQjock

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    Jan 29, 2008 12:04 AM GMT
    Yeah 18's fine for 18 or maybe 23-24
    but you start talkin to guys in their 30's and 40's it gets kinda eerie icon_eek.gif
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    Jan 29, 2008 12:06 AM GMT
    TonyM75201 ---- Not a thing wrong with 18, as for me I like to associate with all ages, because thats the best way to stay "IN TOUCH" with life and the current times. That does not mean that I think I should jump in bed with everyone I'm friendly with. I like lots of friends !!! but now you know how annoying it is when an older guy makes an appropriate compliment, or just a friendly hello, and the younger guy acts like he's "GROSSED OUT", and seems to "FLATTER" himself by thinking/acting that any contact is a "COME ON" !!! that is extremely annoying !!!
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    Jan 29, 2008 12:09 AM GMT
    Of course being 18 isn't a problem...but do you REALLY know what you want out of life/love/career at 18? I hear that very young guys say "I'm very mature for my age". The way you get "maturity" is not just by aging, but it's about your life experiences.

    My dad was transferred back to Puerto Rico when I was 17 and in the middle of college admissions process. My parents, not willing to disrupt that (I had early admission to West Point), got me an apartment and a car, and sent me money for living expenses. My college experience was not typical - by the time I graduated from the Academy, I had driven tanks, led an infantry squad in war games, jumped out of a C-130, been a mock drill Sargent , and gotten a BS, and I was off into the real Army. I can say that I was more mature than the average 22 year old was.

    When get advances from guys in their 18-25, I'm flattered, but I have to think about myself when I was 25. I think young guys should experience single gay life for a few years before deciding if they want a relationship.

    When I was 23, I did get into a realtionship that lasted 5 years. I broke up with him because I wanted to experience gay life and party, and make sure I wasn't missing out on something. After a few years of that, I was able to definitely say in my mind that a relationship is really what I wanted and I was ready for it.
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    Jan 29, 2008 12:14 AM GMT
    so, for you 18 year old guys why is being over 70 a problem?
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    Jan 29, 2008 12:23 AM GMT
    everyone has their preferences as you have your's laid out in your profile. I hope that if someone sends you a message that doesn't meet your ideals, you treat them as you'd want to be treated.

    When I think 18, I think a decade younger, not as much life experience. Unfortunately, stereotypes exist because people are lazy and don't want to take a moment to see things from a different perspective or get to know someone who fits outside the picture they've painted in their mind of the ideal man.

    It sucks but that's life.
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    Jan 29, 2008 12:23 AM GMT
    i think i already wrot this question, except i wasn't so cocky about why being 18 is awesome. 18-20 is going to suck are you kiding and i have been with other guys my age before. and no they do not all go on for hours and hours When i lost my virginity to a 19 year old back when i was just old enough to work at a mcdonalds he was only able to last no more than 15 minutes. It was a great 15 though and i don't regret it but not all of the "kids" our age are the same. Everybody no matter how old or what ethnic background is different. Oh and not all black men have huge cocks either.
    BTW I know for a fact that i would never be with a man over 70 years old, that's like my dad's age gross. everybody has a preference weather it is age race religion weight or height. We are all just human.
  • klinci3

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    Jan 29, 2008 12:41 AM GMT
    I don't think people treat me any differently for being 18

    I guess it all depends on how you put yourself out there. I don't try to pass myself off as acting a lot older then i am but I don't think I act particularly young either.