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can´t stay hard during topping

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    QUOTE May 02, 2010 12:49 PM GMT
    yesterday my new bf and i had our first sex. It was awesome but i could barley fuck him cause when ever i was topping i couldn´t stay hard. IS there any chance to chance that?
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    QUOTE May 02, 2010 12:56 PM GMT
    You might be a bottom. He might suck at bottoming. You might not be into anal sex. Or any number of other reasons.
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    QUOTE May 02, 2010 2:04 PM GMT
    it's not a good idea to be drinking alcohol before you have sex if that's the case but it could just be anxiety 'cos it's a new relationship and it was your first time together.

    you could try longer foreplay, a cock ring or ron jeremy's technique (squeeze the base of your cock with your index finger and thumb on your half hard cock and try to put it in, then usually the hole will "milk" your cock into hardness). i don't know if it works in anal though.
  • rnch Posts: 10899
    QUOTE May 02, 2010 2:43 PM GMT
    i has similar issues also, haloo...i learned how to bottom.

    now i have an alternative when i can't "stay the course".
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    QUOTE May 02, 2010 4:15 PM GMT
    Yeah I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that you should start bottoming. That's a "Worst Case Scenario" solution, especially if you are not really into that (like me, love you bottoms out there though).

    You may be a Total Top but just have some issues with blood flow. It can happen to anyone at any age.

    There are some health store supplements you could take that have been known to help some people with this issue. It's not guaranteed though. Amino acids like "L-arginine" can help with blood flow and increase your body's nitric oxide which is part of what creates an erection.

    You can also try taking "Horny Goat Weed" which a lot of people swear by.

    Both of those supplements are available in vitamin health stores.
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    QUOTE May 02, 2010 4:18 PM GMT
    First time I tried riding a bike I fell off.
    I am glad I got back on again.

    You don't mention if that was your first time topping. You do say it was your first time having sex with the new BF. It could just be a case of nerves, as erections are fickle things. Keep giving it a go.
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    QUOTE May 03, 2010 5:27 AM GMT
    If at first you fail, try, try again.